Discuss: Share your experiences of success/struggle in getting the sex you want in relationships.
Lots of guys will sexually breadcrumb, they'll give you a tiny bit of what you want sexually just to get you to accept them in your life and stay with them, but they really dont care about your desire or alternatively they prefer to pretend they're meeting it and putting the effort in as if their self image is immune to facts and your voice.
A common strategy is they wont touch you for long periods of time, in hope that your standards will erode so you accept the lazy sex in order to get any sex.
Dont waste your time. I've wasted my entire 20s in that 5 out of 6 guys did this to me, and 6 out of 6 complained and had a shitty attitude. Women need to put our foot down and change this.
So tell him why you're leaving and dont waste your life having your feelings sidelined while they use you and act like it could be love.
Oh and be prepared to be insulted and told you're an unreasonable and or cruel person. It's a common reaction guys throw down and it's an excuse to get you to feel guilty about what you need and having standards. When they react this way, you know it's true that they dont respect you.
And don't get caught in the trap of a guy finally caring once you're about to dump him. A healthy relationship shouldn't require telling your partner you're going to leave them everytime you're not getting your needs met in order to get the right results. Next thing you know you have to threaten them all the time and your "relationship" is constantly off and on and this can make them even more likely to make excuses 'you broke up with me so why would I care anymore' etc.
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