It’s lazy. I’m a stranger to you, you don’t care. I’m not your friend, I’m not your family. Maybe show me that you’re actually interesting to talk to and I’ll want to engage. Stop starting every damn convo with “what are u up to rn??”

“What are your plans for the holidays??” - obviously we’re both putting on our cheery jingle jongle masks and attending some low key family events, tf else you want to know?

Like, if you offer some good conversation and we develop some kind of friendship, I’ll be curious about your day-to-day. Until then, you’re just some boring rando.

If I end up responding at all, I just say “good, thanks for asking”, leave it there and see what they do. Most of em just bounce.