Be vigilant during the holiday season ladies - the ghosts of suitors past will be making their visits shortly 👻

AstridRavenGrae · 2019-12-08T02:42:46+00:00

This is the third repeat-vanisher to pop up this week. It happens like clockwork this time of year, every year as everyone starts to panic about spending the holidays alone. They aren’t thinking about you, they aren’t wanting to step up for you, they are just bored and lonely.

I originally stopped talking to this guy after he disappeared for two weeks, a week or so after a first date. His original returning message above mentioned I would ‘get it’ and I did - I got that I wasn’t a priority at all when he would just disappear like that.

letsberealforamoment · 2019-12-08T02:52:37+00:00

This is why we always say to delete and block forever. We don't need these unpleasant reminders during what should be a joyful season.

Saitschik · 2019-12-08T09:11:46+00:00

I recently replied to a guy I dated for a few months 5(!!) years ago. I ended it because he was lv and lied to me about something important. Also he wasn't good in bed and I lost my interest. He was shattered and tried to win me back but I didn't care.

Now he popped up again after two years of silence to ask how my life is going. I have zero interest in him but answered out of politeness that I am doing well and asked how he is doing .

He disappeared again and didn't answer, it was four days ago. I couldn't care less and I am pretty sure he will reply at some point again and just tries to make himself interesting. It never worked for him that way with me, so I wonder why he doesn't learn.

If men stop answering I am done with them and they rage because they think playing those stunts would somehow increase their value in my eyes. Well, no haha, I just disappear just as quiet.

However I won't reply again on another message of him. I was polite and he wasn't, so I can send him back to nowhere with a good feeling.

TheLastUBender · 2019-12-08T08:55:47+00:00

Ah fuck, the ghost of emotional manipulation past.

jackrusselterror1 · 2019-12-08T10:56:46+00:00

Ha! My ex from high school (almost a decade ago) just messaged me and asked to catch up over coffee after being no contact since 2009. I asked him if he got dumped, and he made up some shit about still living with his supposed ex because she's broke, even though she was still listed as his girlfriend on his Facebook profile.

Why on earth do men think this will work?

Mustardtiger2 · 2019-12-08T02:44:06+00:00

I like to use a simple “shut up” short, sweet and powerful

Title	Be vigilant during the holiday season ladies - the ghosts of suitors past will be making their visits shortly 👻
Author	AstridRavenGrae
Upvotes	24
Comments	24
Date	December 8, 2019 2:37 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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