Things should NOT be that hard

rainisthelife · 2019-11-01T20:40:27+00:00

On the cheat vs leave debate.

Our dating strategy is amoral. If a woman prefers to cheat, especially as a segway into dipping her toes in the water to seeing what else is out there to give her a clearer perspective on her options, then it’s fine. In fact, we encourage it.

What some women need to understand is that when it comes to moving on, for a lot of women, especially ones that have been with their guy for a significant amount of time, it might be difficult for them to just leave everything. What I’ve found is that when they’re encouraged to at least explore their options and see what else is out there, they start to meet more suitable guys and gain a better appreciation for their options and this helps to cut the toxic, harmful ties that they still have with the clearly unsuitable (possibly abusive) man that they’re currently with.

I don’t advice any woman to cheat willy nilly, but it can be a great strategy for women that are having difficulties leaving the one that they’re currently with. And if you as a woman are already cheating anyway, either because you find that it benefits you or whatever other reason, then we’re not going to criticize you for it.

Inez_Honeyfox · 2019-11-01T12:18:29+00:00

I don’t want to be anything like men

CSQUITO · 2019-11-01T13:52:23+00:00

Nah don’t cheat. Leave yes - I feel like society scams us by saying women in relationships are good and women with a high body count are bad. You can have both. Get into a relationship, realise it’s shit, and find a new guy

greensciencegeek · 2019-11-01T14:09:24+00:00

Being single is WAAAAAY better than being in an unhappy relationship.

Aina98 · 2019-11-01T12:20:12+00:00

No need to cheat. Just leave.

CoolMelonade · 2019-11-01T17:10:17+00:00

I think leave is the best answer but also stop telling men you’ll be loyal to them in the first place. If he hasn’t puta ring on it you don’t owe him shit.

rad_daphne · 2019-11-01T13:19:38+00:00

If you aren't happy just leave. No need to cheat. Leaving an unhappy situation isn't immoral.

Side note: I'm now wondering if this is a troll trying to make us look bad.

s_slayer · 2019-11-01T13:46:40+00:00

Yeah no, I won’t lower myself to cheat. I’m very loyal which is why my standards are high as far as who I will commit to.

ThrowAway666xD · 2019-11-01T14:35:55+00:00

Us women are expected to take on the emotional labour of the relationship and wear all the hats: being the responsible accountant, the cleaner, the personal shopper, the assistant who needs to book all appointments or give reminders about upcoming events, the chef, the mother, the nurse, etc.

I’ve just started demanding my partner consider my emotional needs and what could be effecting my day, not just how things are from his perspective. It’s an uphill battle but it’s one worth fighting, as long as the guy is worth investing that time and effort to do so.

If you’re unhappy you should 100% take care of yourself first and foremost.

mountaindewme22 · 2019-11-01T17:10:58+00:00

I'm not in to cheating because I hold myself to a higher standard but because of that I also have zero qualms about ghosting/blocking or dumping a guy who's no longer bringing value to our relationship. Way too many options out there to waste my time on one that's not working.

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Title	Things should NOT be that hard
Author	azngirl7689
Upvotes	32
Comments	13
Date	November 1, 2019 11:37 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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