So this morning, I woke up to tons of comments, DMs, and chats where triggered men insult me, calling me a whore and a POS. Whatever, that's par for the course when you moderate a community with "controversial" content -- controversial because we advocate women learning their worth. That's the cost of doing it when we still have this wretched patriarchy that strives to benefit men at the expense of women.

Anyway, today was different. One of the users DM'd me the link to the following post:

https://preview.redd.it/jwllp49lj5u31.png?width=1764&format=png&auto=webp&s=1549d9e0c445a493b459e881bac25f8dbaf12407

18.5k upvotes in 12 hours?!!?!?!!?

Who knew a post can trigger people so much? 😂 Apparently, men these days can't comprehend the concept of chivalry and happily providing for a woman you're courting. They accuse me of only using men for free food. They don't realize that for me to bother going out with a man, he should demonstrate that he values my time and presence to at the very least, feed me well. I suspect that one of the reasons they get triggered so much is because they see the woman that they go on a date with, not as a potential girlfriend, but as a one night stand or a friends with benefits. Men don't want to invest in a woman like that. So they project that view onto me. They think that I'm the kind of girl who's not worthy of being courted like a potential girlfriend. Bullshit.

There's also a lot of comments saying I'm an incel LARPer because obviously any "woman" using the term Becky is an incel, right? The majority of people out there don't know about femme spaces yet and our terminology, how we adapted certain terminology and owned up to it.

I am thought of as a man... and I don't even get male privilege smh 😭

One of the good things I see about this post being viral is that we'll get an increase of members in this community. To the ladies who just joined us, welcome to FDS! 🤗

Anyways, here's another message I got:

A disgruntled married man feels the need to tell off a young woman in her early 20s for daring to receive free food from her suitors.

This man claims that the only reason we need a "dating" strategy is because we're horrible human beings, that our bad track record with finding a man has everything to do with US and our entitlement with men. He's too narrow-minded, arrogant, and self-absorbed to think that women need dating strategies because we seek to filter out (1) men who don't have a generous spirit, and therefore will be a bad provider to any family you may build with him, (2) men who believe that a woman should either sleep with him by the third date or he's out, (3) men who lead women on, telling them they want a relationship when all they want from her is girlfriend benefits without the commitment and accountability.

Women face a lot of shit in the dating world, especially these days when some feminists have championed equality to the point of disregarding gender roles, oblivious to the fact that some of these gender roles, like a man being a chivalrous gentleman, exist for a reason, because it balances out the inequality that already exists between men and women. Women are already paid less, suffer the brunt of motherhood, plus they're expected to be a great wife to their husband -- yet you want them to court men just as equally by approaching men + plan for dates+ splitting, or god forbid, paying for the whole bill? It's ridiculous.

These feminists who champion for "equality" in the dating world aren't helping women. In fact, they're holding us back! Their "equality campaign" only benefits men and not their fellow women. Deep-down, they are pick me's who like to flatter themselves by thinking that they're independent, badass bitches for splitting the bill with a man. I think the fuck not. The least men can do to court us into being their wife is to show that they can provide for us and that they have a generous heart.

Please feel free to roast this moid. He is a disgusting piece of shit who can't bother to understand women's point of view and instead resorts to calling women who believe in the FDS philosophy all kinds of horrible names.

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The \"prostitute\" accusation never gets old.

Thank you, person #2. I don't sleep with a man unless I'm in a committed and loving relationship with him!

Do be aware these days that when you expect a man to be a provider, to at the very least pay on dates, you're a prostitute. Now personally, I have no problem whatsoever with sex workers, but I know that the word "prostitute" carries a lot of stigma to it, how if you're a "prostitute," you're worthless, disgusting, and that you deserve to be killed and have your body found in the streets. He's calling me this term because I expect that a man show to me that he values me, but apparently any need on my part to do that, to see if materially a man can demonstrate how much he values me, it's a sign that I exchange services for money.

Why is this? Because men expect women companionship and labor to be free. They expect us to look good and have fun with them even though they're not really investing in the relationship. These are the same men who expect women to sleep with them by the third date (or they're out) and they won't even pay for women's goddamn meal in the process. Apparently a woman is only worth feeding after she's already shared her body with him. Our sexuality as women, it's worth a lot, and men will try to devalue it by trying to make it seem like male and female sexuality are equal and that getting sex from a woman shouldn't cost the man any investment of time, energy, money, and affection. They believe that women's sexuality isn't worth much and that a woman should have sex with a man even though he hasn't demonstrated his seriousness and commitment. It's all a ploy of power for men. Don't ever believe them.

This is why we need dating strategies for women. To avoid men who don't want to invest in us long-term and to find a man who will treat us well and who wants us to be in their future. We have an uphill battle in spreading awareness of our philosophy, which gives women the power in relationships, because most things in the world are rigged against women taking back our power and knowing our worth. Society tries to devalue how powerful women really are. We're just as smart as men, plus, we have something that men go crazy for. We have our sexuality, we have our feminine charm. If women one day just wake up and realize that they are more powerful than men and that we can be the one in charge, the world would be a much better place.

I'm a part of this community and another one called /r/Vindicta (a looksmaxxing community for women), and I swear, being in a female-only community is such a different experience from being in a male-dominated community. Women are much more pleasant, there's way less toxicity, and working with other female mods has been pretty efficient. There's less ego involved (common trait of males) and it's more about doing what's best for the community. Now tell me again why men are the ones primarily holding power in this world?

We should be the ones holding it. We'll do a much better job and we'll do things that no man ever can because we're not stuck with the typical male failings of ego, arrogance, and violence. I love and adore all the genuinely good men out there and on the surface, when I'm with my partner, I seem submissive and really feminine, but deep down, I truly believe that women are the superior gender. And I hope someday that all women seriously realize that.