So I did some pretty novice shit over the summer where I told a guy I volunteered with I found him attractive when I didn't really know him as a person. We eventually hung out once and just kissed and did some pretty tame petting. He said he was emotionally unavailable. I told him that I was a virgin, but I just wanted experience because I couldn't do a relationship rn (true, because of busy schedule).

He asked me to let him know if I wanted to hang out again. I was unsure of things (especially since he calls himself non-monogamous and broke things off with his long distance ex-gf because she wanted to move to be closer to him wtf), but I was feeling horny one night and texted him to hang out - which was a month after our first hang out.

He said "sure, I'll get back to you in a min!" and then... no response for 2 WEEKS.

He texts me last Friday and I told him I was sick. He was like "oh damn" and then asked if I wanted to learn how to give a blow job. To be fair, I did say I wanted to try oral stuff, but I was taken aback by the question.

What's horrible is that even though I felt uncomfortable, I played around a bit with him over text and basically said I would do that.

Now it's been a week and HELL NO I am not giving this guy a blow job. like what was I thinking... He's not reliable and he made my volunteering position hell over the summer.

So how do I get out of this situation without looking like a loser or somebody who just toyed with him?

a) ghost him (we kinda still see each other around, so it would be weird)

b) tell him I'm going through a stressful time and just need to focus on school

c) tell him I'm not ready to try any sexual things because my mind is not in the right place

I honestly just want this guy out of my life, but I might see him again, so I don't want things to be weird.