I have been reflecting on the fact that every single boyfriend I’ve ever had has been extremely “low maintenance”. They were always fine with wherever I wanted to eat, whatever film I wanted to watch, whatever plans... I basically was allowed to make all the decisions, which was fine by me because I’m a woman who likes to be in control and do what she wants to do.

Unfortunately, this behaviour was almost always accompanied by low effort.

I have been dating a man who I’d describe as “medium maintenance” so far, and it’s a weird experience. He has opinions on where to eat and what to do. I’m used to always doing what I want, so it’s something to get used to, but it’s also nice not to have to carry the responsibility of organising a good evening and coming up with things to do yourself. He also seems to put more effort into me than previous men, but it’s still early days so I am keeping an eye out for that.

What are your thoughts and experiences with this?