Stop telling men about themselves unless they are paying you to.

juliannawackenhat · 2019-12-27T06:14:16+00:00

Exactly.

Never explain, never complain. Just block and delete.

He either gets it from the get go or he doesn't.

popfriday · 2019-12-27T07:49:03+00:00

I wish an auto bot would link this post every time a well meaning but slightly lost FDS sister posts a screen shot the the wall the text she sent a loser looking for props...

It’s like I love you sister but that will never ever ever be the move.

Based post.

circescircus · 2019-12-27T13:21:37+00:00

Yep.

I'll also add...

When you first talk to a guy, let's say on a dating app. Be friendly, civil and positive-- but the second he turns-- just unmatch or block. Don't go on about what you're looking for, what you want, how you're not compatible. THEY DON'T CARE. They don't even see you as human, they could care less what your preferences, values, wants and needs are.

Any communication with them after they "turn" (whether this happens on the first dating app convo or on a 5th date)-- is a bad idea. They are not looking to understand you, to rectify their ways, or to change. Communicating with men after they show you that they are LV, is at best just a headache and a waste of your time. At worst, they might use information you give them to manipulate the next woman.

A lot of guys are too lazy to bother, because if they're half decent looking, they know they can find a pickmeisha with their next swipe. But if more women on apps wise up-- these men are going to get more manipulative and more patient.

__kamikaze__ · 2019-12-27T17:45:26+00:00

Do anything but send a pressed paragraph. Literally anything - EVEN A DICK PIC- is fine but a monologue.

CRYING. Next time I’m totally doing this 😂

cheetosonmyfeet · 2019-12-27T21:02:29+00:00

Yes!! Amen, sis!

Another reason NOT to tell men all about what they did wrong - they can & will use the info to manipulate the next woman that comes after you. Shitty, LVM aren't out there leveling up and becoming a better man every time a woman tells him what he did wrong. He doesn't need to be told, he already knows he's garbage and he doesn't care. Instead, youre giving him a window into female psyche and he WILL use what he learns to hurt another woman later.

wowthispostissad · 2019-12-27T18:19:29+00:00

Agreed. Stop justifying what you want to men. Explaining something also gives them (in their minds) a chance to argue with you to lower their standards. They think your no is up for debate. If they offer you something you don’t want, say no thanks and move on.

littytitty00 · 2019-12-27T21:17:51+00:00

Yup. Save the words for someone who actually listens.

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2019-12-29T03:01:22+00:00

There's a book called "Why does he do that" by Lundy Bancroft and he describes the thinking behind abusive men. These men know. They know they're being assholes, but this won't help them get what they want and avoid responsibility and accountability.

Besides. If you tell him any information that will "benefit" him, he's just going to use it as a tool to become even more manipulative and entrap another victim. It's better to let them stay shitty and let them remain inexperienced at manipulation. The less tools they have, the harder it will be for them to manipulate effectively. The more you teach them, the better equipped they become at being master manipulators and that's NOT what we're doing here.

Besides. Education isn't free. Make them pay for it or get the fuck outta your face.

ThiccMommy88 · 2019-12-27T08:40:15+00:00

I disagree there is small minority who are clueless and kinda stupid and learned some bs tactics from the internet thinking it would work on women. Please politely tell them what is wrong but i agree for most either block or say hard pass good luck. Most guys btfo when you say that unless they are absolute manchildren believing in no means yes

Title	Stop telling men about themselves unless they are paying you to.
Author	prettygirlgreen
Upvotes	222
Comments	13
Date	December 27, 2019 4:02 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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