Help me respond (Tinder)

vandaalen · 2018-12-06T22:46:24+00:00

Full cringe.

A bet to not complain? Are you 12 years old

i have the same question.

Edit: The idea with the bet is actually not too bad. Should have said "loser pays the first drink" and logged in the date, instead of edgelording around.

horologist2018 · 2018-12-06T22:46:29+00:00

Convo:

Me- Looks like you can handle a long beach walk.. hopefully you can keep up with me 😋

Good enough opener. Personalized, etc.

Her- I’m more of a runner haha so catch me if you can 💁🏾‍♀️

Good enough response.

Me - Unless I see 20k steps/day credentials .. I doubt your chances Tinarra 😏

Nice tease/challenge.

Her - You underestimate me... 🧐

She likes it.

Me- Put your money where your mouth is.. we should make a bet

This could be interesting.

Her- A bet? Of what kind? Haha

She's interested.

Me - Any complaints to stop allows me to choose what colour you dye your hair

This makes no sense. Dye of her hair? Stop? Stop what? Walking?

Her - To Stop what? This is a very vague bet

She's 100% right.

Me - Its pretty clear tbh.. don't complain.. im sure a girl like yourself can handle something that simple

"It's pretty clear" is insulting. You have exchanged exactly 8 messages back and forth, and you're already giving her an actual jab; not a tease. "Don't complain?" The final thing is just sticking to your insult.

Her - Firstly do not ever talk down to me like that and second you said complain about stopping... I can already tell your a fuck boy

She's insulted. A stranger, a guy she doesn't know, is being a douche out of nowhere. You were doing so good, she's thinking, and now you shit the bed. "I can already tell you're a fuck boy" is her saying "You are 100% ASSHOLE."

In this context; asshole does not equal confident. Asshole = some dickhead who talks down to people for no reason, and thinks his shit doesn't stink.

Her - A bet to not complain? Are you 12 years old

Keep up with the insults, why don't you.

Her - I’d rather die the worse death in existence than follow along with something so stupid, I hate guys like you, beauty fades but DUMB is forever

Amen, Sister.

Background- profile shows social abundance (girls/guys) and places me as the "leader". Also shirtless vids and partying. Only one pic since tinder now allows vids. Im not photogenic but im very videogenic.

What are you posting here hoping for?

Your request was "help me respond." Are you trying to salvage this? You can't. You fucked it up. No biggie man, move on, quit being a dickhead on Tinder.

Or was your request to figure out how to insult her more?

Unmatch her. Move on. Treat people better.

bluefingerblue · 2018-12-07T04:37:36+00:00

Why in the world do you think you could savage this? And why would you try? She went full nuclear on you. This is something you might be able to recover from in person, but not through text before meeting.

Which brings me to my point, texting is not the same as in person communication. You can’t get away with the same edgy shit unless you know the girl well. They take it the wrong way.

Quit beating around the bush next time. The bet was an easy transition to setting up logistics for the date. You fucked up.

novalentineforyou · 2018-12-07T07:36:55+00:00

Sorry but I don't think we have a cure for Autism yet

SanPedroLover_ · 2018-12-06T23:19:59+00:00

That you suggested you should have control over how she does her hair (her personal style) is where things went off the rails.

Talinor09 · 2018-12-07T01:38:24+00:00

It’s a stupid bet, you can’t salvage

Psychological_Radish · 2018-12-07T04:02:48+00:00

Exhibit A of why you need to angle for the date in five messages or so. Get to the fucking point, guy. How is all this hemming and hawing accomplishing your goal of nailing Tinder poon?

Also, now is not the time for off-putting jokes. Girls are looking for any excuse not to keep talking to you, and texting isn't an appropriate medium for conveying edgy humor with someone you don't even know. Keep it light and fun. Save that shit for when you meet her.

As to fixing the conversation, you can't. You already shot your wad with this chick.

JustinDX · 2018-12-06T23:15:09+00:00

Yeah I should have taken a different bet.. didnt think i came off as insulting.

Will make sure this doesnt happen again

Title	Help me respond (Tinder)
Author	JustinDX
Upvotes	2
Comments	13
Date	December 6, 2018 10:38 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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