22F who rode every horsey on the cock carousel, wonders why she isn't happy with her BF who treats her so well.... hmm.... 🤔

Legio-SiciliaII · 2020-06-23T04:43:41+00:00

He treats me so well. I know that doesn’t equal treating me well. That was said in back to back sentences. If that doesn’t explain everything you need to know about women I don’t know what will.

Honest_Solution · 2020-06-23T04:44:08+00:00

"I (do not really) love my vegan ex-drug addict older BF who's so nice and sweet with me. I'm quite an alcoholic and a pothead. I also want to sleep around just because I can. Please tell me I'm not a bad person."

leartistoflife · 2020-06-23T05:01:53+00:00

Why is every former relationship of theirs abusive? And why were they always in this relationship for YEARS?

"Ohmagawd but it's hard for abused people to leave their abuser you knoww"

You just couldn't turn the dude into a simp bitch. "Abuse" pfff

Scourmont · 2020-06-23T08:53:37+00:00

I would never ever cheat. Ever.

Oh sweetie, if I had a dollar for every women I've heard say that then go and cheat when the tingles were too hot and heavy to ignore, I could buy the contents of ft Knox.

AngryCockOfJustice · 2020-06-23T04:59:34+00:00

moral of story: treat them well enough to keep them interested.

713_ToThe_832 · 2020-06-23T04:44:22+00:00

Lmao typical early 20s girl honestly. If I were this dude I wouldn't bother with any girl younger than 26, honestly. At least with them some of them are starting to realize they need to settle down in order to prevent hitting the wall before their youthful looks run out and ending up a spinster. The problem is that this girl is feeling the hypergamous carousel instincts (she's only 22, so these instincts are strongest at this age) but realizes that the guy she's """""""with""""""" would be a pretty good provider, most likely. Early 20s girls these days have so many options, and heavens forbid she's actually decently attractive and doesn't have kids. No chance you're getting any loyalty from them.

If I'm this dude I send this girl back to the streets where she wants to be. Too bad he'll probably never be the wiser and realize his girl is feeling stuff like this.

tosernameschescksout · 2020-06-23T07:07:30+00:00

Not attracted to a nice guy. That's a common story with women.
She wants to sow her wild oats while she's young. Common story with women.
She's unsure of commitment. Common story with women.

When you actually know about female behavior, it's REALLY fucking hard to trust them. They can't help but ride the cock carousel until they've hit the wall. They cannot be trusted. The situation isn't helped by the fact that they can fuck any many they want, instantly, by saying yes. Dick available in unlimited variety, quality, and quantity.

If women were attracted to men the way men are attracted to women, men would be the ones playing around. But to stay on topic, it's women who have this going on, and the bottom line is they can't be trusted. They can't be loved. They will screw you over.

They settle down a little bit after hitting the wall, but by then they've had such a glamorous life of infinite sex and high quality attention that it's impossible for them to appreciate being with a normal guy, or even just one guy. She's going to be like a drug addict forever chasing the intensity of her first high.

Aldabruzzo · 2020-06-23T16:05:04+00:00

This happens all the time to men. They get into relationships with women who are just kind of "meh" about them. They date women they get along with well, have some things in common, they are nice and kind to each other, and everything works. But there's just no real sexual spark. There's no real sexual connection.

The thing is that women will write about this anonymously on reddit and talk about it confidentially to their girlfriends. Oh, their girlfriends hear all about how nice and kind and good he is, and how he is so supportive and treats her so well. He is a great guy with a great job and he's... just so nice!

This is why it's very important to recognize when this is happening. Because while reddit and her girlfriends and her parents will hear all about how good and kind and nice you are with your nice job and your nice car and your nice apartment/house and your nice family and your nice nice NICE NICE, she will never say any of this to you.

Here's how you can tell that she feels this way about you. This isn't a comprehensive list, and not all of these may be present. But if you start seeing two or three of these, be on your guard.

1) Her relationship immediately preceding yours was "abusive". Women out of relationships that they believe are "abusive" will massively overcorrect and date men who are "nice".

When she claims he was "abusive", you might believe (and she might kind of make it sound like) he was kicking the shit out of her every other night. You might think he was hitting her, punching her, smacking her around, pushing her down a flight of stairs, with her walking around with black eyes and bruises everywhere, and with her at a prompt care or hospital ER having to get treatment.

But almost all the time, that's not the case. Most Chads and attractive men aren't getting violently physically abusive with their girlfriends or wives. (If they were, it would get noticed, and police would do something about it.) By "abusive", she means:

--he wouldn't commit

--she worked and supported him

--she paid the bills

--he flirted with other women in front of her

--he cheated on her (while cheating is wrong, it's not "abusive")

--he wouldn't do things with her that she liked doing

--he was irresponsible and unreliable, would not do what he said he would do

--lied to her

--they fought a lot, meaning they disagreed on things in and out of their relationship, during which he yelled at her and got in her face

--he told her "no" or otherwise refused to do or be something she wanted

--he drank too much sometimes. He used drugs. (while these things can be quite harmful to the user or to a relationship, they are not "abusive")

--he might have grabbed her arm during a fight once or thrown something at a wall, or broken something

--claims that he raped or sexually assaulted her, yet she continued the relationship. (Usually this is something like "we had sex and I didn't really want to" or "I stopped liking sex with him". It might have been bad sex that she didn't want or like, but that doesn't mean he raped or assaulted her.)

it is one thing to engage in activities that are harmful to a relationship. It's one thing to kill a relationship. It is quite another to be "abusive".

2) You are very different from the kinds of men she dated/fucked before. Be patient. This info will come out. She'll talk about it, you'll see photos, and her GFs will let things slip out. You are responsible and have a job; her prior men were dissolute and underemployed. You have some money in the bank; they were broke. You are average looking; they were good looking. You didn't date much; they had a long sexual history. You have one body type; they have a different body type than you do.

You'll find this to be consistent over her dating history. Social media info abounds. All you need is a set of names, and you can easily find these things out and connect the dots. She will give you everything you need to find out what you need to know. Maybe she had a few relationships with men kind of like you, but it's only a few and they never lasted more than a few months.

3) Her sexual history contains a lot of one night stands and short term relationships. These things indicate impulsiveness, inability to form relationships, and inability or unwillingness to select men suitable for relationships. (How you find this out is covered elsewhere.)

4) She makes you wait for sex at the outset. Self explanatory. You still haven't gotten anywhere physical at all by the fifth or sixth date. You've known her for 2 or 3 months and she will not get physical with you.

5) After the sex starts, it falls off considerably while you're still dating.

6) She starts protesting that "all you want is sex. All you want to do is fuck." This and the previous item will usually lead to her resisting sex, conditioning sex, limiting sex, and restricting sex to certain places, positions, and acts. She will seem to "turn herself off" like a light during sex. She will have sex, but not enthusiastically.

The telltale sign is "no BJs." A woman will not suck your cock if she's not attracted to you. This is especially true if she used to suck your cock, but has stopped doing so or has said "I don't like it" or "i used to like it but I don't like it anymore" or "I'm in a relationship with you now so I don't have to do those nasty things anymore". She likes sucking dick; it's just that she doesn't like sucking your dick, because she isn't sexually attracted to you.

7) When describing you to others, she uses words like "nice, kind, good man, friendly, decent, standup guy, stable, predictable, reliable, has a good job, has his own car, has his own place, will be a good husband, will be a good father." And of course, the number one word she'll use is "NICE." The way this will get back to you is that her friends and parents and others close to her will remark to you about how nice you are, and how good you are, and how she describes you to them as "nice". They'll also remark to you how different you are from the guys she used to date.

8) When describing her prior boyfriends and sex partners, she'll use words like "hot, exciting, fun, dramatic, spontaneous, animal attraction" and will call them assholes or jerks.

Remember that to women, "asshole" or "jerk" mean

--man I cannot control or manipulate

--man who will not do what I want

--man who lied to me and would not do what he said he would do

--man i could not count on or rely on

--man who will not or would not commit to me

--man who was not nice to me and would not give me what I wanted

9) You don't have a lot in common with her in terms of life experience, life trajectory, sexual history, interests, or backgrounds. This is especially true with sexual history (use the slut tells to identify such women). She will have a much wider, more extensive, and more diverse sexual history than you do.

The biggest telltale sign is lack of sexual compatibility. She resists sex, complains about sex, complains about you wanting sex, doesn't seem to enjoy sex with you, seems to dissociate during sex, won't suck your cock. You'll find that the prime problem with these relationships is that for a long time, everything works except the sex.

TheApricotCavalier · 2020-06-23T04:48:44+00:00

hahahaha. Women have no clue how to handle someone being nonjudgemental

NickTesla2018 · 2020-06-23T05:22:07+00:00

She still wants to ride the train to Pound Town. : (

_ImS_ · 2020-06-23T08:25:00+00:00

PostWriter: Stays in an abusive relationship for 40 odd months.

Also Post Writer: Less than 12 months in a stable relationship and we have this drivel oozing from the rectum of the hamster in her head.

_MCMXCVI_ · 2020-06-23T13:28:17+00:00

This is why you always treat women with a baseline of disrespsct and contempt. If you treat them like goddesses they will treat you like a little bitch. It's just the truth. I was a total nice guy to my ex and she had ZERO respect for me. Now, the girl I'm talking to, I hardly text her back on time, I barely hang with her, I ignore her and tease her constantly and she's practically in love with me. WOMEN DO NOT LIKE BEING FULLY RESPECTED, WHETHER THEY ADMIT IT OR NOT.

SomeSqueakyCleanButt · 2020-06-23T13:10:54+00:00

She'll cheat. They'll all cheat if it suits them in the moment. Never believe them when they virtue signal.

ChadInKorea · 2020-06-23T06:23:03+00:00

She rode the CC, now wants to try something “new.” Is there anything new left to try?

Peschkowskaja · 2020-06-23T12:02:51+00:00

“This date was months after I was in an abusive relationship for 3 and a half years”

Oh god, haven’t finished reading the post yet but thats a huge red flag.

You should run as soon as you learn a woman has a history of dating abusive men. It means she won’t love you if you’re a decent guy and love her, she’ll only use you while fantasizing about having sex with her abusive ex boyfriends.

If you’re a decent guy, only date women who are actually attracted to decent guys (which means they’ve only dated decent guys, if they have little to no experience dating that’s fine too). As soon as you hear a woman talk about an abusive ex, it’s time to run and ghost her.

_MCMXCVI_ · 2020-06-23T13:31:17+00:00

"Abuse" also means; she was too much of a coward to leave the relationship that she wasn't satisfied in so she classifies it as abuse because as you all know, if women aren't constantly happy and satisfied, then they basically consider themselves depressed and hating life. There's no middle ground. So they equate the dumbest shit to abuse, thats why so many guys are like "why do girls always say they were abused." Because being unhappy, to them, is abuse. There you have it.

heyyy-kiddo · 2020-06-23T07:33:03+00:00

Whole thing is logic defiying. My head hurts trying to comprehend what I just read. Do yourself a favor and never read something like this again. Gives you headaches.

MattyK414 · 2020-06-23T13:28:11+00:00

This is why you take your sweet ass time with any woman who claims any form of "abuse". They're f*cked up, and will make it to be your problem, in a number of ways.

Arnold_Incelinator · 2020-06-23T11:56:12+00:00

Aaaaaaaa so she is going through ''I'm finding myself.'' phase . Hmmmmmmmmm .

sleepyweaselisawake · 2020-06-23T13:15:42+00:00

She'll never, ever cheat. She's already got a guy picked out and is waiting for him to make a move so she can claim, "it just happened."

iwanttheblanketback · 2020-06-23T12:46:40+00:00

Because the neural pathways become rearranged to any frequent activity to make it easier to do. So it feels normal and other similar behaviors seem off. She was promiscuous long enough that she damaged her ability to have a long term relationship.

Ipride362 · 2020-06-23T13:45:43+00:00

Female has man who treats her like a woman. Wants to be treated like a cum sponge.

11bNg · 2020-06-23T14:27:24+00:00

How can u read that drivel and not come to the conclusion that womens rights was a mistake?

someevilwhitemen · 2020-06-23T12:23:35+00:00

awalt !!!! you can never make a woman happy ever

she has to insist on the fact she will never cheat multiple time ... RED FLAG

Bennyjig · 2020-06-23T13:45:03+00:00

Every single one of these claims an abusive relationship, no way of being smart enough or strong enough to tell when you’re in one and just leave? Lol

Bedtyme06 · 2020-06-23T14:37:19+00:00

Girl: I'm in a great relationship with a man who treats me well.

It's making me feel.. Twitchy.

CursedSurrogate · 2020-06-23T17:27:13+00:00

Do not date a broken woman.

Most women (especially of this kind) are not very self-aware. They are a danger to not only themselves but especially the men who they settle for.

orcrist747 · 2020-06-23T13:27:36+00:00

This is the problem with 20ish year old women in the West. I dated and was left by several such when I was in my late 20s. Women my age by then were in full carousel mode, and thosbolder and wiser were not interesting. Their ridership had not "enriched" them or made them more interesting, just cynical amd jaded. It was not even the sexual past but the emotional baggage I did not want to deal with.

As a guy with a damn good job and high earning potential, reasonable looks, good health, and charm, I never had problems pulling, just keeping. So I listened to the parents and married from the old country. Marriage is never easy, but I get to have my family without this bullshit.

goldmedalflower · 2020-06-23T15:39:04+00:00

Typical nice-guys-finish-last scenario. This what is so comical about 'female dating strategy'. They equate a "HVM" as a simp who bends over backwards with so much fawning and attention but in the real world that type of behavior is a huge turn off to most women.

2020-06-23T17:22:47+00:00

I'm still new to going to bars and... he's been there, done that

That gave me flashbacks to the 21 year old I dated when I was 27.

What even is the alpha response to this? Converting and dating Muslim or Mormon girls?

I love my boyfriend but I'm not sure if I'm actually "in love" with him.

Better destroy a good relationships because I don't feel like a 14 year old with a crush. Sigh.

Jake4523 · 2020-06-23T17:50:08+00:00

Aaaaannnnnnndddddd this right here is why men have little to no faith, respect for women anymore. No matter how good you are, how much you buy her, or how you treat her it isn't good enough.

Tyred_Biggums · 2020-06-23T14:15:36+00:00

She gave the ILYBINILWY speech in the fucking post. Hilarious.

Kerlongsj · 2020-06-23T19:17:46+00:00

So a guy that moves heaven and Earth for her, that does right by her, is everything that she could wish and want for, is just not good for her. She doesn't know if she is in love with this guy that would do anything to make her happy and thus, she wants to know/validate if it's okay to cheat on him because she doesn't think that he is "the one", the magical Prince, the soulmate.

Wake up, life ain't fairy tale and you can make some decent ending out of it. This guy would make sure that you got a good life.

She is contradicting on lines in this whole story. Once more a reason why I do not want a woman in my life. Period.

houseoftolstoy · 2020-06-23T20:25:55+00:00

The answer is quite clear that she does not really love this guy. If she did, she would not be asking these questions. So the answer is yes, just do him and yourself a favor and end this relationship.

Dumloko · 2020-06-24T20:14:11+00:00

TL;DR- I love my boyfriend but I´m not sure if I'm actually "in love" with him.

Ahhh, the old classic one.

Pay attention, those beggining their red pilled path. When a woman says this crappy phrase, it means only one thing: She has zero attraction for you.

Your "nice guy" traits might project her you're certainly a good long term partner prospect, but in her eyes you lack the "alpha badass" traits that gives her the tingles. In her mind she's comparing you with previous or potential future lover/s, like the OP.

So if you hear this same words, RUN.

Edit: Rollo Tomassi briefly explains this phenomenon in this article, applied on a married couple. But we can extrapolate it to general female behaviour.

asdf333aza · 2020-06-25T03:32:46+00:00

Girls: its natural for us to want to explore and try a variety of dicks and other sexual experiences. We need to learn who we are by banging a variety of other people.... I hope you can wait for me.

You want to talk about natural? You think women sloozing around with a variety of partners to learn themselves is natural? Crazy how society was doing just fine for hundreds of years without such an idea.

There is nothing natural about this. The natural thing would be for women to choose a good man to settle down with in her early adulthood when her looks are at their best and her ability to attract a good guy is at it's best. Because naturally, when you have sex and you choose wrongly, there is a possibility that you suffer consequences, your reputation suffers, your family suffers, you suffer, and your child suffers. STDs, expenses, pregnancy, public imagine and another mouth to feed. That's why naturally women had to be more selective when choosing guys. Choosing the bad guy, would of left you as a struggling, disgraced, harlot of a single mother. That's why your grandparents and parents weren't out there whoring around as much as modern women. That's why reputation mattered more back then. That's why it wasn't okay to be a slut. Thats why your parents wanted you to date a nice boy. That's why these old people's marriages lasted longer.

Modern advances made by men for women in the form of welfare, child support and birth control (it was invented by Dr. Pincus, Margaret just gets credit for being the activists for it) basically removed these consequences from females. Basically, allowing women to choose incorrectly as much as they wanted to. They didn't have to look for a life partner who would help raise a family with them. They were free to choose the bad guys and chase "fun" and "excitement" instead of "stability" and "safety", because no matter how much they messed up they had a way to prevent pregnancy(bc) or a safety net to help them raise a child (daddy government). They no longer had to think about the future when they selected who they slept with. *Logic was taken out of the equation and now girls can just move on emotions and people (men and women) are prone to make mistakes when they decide things based on emotions. * And now it's a lot of mistakes back to back. By the time these girls are done with the cc, they're old, they're not as pretty as they once were, they have kids from other men, they can't pair bond, they're mentally fucked up from all their bad boy exes, they're emotionally drained, and their standards are higher, but their value is lower and they just don't bring the things that men value to the table, and yet they want a hvm to settle with them. They think they deserve the world, after squandering the best things that nature gave to them. There is nothing natural about that.

loneliness-inc · 2020-06-24T07:28:35+00:00

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Title	22F who rode every horsey on the cock carousel, wonders why she isn't happy with her BF who treats her so well.... hmm.... 🤔
Author	loneliness-inc
Upvotes	259
Comments	102
Date	June 23, 2020 4:36 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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