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[–]plembbFDS Disciple283 points284 points285 points 3 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link
One of the last straws for me before finding FDS was this disaster of man who love bombed me and then ghosted me after like 2 weeks. He said all the right things and did all the right moves to make me think he wanted something serious, but when I didn’t put out after 4 dates he disappeared. I sat around wondering what was wrong with ME. Lol I was such a fool, nothing was ever wrong with me - he was just a master at manipulation and only wanted one thing.
These guys don’t deserve your energy. Don’t ever blame yourself if someone rejects you - it simply means you’re too good for them and they can’t afford the price of admission.
[–]sofiacarolinaFDS Newbie86 points87 points88 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Thank your past self you didn't put out, though - that wouldve left you feeling SO much worse. You did the right thing and dodged a huge bullet. You didnt give that mf anything of yourself. I've been there so many times except I did put out...it's the worst feeling in the world.
[–]NinoEminesFDS Newbie29 points30 points31 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
sends hugs but you know better now, that's what matters ❤
[–][deleted] 84 points85 points86 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
They always ghost when they realize they can’t manipulate you into giving them what they want. Good riddance!
[–]SlutallititsFDS Newbie43 points44 points45 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This fully made me realize I was being manipulated by someone I dated four years ago. When I told him I was not that type of girl, he was like whatever and we said bye for the night and the next day he ghosted me.
Now I say good riddance.
[–]honeybeerollFDS Apprentice29 points30 points31 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Good for you! It's such a liberating mindset change and I had something similar experience earlier this year, right before I discovered FDS.
Wouldn't say he love bombed me but he said all the right things, said he wanted serious, was very charming. I said no to sex a month in and what really pissed me off is I said I prefer to wait on that kind thing, he said he liked that I felt that way, and then the next day he started drifting off on me. Like what a piece of shit, it wasnt necessary to lie about that. I was so upset for several days, then he sent some real condescending message on valentines day and I was like u know what FUCK this guy. it was such a different reaction than to the previous being ghosted by guys from OLD in that I eventually got angry, and it was so much easier to get over it then.
And guess who got the last laugh? Me, when his stupid ass texted me probably drunk at like 2am 2 weeks later after quarantine started. What a loser, did me a favor ghosting me. Granted I take some blame for getting pretty physically intimate so that it probably looked like I'd be fine with sex that early. I'm not angry that he asked about sex, but it was messed up for him to lie right to my face and then be a condescending coward with the drifting off.
A friend of mine also helped to cheer me up by saying who really wasted their time? You, or the guy who spent plenty of money taking you out on these dates and yet dropped a fine woman? Good way to look at it.
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[–]honeybeerollFDS Apprentice1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh I'd never tell another guy this story :p. Not even a male friend haha. Reading this sub almost daily has been a good reminder to be suspicious and have low expectations. I have good influences from my friends, but FDS is more slap in the face, "girl fr 😑" sometimes which is needed. So I know if I feel like dating again, I will think of this sub and be like "would they roast me into oblivion if I told them about my/this guy's behavior?"
[–]zombierepubican9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Honestly sounds like he was manipulative. You DEFINITELY don’t want that. It takes a special kind of dipsh*t to lead someone on like that.
Be suspicious in life of people who “say all the right things. This is for both men and women.
I’ve been victim of this a few times. Not great
[–]ms_monquisFDS Disciple2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Brava!
[–]corago513FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Same
[–]AhkghblahkgFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
DAMN
[–]SuccessfulShow5Pickmeisha™️0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Daaaaaaamn! Truth !
[–]SeriouslyQuirky0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And yes, you are NOT your situation. Just because someone has u feeling like a fool or had you looking crazy in a situation doesn't mean that's you. It's something you went through yes but a situation does not define you. #YouAreNotYourSituation
[–]lyricthesecondFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes! I love this book BTW.
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