If you're dating someone, how direct should you be about not wanting to have sex early on or until there's a commitment, an emotional connection, etc.? Should you just say "I don't have sex until I'm in a committed relationship," or should you be more subtle about it and go for more a seduction tactic (i.e., don't make it about "commitment" but rather tell them that you go slow)?

Second--I know that the FDS policy seems to be "don't talk about your sexual past," but if you have a low N count, should you mention that when talking about sex? (Example: I've only had one sexual relationship; I waited 8 months to have sex. My mindset with sex had always been ‘wait as long as possible’ and my history reflects that, so I wouldn’t mind mentioning this after I’ve been seeing someone for a while. But maybe it’s overall bad to mention it at all?).