I am going to tell you the story of Mike. Mike is the average red pill lurker, always seeking new ways to convince women that he is a great "Alpha". That’s what the whole PUA community has convinced him he needs to be doing, find ways to raise interest in a girl, and try to apply them in real life, most of the times still being unsuccessful.”How to inspire confidence?” Have a lower voice tonality, always be calm etc etc, we all know the story. “What should I tell girls when I approach them?” “This girl stopped texting me back, how can I get her back?” What is my point? Your main goal should not be learning a set of things you need to do in order to have more success with women, but the improving of the quality of your life. This is why I hate PUA’s and love everybody sharing his piece here. They want you to improve your life, not make cash out of you by telling a list of things you need to put into practice to “Appear more Alpha”. You cannot expect someone to be with you if not even yourself are enjoying time spent alone. You cannot expect somebody else joining your life, if it sucks more than their reality. Had tens of men ask me about how they are supposed to make women like them in one form or another, like “How can I be more fun?”. How the fuck are you expecting to be funny if you are not doing anything fun? Life is not all black and white. Self improvement or decay. Go fucking do shit that you enjoy, try new things out and expand your view. I dare you go to that acting class you’ve always wanted to go for, go on that trip, try to fucking let loose once in a while. Because nobody truly gives a shit about you, besides family and one or two friends at most. Not even that in some cases.

Everybody is so tensed up, but most of you do not realize that in the end, it doesn’t fucking matter. You are going to die, and everything that you have cared about will be forgotten in a couple years. Everybody is so keen on getting girls.Breaking news: You will never get girls if you are acting like a guy that’s not getting girls. You want abundance, but mentally, you come from a place where you have none. “But how am I supposed to act as if I had girls, if I have none?” The biggest difference between a guy that’s fucking lots of girls and a guy that is not, is that he doesn’t care if he gets to have sex with them. A good example would be money. You care so much about 5 bucks when you have none, but never give a fuck about those same 5 bucks when all is well financially. Same principle applies to women, the only difference being that this isn’t money. Women are not that important. Sex is overrated. You don’t need sex to provide for yourself or reach your goals. Realize that it doesn’t fucking matter if you get that girl or not, and the abundance needed will follow, because you, the same as the guy who spins tens of plates, do not give a fuck whether it works out or not.

The whole point of this post is to make you realize that by getting the attributes and the mindset of a great guy, the behavior of a great guy will follow. You can either “Learn five new tricks to show confidence”, or pick up a new hobby and improve your skills regarding it, gaining genuine confidence by getting better. You can either “Learn THE BIGGEST GAME CHANGER for you to be funny”, or live a life full of new adventures, which will automatically give you a wider view on life, have you think outside the box, directly making you the funny guy. Because that’s what being funny is. Saying shit that nobody is expecting. You cannot learn creativity. It’s retarded even trying that.

Do not be like Mike. Do not go for the shortcut. The hard path is worth it, and the man that you will become by following it will agree.

Side note: If anyone is interested into knowing more about this perspective, I will gladly answer more questions. I am going to write more posts also, but cannot adress my whole views by writting a couple posts.