Stats: 23M, 6'0", Don't measure BF: 15-20% range, ~170lbs. Bench: 200 lbs. Deadlift: ~170lbs. Bicep Curl: 40 lb dumbbell each hand.

Reading: I have read 80-90% of the sidebar, Rational Male, Bachelor Pad Economics, and /u/deepstrength's book. Read the Bible several times but always going back

Finances: ~$40k leveraging into a $60k job right now. I have no debt, close to $100k in the bank from investments. I am gaining experience in a highly demanded field and my job prospects look great moving forward.

Spiritual: I do not believe in building oneself up, but many older Christians have remarked positively on my maturity. Friends who are a year or two older than me come to me for advice. Pray multiple times a day, quiet time every other day (working on getting to daily). Still plenty of growth ahead.

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If this is better suited for r/askRPC just let me know.

I have recently moved to a secular area in Europe where I have a good career opportunity for the next few years that fits in with my mission. This is a spiritually dead area, but I am grateful to be connected with one church of about 40 people who live in the Word.

There are some young couples in their mid-late 20s which is good to have some people my age. But there is only one other single, a couple years younger than me, and unfortunately for me she's more beautiful than any of the single girls I have seen at church ever in the US.

I know the temptations of my heart, and I can already sense my mind beginning to develop oneitis. I have reviewed the sidebar post dealing with this, but I was hoping to receive more guidance.

  • I am firmly rooted in my mission to serve Christ, even if I do burn for marriage. A battle I must undergo everyday
  • Theoretically I should have abundance mentality. I know several non-Christian girls here who have been flirting with me and made jokes about what it would be like to sleep with an American. But I have zero interest in them because of their lifestyle, so I feel confined to this one Christian girl who I have only briefly met.
  • The pastor has emphasized to me that there are virtually no other Christians here who are alive in the Spirit which again makes it difficult to develop Christian women orbiters, so to speak and have that shotgun mentality recommended here.
  • I keep sensing my mind falling into the "this is meant to be" trap even though I know it is an illusion. Small church with only two young singles, I show up as she's figuring out next steps in life, she fits my type to an almost uncanny degree, her parents have been very welcoming and seem to like me a lot, etc.

I know the importance of the slow burn when it comes to these kinds of things. It is a possibility, but it is only that at this stage. But my mind keeps returning to it, and because there's always a one week gap between each church service, it leaves a lot of time for my brain to play tricks on me and keep fashioning this oneitis icon.

Advice and guidance on navigating this would be deeply appreciated. I am continuing to work on entering the Word and prayer to direct my heart toward God.

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