What is it like to have actual abundance reality? (no larping)

TheGirlGetter9000 · 2020-08-03T14:25:59+00:00

Quality of the girls: 6-8, only consider 9 to be like top 0.1% aka someone who’s probably famous or at least locally so. Those girls are tough to get without a certain status even if you’re good with women. Even despite this only a few women I’ve banged were LTR-able.

Where do you find them: everywhere. Night game, social circles, while carrying out my day, online dating, etc

How did you get there: a lot of trying and failing + upping my SMV a bit + naturally decent SMV

Oneitis: depends what you think of that as being. I’m in an LTR now and she’s important to me. But I wouldn’t call it oneitis.

Difference: just my mindset. I don’t care about trying with a girl and failing. I don’t care (that much) if my LTR crumbled. It’s a bit of a “next man up” mindset. When the Patriots lose a player they don’t think “oh shit how will we ever replace Lawyer Milloy.” No, they just get another player on the roster and expect excellence, or cut that player and find the next one and expect excellence from him instead. Almost everyone wants to play for the Patriots, and almost anyone the Patriots decide to put out on the field succeeds.

2020-08-03T15:11:42+00:00

Kind of in a cold streak right now due to dealing with some personal issues but had a good rotation with new dates every few days a while ago. The best way to describe it is a sort of contentedness. it's like you have that area of your life handled so your brain allows you relax much more easily.

What are the quality of girls: 6-8's

Where do you find them?: most from tinder but night game and social circle game I've had a lot of success as well

How did you get there? The biggest factor for me has easily been lifting. I'm 25 now and have been lifting for 8 years and sit around 190lbs lean at 6'1. It's a night and day difference in how women treat you when you have muscle. I also try to continually work on my style. Girls want you to have the nice shoes, nice watch, etc. Dressing well isn't as much about conveying wealth as it is conveying status. Another thing that greatly benefited me was having braces. I have girls tell me all the time I have the nicest teeth. If you do teeth aligning/braces and then whiten them you're going to have a good time.

Do you still get oneitis: I never get oneitis anymore but still have emotions. A few weeks ago I was fucking three other girls and went on a date with a girl who I really hit it off with. Made out with her but had to leave due to a time constraint. I never heard back from her. It's not oneitis but it still hurts because you're still human. Even when you're fucking a few other girls you can still get emotions if you really enjoy one girl.

What difference do you see in yourself before and after you got options: much more relaxed. People also treat you differently when they consider you a man who fucks.

TeddyMGTOW · 2020-08-03T14:43:41+00:00

There's average guys walking around The Philippines and Thailand with the abundance mentality. Chad and Tyrone have that in the USA. Its nice to see how the other half live.

Jacked5parrow · 2020-08-03T14:25:11+00:00

It’s tiring. Cool at first, but if poorly managed very tiring. If you have good enough frame, good looking, good game, good value on your own self take Dan Bilzerian approach. Be honest about everything, if a plate breaks get a new one. Less lying and jumps through hoops.

KillYourInnerLoser · 2020-08-04T05:57:37+00:00

Quality: When you've banged 100+ girls you'll stop even referring to "quality", because you'll realise two guys can look at the exact same girl and one will say "She's a 9!" and the other will say "Lol what? She's a 4." The number system is pretty damn useless. I'm very happy with the quality of girls I bang now - that's probably the only metric you need to worry about. Are you happy with the girls you're banging? If so, awesome! If not, work on yourself more until you can bang the girls you want to bang.

Where I find them: Tinder mostly. Sometimes my girlfriend finds girls for us to bang together, the rest of the girls come from my own Tinder. Also banged 9 girls from cold approach but I don't do that as much any more.

How I got there? I wrote it all here: http://killyourinnerloser.com/my-transformation

Still get oneitis? Absolutely not, that doesn't make any sense when you've had a lot of lays. You KNOW you can just jump on Tinder/walk outside and get laid literally any time you want (as long as you're willing to talk to a bunch of girls and "play the numbers game").

Differences now: More confidence, I'm far nicer to girls (because I've lost all the bitterness and anger and I don't really care if they reject me), I look better (I had to massively improve myself in order to get laid), and I'm far happier. I'm nicer to people in general too, and I help other people more (eg on here) - since my needs have already been met, and now I want to "give back" and help others get to where I'm at.

Partner's high N count: It doesn't repulse me. That said, I'll always pick a virgin or low count girl over a high-count, but only because low n-count girls stick around for longer (which is good for me because I don't have to constantly go out and find new girls and I can instead focus on my other missions). Plus I have a lot more fun "teaching" them about sex, BDSM, 3somes, etc - whereas a high-N count girl has usually already tried it all.

Do I mind having an LTR with someone who's experienced? No, because I'm not desperate to keep any girls around. So I don't really care if she's super experienced and gets bored of me and leaves.

Yes, I'd say the only reason you care about high N-counts is insecurity about your own count. I used to be SO DAMN INSECURE and I HATED girls with a high-N count. I called them sluts, whore... I was a bit of an insecure dick. Now I don't really give a shit who she's fucked, as long as she's clean and we wear condoms.

-Andy

goldenpoopstain · 2020-08-03T13:59:18+00:00

I had a good one going of 6-9s and I got onitis for a 7. No regrets, she's super cool. Dating her 3 years later. Found my girls in clubs, tinder, and cold approach.

What's it like? Imagine being at a buffet. Maybe they run out of pepperoni pizza. You love pepperoni, but pineapple is good too so you get that. Eventually you forget all about pepperoni. As much as you love pepperoni, you limit yourself to 1 slice so you can go enjoy some supreme. Etc.

Jdamoftruth · 2020-08-03T15:22:59+00:00

I'm a swinger that is popular in a certain demographic fantasy.

I get invited to sex parties just to fuck women and travel. It's great, so great in fact I jump on tinder periodically just to be stay grounded and humble and to experience what an average guy would go through.

I wouldn't say getting new options is easy, per se, but it is way, way easier than the typical tinder, coffee, get ghosted experience or chasing entitled fat, single moms.

The women vary from average looking to super hot.

I find them on swinger websites or play parties.

I got into play parties by an invite from a lady I fucked who recommended me.

I don't get oneitis, although I do have fuck buddies I like more than others.

Before, the struggle was so real, big time FOMO and I just couldn't really get any traction going with women or regular sex.

Now I have good regular sex and I'm pretty happy.

acoltismypassport · 2020-08-04T04:59:56+00:00

Currently in an LTR, but that doesn't affect my abundance mindset. Should she leave me tomorrow, I'd be back on the prowl the same hour. All women are replaceable, and true abundance mentality comes when you KNOW, from experience, that you can go out and acquire new ass like you would order up Chinese food.

OttoVonBismark71 · 2020-08-03T19:02:14+00:00

It's the same as life as a woman.

Natural_Singer · 2020-08-03T14:09:00+00:00

Still had oneitis for the top top girls and that’s something that took a while to get over. Porn just lost is appeal all together since there was no need for it. Ego was huge

catz123456 · 2020-08-03T18:49:10+00:00

Any pussy get's boring after awhile so we need to acquire more. However, when you have atleast 3-4 hot ones to fall back on, getting more is easier cause your mentality, the way you express your thoughts and words just come out different. There's no desperation, thirst or pressure to land this new one but you know it will happen. That's the goal of abundance, well that and easy access to a variety of sexual partners of course.

Secret_Twitch · 2020-08-03T15:07:10+00:00

what difference do you see in yourself before and after you got options

Abundance reality allows you to truly not give a fuck. When my wife is giving me shit, I don't give one fuck, I go spend time with my mistress. When she is being a brat, I call up my sugar baby. Last resort is my sugar mama. You truly hold the power when there isn't a damn thing they can do to get to you.

what are the qualities of girls?

Each of them provide something different in my life, and I provide something different for each of them.

where do you find them? how did you get there?

Long story bro

do you still get oneitis?

Lol I guess yeah to a certain extent. My sugar baby is the hottest out of all of them, 22 y/o and a solid 9. It can never work for us for real, we both know it, but she fucks me like a porn star. It's psychology bro you always want what you can't have.

DerekMorganBAU · 2020-08-03T19:25:44+00:00

Qualities? Got a white gurl that got her shit together for the most part. She just bought a new car too. She's fun and never pushy. Always makes herself available to me.

My baby mama is cool. Alwaya down for whatever, whenever. She's my ride or die and my "main" squeeze.

My 3rd is always a combo of a random online bitch that I fuck locally like once or twice in awhile. They hit me with that "I need your dick" and I'm like "omw" and that's that.

They're all cute. All 7s.

Found the first one at college, my baby mama I approached her when she was working like 6 year ago ago, and my third is alwaya an online bitch.

I never had or got oneitis. Makes zero sense to me. Why care so much about one bitch? I just move the fuck on. It's nothing to me. I've had to rebuild my rotation three times now with my baby mama as the only constant. You just keep gaming.

No N-count doesn't matter. That's one thing I'll never understand with dudes. An LTR doesn't mean shit, it's not marriage. LTRing a high n bitch =/= wifing up a hoe. An LTR can end because she pissed and didn't wipe properly and you ghosted her. Aint nuthin wrong with that. Stop being spergy over LTRs and just don't get married. Simple.

Title	What is it like to have actual abundance reality? (no larping)
Author	DreadingBanana
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Date	August 3, 2020 1:39 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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