How do you get over feeling used

Miss_Insher · 2020-01-16T00:13:18+00:00

I think everyone here has been used or deceived by a man at least once. Honestly, next time, you have to trust your instincts. Anyone can be easy prey to people that are master manipulators, it's not just you. Listen to your intuition. Don't rationalize away red flags. That's the climate today. Men will use women as stepping Stones to get whatever they want- ego supply, sex, emotional needs met, transactional relationships, etc

And I wish we could go back in time and see it. Sometimes it just takes experience to notice these types of things. Trust me, I would give a lot to go back and fuck over the person that degraded me. So, you're not alone. But people like that meet their match one day, eventually they're going to end up being the prey to someone that plays the game better. They walk a fine line

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2020-01-16T03:06:17+00:00

Do everything in your power to prevent a tragedy but if the tragedy happens anyways, then don’t let a good tragedy go to waste. Learn as much as you can from it and maximize the learning and growth you can extract from it.

A lot of women, including me, have suffered tremendously at the hands of romantic partners and some of us almost lost everything before we learned from our mistakes 😞😔.

Let’s be VERY blunt here: there are some women who will go their entire lives dealing with male bullshit and too many women will be killed at the hands of their SO.

I want you to be kind to yourself. You did the best you could with what you had at the time, and if you’d known better, you would have done better. If you knew better and still didn’t do better, then it just meant that you didn’t yet master your decision making skills and emotional regulation (or self esteem, or self efficacy and confidence).

It’s okay to make mistakes and learn from them. Be kinder to yourself and focus on growth, learning, and moving forward

Diamondsareagirlsbff · 2020-01-16T00:27:46+00:00

Build yourself up now, and be ready in case he tries to boomerang. At some point in the future he may try with you again, you will get the satisfaction of rejecting him. Don’t fixate on it, just know you’ll be stronger and happier the more you continue on your new path, and you will become immune.

kaoutanu · 2020-01-16T06:46:01+00:00

When you lose the game, don't lose the lesson too.

The pain you're feeling is growth. Pain is nature's motivator, it stops us from stagnating, and from making the same mistakes over and over.

The pain will pass. The growth is yours forever.

Miss_Insher · 2020-01-16T09:30:09+00:00

Just learn from your bad experiences and keep frequenting this sub. You will learn so so much.

janeaustenfan99 · 2020-01-16T19:31:16+00:00

Figure out where you went wrong and don't make the same mistakes going forward.

Title	How do you get over feeling used
Author	Miss_Insher
Upvotes	43
Comments	17
Date	January 15, 2020 11:20 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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