Erm, so how do you actually let them know you are multiple dating without ‘rubbing it in their face’?

understatedalways · 2020-01-15T22:43:00+00:00

Just tell him that you have plans with your friends. You aren’t required to tell him you are dating other men, and I would advise against it. Unless you both have deemed you are exclusive, it’s none of his business.

aclumsygirl · 2020-01-15T23:00:41+00:00

You have other plans, and that's all you say. Until he's committed to be your boyfriend in an exclusive relationship, it's absolutely none of his business what you do in your free time.

traditsh · 2020-01-15T22:55:00+00:00

I would tell him that I have other plans. There's no reason to get into the details of it being a date or that you're doing something with someone else you're dating. You're busy. Get into as much detail as you're comfortable with.

If I have dinner plans that conflict with a date someone's trying to plan, that's what I tell them. Sometimes my dinner plans are romantic, but sometimes they're with my parents. I have platonic dinner plans all the time. He doesn't need to know that level of detail.

That being said, I try to make it clear early while dating someone that I am seeing other people. I mention it on the third or so date just so they know. I don't want to be accused of fooling or leading on anyone. The men I date know I'm dating other people.

traditsh · 2020-01-15T23:13:53+00:00

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ScrappleSandwiches · 2020-01-16T00:09:21+00:00

You don't. Keep the scrotation private and boot any lvm out because they are of no worth to us as women.

janeaustenfan99 · 2020-01-16T19:30:08+00:00

Don't. The last time I mentioned that the guy flipped out. Guys are weird about that stuff.

idiosyncraticg1 · 2020-01-16T13:50:09+00:00

Unless he asks, don’t tell? If he asks you out on a day when you already have a date, say “I have plans”, then if he asks if you’re going on a date, say yes.

2020-01-17T02:22:19+00:00

Guys don’t need to know that. If he asks or says something like “I bet you have so many guys after you” to try to get you to confirm or deny, just laugh it off.

orange_alpha · 2020-01-15T23:29:32+00:00

She's asked how to let them know... Which is the right thing to do surely? But everyone is say "just lie" 🤷‍♀️ I think it's best to be honest as you'd want the same from him I'm sure.

Title	Erm, so how do you actually let them know you are multiple dating without ‘rubbing it in their face’?
Author	omnishambolica
Upvotes	54
Comments	17
Date	January 15, 2020 10:40 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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