I got out of a 4 year abusive relationship with a NVM two weeks ago. He was physically abusive in and out of the context of sex. I began browsing FDS probably a week before we actually broke up. He smacked the shit out of me while we were getting sexual and all I could think about was the points women on here made about bdsm. Why was hurting me something he enjoyed? It was like I was looking at the relationship without a weird manipulative haze for the first time. I’ve stopped making excuses for the ways he abused me. I’m planning on getting justice for myself eventually. My life, even only two weeks out, is so much better without him.

What you ladies do on here is amazing. It’s so important for us to have a community like this, I’m so happy that I found it. Thank you!