How often are you speaking to women/meeting new ones?

arakouzo · 2021-01-18T14:56:33+00:00

It's not about having a woman-talking quota. It's about talking to people every time you go out somewhere instead of staring at your phone. Sometimes, those people are women.

In your spare time on the toilet, send some online dating messages, or text some women you're already in the texting stages with.

In the real world, talk to people when you're out. Don't just target women. Whoever's in line with you at the grocery store or getting coffee, just say hi and chat. It doesn't have to be some goal-oriented conversation where you walk away with connections or dates or a new best friend. It can be with a dude or an old lady. But sometimes it's with a woman, and sometimes the conversation goes better than her trying to end it in three words and go back to her cell phone, and those are the times you set up a date.

howthecookiecrumble · 2021-01-18T15:07:55+00:00

I think every 2, maybe 3 days at max currently, just evening out the odds. I’m practically chasing women everyday or every other day systematically.

Focus on yourself, women will come. But women won’t come on their own, you don’t want to get oneitis, and self-improvement is not sexual strategy. Even Facebook needed a marketing plan. You have to go out there and get women, they will not come to you. Even in social circle game, you have to keep spinning the wheel of building social circles, social value, and sexual attraction.

Improved yourself, but also go find women. Don’t exist in a vacuum of your own thoughts. Don’t be a stranger to the sexual marketplace.

4 an year??? I spoke to 4 last week

skyrunner22 · 2021-01-18T15:36:45+00:00

The focus on yourself, the women will come advice probably works best if you are young in college and have an already established social circle.. A job where new women cycle thru and you have to interact with them, bartender, promoter, call center, etc. Basically anywhere with large pool..

Also speaking to only 4 a year is not really playing the numbers game and probably gonna make you have thirsty energy and oneitis. If you only have 4 prospects, you make it bigger than it is and feel like you cant fuck this up, you put wayy more value on it than needed.

In typical year I oscillate between open funnel actively approaching and chilling with the decent amount of plates. If I am active I am probably approaching to 5-10 women a week, and this is just normal going about day as I mainly daygame, supermarket, mall, goin out to eat, etc. It should be a normal part of your day, you are a social guy talking to people

MattyAnon · 2021-01-18T16:26:49+00:00

'focus on ur goals women will come'

This is shit advice.

Focus on your goals, absolutely. But women will not come flocking unless you become a rockstar or hot bar tender.

Be awesome, but finding women is an active not a passive pursuit.

how often are you guys speaking to (texting/dating) new women

I'm not at the moment... covid is killing me.

and how many do you have going at one time.

Usually 2-3...... currently 2.

I would say i normally speak too like 4 a year but less this year cus of covid.

Speaking to 4 a year is terrible dude. You need to be talking to 4 new girls a DAY.

Jessor69 · 2021-01-18T20:37:00+00:00

"focus on ur goals women will come"

Unless your goals are a movie star, bartender or porn star no one but you gives a shit about your goals.

The only way to have sex with women is by speaking to them first, and a lot of them. You put yourself in front of as much of them as you can cos its its really a numbers game, you're filtering out for the ones who are actually wanting to smash.

armenian_UwUcide · 2021-01-18T21:07:29+00:00

I don’t know and I don’t care because I stopped keeping track of that shit once my virgin mentality withered away with the rest of my innocence. Recently, none, but it does not bother me either because I have more pressing concerns to focus on anyway.

Women are people too. You, as a healthy human, should be able to normally socialize with other humans anyway, and some of those will just so happen to be women. If you find them sexually interesting, then you should also be able to express that in an implying way and if you find a match, you will naturally end up naked together. Millions of years of evolution already laid the foundation for this - it’s not a big deal.

Focus on frying bigger fish.

marc-home · 2021-01-18T14:46:54+00:00

I think before i speak to women i should improve my personalteheee☺️

btt069 · 2021-01-18T15:55:26+00:00

focus on your goals means at most spend to 5 hrs per day for 4 to 5 days in a week. at least this way our mind is occupied and we are focused and procrastination doesnt happen much. but if you try to do a lot at once then you will quickly burnout. why to rush take 5 years to be the man that you dream to become while you were kid.

for example: in 2 years you wanna be very muscular. and for that lets say you train for 3 hrs per day for 5 days in a week. if thats your goal and you commit to it then there is no problem spending 2hrs on bar socializing with people. just dont get yourself into serious things that will take away your time for exercising.

another example: in 5 years you wanna have a well paid job of an engineer of some sort. for that lets say you study 3 hrs per day for 5 days in a week. sure it will take time to learn what you want to learn. but you have rest of the day to take a walk around the park and talk to girls who are jogging or just walking.

focus on your goals doesnt mean 24 7 365 doing what you are interested in.

there are 7 fundamental things that any human being should do in the span of 24 hrs. they are: proper sleep balanced diet learning at least one new thing helping at least one person entertainment or sports meditation exercise

most people dont do all of this daily in this modern era that has resulted in the following severe problems respectively for the list above: insomnia obesity or malnutrition unsocialized brat self centered moron no stamina and laggy body anxiety no strength

girls are there in this world there are a lot of them. while focusing on goals dont forget the fundamental things in life.

CartographerSoft9317 · 2021-01-18T16:40:05+00:00

4 a year is not much at all tbh, but it depends on what you want.

If you are looking for just a hook up then download tinder and if u drive it’s quite easy, or if u like in a place where covid isn’t that big of a deal.

As of right now I’m not going out and speaking to anybody as I’m in lockdown so theirs literally nothing to do, so jus been self improving and focusing on business.

U should focus on building the confidence to talk to any girl u want whenever u are out. As long as ur doing that ur fine. And if u are unable to go out and do so like me rn, download tinder or IG and go that route. Talk too 7/8 girls at a time, build a roster.

Don’t get caught in the messaging girls all day swiping all day cycle tho, u don’t want that at all.

Ur purpose first, women second. Don’t worry about specific numbers, if u want hookups u gotta speak too more women and if u want a relationship u gotta speak to more women. That’s jus how it goes

319Skew · 2021-01-18T16:59:53+00:00

There's no set number. Prior to Covid, it's meet up, have fun, text for logistics or pulse check, repeat. This depends on the week and what I want to do.

Post covid, as I only really want sex and don't care for drama it's been seldom pulse check zero interactions.

Before anyone jumps on my throat about covid being a cold , I'm going to mention that when I was young, I almost drowned on my own fluids and I have a son that may be high risk so I don't plan to expose myself to someone and risk my son's health to get my dick wet.

It does suck but men have existed through dry spells before by necessity or circumstance and its not like women won't exist after.

SirAttackHelicopter · 2021-01-18T23:18:42+00:00

Right now i'm seriously hoping the answer to meeting women is NONE. We are in a fucking pandemic FFS. Now is the time to better yourself and up your own game. Become an interesting person. Accomplish things. Broaden your horizon. All of these things will increase your confidence and mind as well as improve your physical looks. Because looks matter, and any girl that says otherwise is lying.

aercurio · 2021-01-18T15:52:02+00:00

I've been chatting with bitches on dating apps cuz of COVID. So far one consistent plate and a bunch of texting hoes.

Gotta keep your pimp hand strong. Although I don't let it frustrate me I don't get anywhere with any single bitch. Just shrug your shoulders and NEXT!

Fusionnn · 2021-01-18T17:22:17+00:00

i've been having sex with a new woman every week to two weeks at the minimum, at the beginning of covid things were difficult to meet new people, but i had a plate at the time who was dying to see me so i spent a lot of time with her

A_solo_tripper · 2021-01-18T18:44:31+00:00

Hold up. I'm confused . When you mean "speak to", are you being literal or does "speak to" mean having some intercourse with them?

If you are only verbally communicating with four women a year, there is a problem.

tropicsGold · 2021-01-18T19:27:37+00:00

For all of the guys out there who barely talk to women, or who only talk to them in a pursuit context, the best thing you can do is simply learn to talk with a female. Like a regular person. So you don’t sound like a weirdo when you talk to a girl you are interested in dating.

So here is an action item you can add to your routine. When you go to some public place, say a grocery store, make eye contact with the first suitable person who appears on your path. Smile and say hi, good morning, whatever. Comment on the weather. “Gosh it sure is a beautiful sunny day! I love days like this!” You can often exchange a few lines about the weather. Then, where does this go? Maybe it is cold and the mountains just got a lot of snow, and you could comment about the great snow, good time for a ski or sledding trip. Comment about what they are wearing. Do they have a funny t-shirt, or interesting earrings? Whatever catches your eye. Ask them lots of questions about themselves and take an interest.

Do this with a person or two everywhere you go, like a normal friendly person does. And eventually you will learn and get better. Then when you meet a cute girl you will know what to do.

Elatea · 2021-01-18T19:48:02+00:00

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Kn1ght0 · 2021-01-18T20:05:08+00:00

Rarely

KillaJewels · 2021-01-18T20:09:15+00:00

Think of it like praying. If you pray to God all day for a Ferrari but aren't doing anything to make it happen, are you gonna get that Ferrari? Fat chance it's a no.

You gotta go out and get it. Now the way you go out and get it is up to you. In this world, there are hunters and gatherers. You can hunt with laser focus purpose or gather the scraps that come your way.

That said, it's your life. Do what you want. Don't worry about what other people think is "alpha" or "normal" or what TRP neckbeards think is the way.

Optionsmfd · 2021-01-18T22:17:46+00:00

when they hire decent single ones at work

Optionsmfd · 2021-01-18T22:19:42+00:00

it depends what your goals and expectations are

its a numbers game %

more u approach ... the better the chances.....

Halal_nnl · 2021-01-18T22:46:35+00:00

I’m trynna be hella social once the pandemic is over, currently I just say “hello” to anyone I see walking down the neighborhood etc like just to be friendly, I used to be really shy but I’ve had like 3 or 4 convos this year with random people and that’s great since we have a pandemic. Once it’s over I wanna talk to like 5-10 people everyday, whether it’s small talk or just a “hello, hi”. Just wanna unleash my new confident self out there

SnooSmart · 2021-01-18T23:28:27+00:00

Ignoring women is not good advice for getting them. You want to do the exact opoosite. I recommend you sign up for something like Tinder and keep messaging the women there until you find one. It's a massive numbers game, kinda like job searching.

drkinferno72 · 2021-01-19T00:40:47+00:00

In a pandemic, none

scissor_me_timbers00 · 2021-01-19T07:23:10+00:00

Every day pretty much are new girls on bumble that I meet. Most don’t go anywhere but each month there’ll be 2-5 interesting new options, and maybe I lay one or two of them.

Title	How often are you speaking to women/meeting new ones?
Author	Elatea
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Date	January 18, 2021 2:24 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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