Cheated on my LTR

UEMcGill · 2021-01-08T14:23:08+00:00

Cheat, don't cheat, after all, Redpill is amoral. The real question is do you think you are self-sabotaging?

Maybe it's pretty simple.

Would define her as a unicorn

You've pedestalized her. So you're afraid of losing her. So instead you fuck around, while deep inside your lizard brain you rationalize it as "well if she dumped me because of it, that's ok because I was doing shitty things"

Do you want an LTR? Do you want her? Do you want to be a player?

Figure out what you want, and do it. Let the chips fall where they may after.

actuallythink · 2021-01-08T13:35:49+00:00

Kinda up to her. The most important thing is to not beg for her to keep you around because even if she does, the power balance in the relationship will forever be irreparably unsatisfactory for both of you.

Own it, admit it, stand tall, apologize, and let her make her own decision.

Edit as an afterthought: remember that a woman would rather share a high value man than be saddled by a loser. This does not mean you should feel no remorse for cheating nor is it a license to cheat: but your best chance of salvaging whatever you want to salvage is to be the high value man she shared rather than the loser who begs to put a saddle on her.

Spirited-Possession6 · 2021-01-08T13:39:53+00:00

Guilt is a negative emotion which does not change the fact of what you did. So Firstly drop the guilt. Secondly, most women are hardwired to blame themselves after being cheated on (e.g Im not good looking enough). Thirdly, because of 2 she should want you even more now (if you’re worth it)

AuberyBitoni · 2021-01-08T14:23:40+00:00

Cheating is one thing, her finding out is another thing. Even if she takes you back or ignores this, it will forever put a stain on your relationship. She will forever be insecure and the shit tests will get out of hand.

Do yourself a favor and don't bother fixing this.

jjj2576 · 2021-01-08T14:22:58+00:00

I think there is disconnect between what you actually want and what you do and what you say you want— figure how to get these to line up.

notmylastnewaccount · 2021-01-08T16:47:59+00:00

You don't feel guilty. You feel sad you got caught and now look like a bad person. That isnt the same thing.

The only way to start working on things is to admit what I wrote above to yourself. That's step 1.

askmrcia · 2021-01-08T18:08:36+00:00

My cousin got caught cheating 5 different times on his gf and multiple times with his girlfriend before that.

It's up to the girl if they keep you around. We all know there are some girls that go back to their cheating exs or current ltrs.

So my point is if she leaves you oh well. But I won't be surprised she takes you back after calling you a scumbag to her friends for a little bit.

trpppp123 · 2021-01-08T20:51:06+00:00

If you want to keep the relationship, just own it, acknowledge that it was a mistake if you think it was, and leave the ball in her court.

Just know keeping this relationship potentially taints it and every time there's an argument, she will likely throw that in your face. There's also a chance she will try to get back to you.

rmcassio · 2021-01-09T02:41:06+00:00

You screwed up, learn from that and move on bro. Redpill is amoral, I'm not. Handle your shit.

SublimePimp · 2021-01-08T14:29:35+00:00

If you’re chad she’ll let you get away with cheating once or twice lol

longshaftmutant · 2021-01-08T17:44:53+00:00

No and stop being stupid

Jetrous · 2021-01-09T10:04:50+00:00

Girls are vindictive. Even your "unicorn". The cat is out of the bag now. Even if you tried to make it work, she'll just use this as an excuse to cheat later or rationalize some other evil shit.

Build your own values and principles, figure out what you want and go for it. You can have a LTR and cheat, sure, but the fact that you feel guilty means you don't yet have the mindset for it. In the meantime, break it off with this girl, the damage is done I say.

IntrepidLawyer · 2021-01-08T15:13:22+00:00

Deny, deny deny. Never admit to anything. Even with proof, still deny. It works as stupid as it sounds.

Use the chick's hamster to your advantage. When you deny so hard you almost gaslight yourself into believing your bullshit, she will use her insane "emotions" in your favor, and hamster will find a way to explain how you're "innocent".

Been there, done that, ex fucked off some orbiter friends which saw me on other chicks and refused to believe a word they said because I would always instantly deny by default.

asabasa · 2021-01-08T17:11:37+00:00

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MrNeurotypical · 2021-01-09T02:28:43+00:00

She has to forgive you and move on. Whenever my wife catches me cheating I tell her it was just to get my dick wet(and it was). I reassure her that I'm not seeing someone and she doesn't have to worry about me leaving her. It was just a prostitute or hoe and I was horny. I was so horny I fucked the hoe and then came home and fucked her(which I do). Remember to always fuck your ltr right after fucking a hoe.

Title	Cheated on my LTR
Author	Shaurya_Official
Upvotes	1
Comments	31
Date	January 8, 2021 1:18 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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