Nerves

WhatIsThisAccountFor · 2017-12-10T09:16:11+00:00

I just feel like if the guy knows I’m interested he will be less interested. Is that a crazy thought!?

Maybe a little bit of a crazy though.

If a guy thinks you are not interested, he’s not going to try unless he doesn’t respect your opinion. There needs to at least be a possibility of interest, otherwise he will go for someone else.

vintagegirlgame · 2017-12-10T11:01:21+00:00

Your 29? It sounds like you're 16 with a schoolgirl crush. Maybe that can come across as endearing in some ways, but you need to be ok with letting a guy know you're interested. You don't have time to waste playing high school games.

What you're describing is how YOU would react to a man who texted you too much or was too upfront about liking you more than you like him. It would repel you because you would sense that he sees you as above him (which you would interpret as him being below you).

A man's brain works differently than yours, so learn to spot when you're projecting female behavior onto a man. When a woman shows interest in a man (this can be as minimal as smiling with a bit of eye contact, or more direct like initiating a conversation) he will react mainly based off of his physical attraction to her. If he finds you attractive, he will get the hint that you do too and will pursue you. If he is not attracted to you, he will not engage or pursue. You can do some things to enhance your attraction level (smiling, posture, fitness, flattering fashions, makeup) but it depends on the man in question's overall SMV compared to yours.

Also, it's ok if you're a little nervous because it shows vulnerability, a soft feminine trait that is naturally attractive to men. Don't go crazy with chasing him down, as this is a masculine trait. Extremely forward woman do repel men (they assume there's something off with her if she's attractive yet aggressively perusing him). But some nerves on your part will pump up his ego and invite him to step into the masculine role of pursuing you.

mmerijn · 2017-12-10T16:34:11+00:00

That sounds like a nervousness/fear issue. The simplest method is the same method they use to overcome a phobia: See how far you can bear to go until you can't anymore, get used to it, and when you feel up for it go a bit further. Keep repeating this (It takes some time, so listen to your feelings. When you feel like you are tired or don't want to anymore then stop.) until you build up enough courage to talk to guys you are interested in.

Also if a guy who considers you a potential partner sees you are interested then he will most definitely not be less interested, and if it is a guy who didn't see you as a potential partner you probably are not going to convince him otherwise (It is possible but very difficult). Just don't go overboard; everything in moderation. The other users here can probably explain to you what is the right amount better than I can so I will leave that part of the show to them.

mrpthrowa · 2017-12-10T12:33:39+00:00

You know you are effectively screening to get low quality men like this?

Reminds me of this girl in my evening classes.

She has been giving me the puppy eyes from across the theatre a few times. Then she came to talk to me, and she was a nervous wreck. I just found it amusing. She kept talking and talking about her background and asking about me, then she eventually clumsily started talking about liking coffee and there is this coffee shop etc... Obvious hint. So I told her she should show it to me tomorrow before classes. Kept it somewhat in the "get to know each other as friends" frame rather than a clear ask for a date.

Well, the girl must have over thought afterwards that she threw herself at me, or whatever was going on in that mind of hers. She, again, clumsily nervously later said she forgot she has something else at the same time (a talk that I attended and she wasn't there). I just tried to make light of the situation and talked about classes to keep it light and diffuse her nervousness and awkwardness.

Well, what can you say, next week she again gives the puppy eyes and she wants my attention and stuff.

Confusing as fuck. Except I don't have time for that shit now, however hard she tries. I'm not going to chase.

Moral of the story - she sabotaged her own self. Don't be like that. You're the one who loses.

You get one chance, make use of it. A self respecting man doesn't waste time on silly games. Anybody who puts up with this sort of thing will inevitably disappoint you down the line.

HB3234 · 2017-12-13T21:07:12+00:00

You need to read Doyle's "The Surrendered Single" ASAP.

Title	Nerves
Author	alicemic29
Upvotes	12
Comments	26
Date	December 10, 2017 8:25 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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