How to talk to my brother about his lazy gold digging gf

DrHolz · 2017-12-12T11:51:05+00:00

Sometimes you just have to watch your loved ones crash and burn. If you try to stop him he'll think you're poisoning his life. Love makes people blind.

The fact that he's a 30yr old man and he tolerates (and loves) this girl shows that he probably deserves to be with someone like her.

eazolan · 2017-12-12T17:08:45+00:00

When a guy gets a woman, they don't say "I'm keeping this one, even though I can do better"

This girl is the best that he can do.

So, telling him he can do better is zero help. Introducing him to women that literally are better (and it shouldn't be too hard, right?) is the way to go.

Help him do better.

Waterboo2 · 2017-12-12T11:56:06+00:00

A truly high quality man wouldn’t put up with her actions. I don’t think you should butt in

MxUnicorn · 2017-12-12T13:31:20+00:00

My family tried to talk to my brother before and after his marriage to a woman who sees him as nothing but a meal ticket. He read it as an ultimatum and now he barely speaks to anyone on his side of the family, so not only is he married to a woman who makes him miserable, he feels like he has no one else. It's been almost 15 years and he is so unhappy. My advice is to zip it and be there for him when it all falls apart, be that in a month or 20 years.

Zohso · 2017-12-12T11:39:39+00:00

From a guy’s perspective, as someone who used to be that same beta cuck, nothing. He is literally blind right now. He feels so HONORED and lucky that she’s even talking to him that he will do whatever. And that includes distancing himself from his family. I did. Obviously a huge mistake on my part.

I’m going to go out on a limb here and assume your brother isn’t a highly desirable man. Or maybe he’s just shy? SOMETHING is keeping him from seeing the light. The fact that he’s not immature, he’s in his 30’s, is worrisome though.

Best advice? Leave him alone and let this play out. Make your objections known, but don’t push the issue. You’ll only push him away.

Good luck, this ain’t easy.

RubyWooToo · 2017-12-12T15:54:28+00:00

Your brother is a pussy because he's clearly been enabled by your Mom. Why is he still living at home at 30 years old? Why are you and your Mom feeding his girlfriend and picking up after her?

Your mother should kick them out of the house. Once your brother is solely responsible for food, shelter, and chores for 2 people, and has less discretionary spending to blow on his lazy girlfriend, their relationship will come to a natural conclusion.

vintagegirlgame · 2017-12-12T12:03:18+00:00

It's bad enough but does it have to involve the whole family? What's the living situation since you're all together but she doesn't pay rent? Who's house is it anyway? If he can pay off her 6k credit car, why doesn't he just rent his own place where he's free to fuck up as much as he wants without making the family deal with her?

fixingmyprobs · 2017-12-12T13:58:37+00:00

Hate to say this but it’s best to just let it go. Be there for him when he needs someone to talk/vent to but usually when your family dislikes your significant other it ends up pushing the family member even closer to that person and the family gets pushed away in the process. Try to be supportive, he will eventually pick up on her bs... Or maybe he won’t.

girlwithabike · 2017-12-12T13:18:54+00:00

Do you and Mom treat her well? Are you cleaning up after her and letting Brother think shes part of the family?

GayLubeOil · 2017-12-12T12:48:10+00:00

The larger issue here is that Mexican wall slammers have a tendency to accidently on purpose get pregnant at which point you will have this low quality individual your life forever. So I understand the urgency of the issue.

From what you say she sounds like a disorganized low time preference mess. It shouldn't be difficult to manipulate her into having emotional outbursts around your brother. Figure out her triggers (Donald Trump) and use them to destabilize.

CLMP491866 · 2017-12-12T15:33:31+00:00

Does she have a job?

SlainFunicle · 2017-12-13T21:57:06+00:00

Just let him watch some sandman and mgtow 101

ThatStepfordGal · 2017-12-15T00:42:13+00:00

There isn’t much you can do, he has to learn the hard way. This girl is horrible and wasting her time, she should be taking care of your brother instead.

TheRedKeepx · 2017-12-13T02:01:34+00:00

Beta cuck huh? Why are you, a supposedly rp female, living at home with mommy? I would have asked why your adult brother was, but you answered that already...hes a beta cuck.

blackpinkera · 2017-12-18T12:15:18+00:00

I'm not being sarcastic, what things about this girl are attractive to him?

Title	How to talk to my brother about his lazy gold digging gf
Author	anuhea7
Upvotes	21
Comments	28
Date	December 12, 2017 11:07 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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