Am I an asshole for agreeing with my dad that my mom who is 50 years old btw, her idea to quit her six figure job and to start her "singer/actress" career at this age is insane.

silly_birb · 2021-01-26T07:33:29+00:00

Remember her that at the top of the charts there's a 17yo girl with firm ass and perky tits singing about first love, not about menopause mustaches.

TXJohn83 · 2021-01-26T07:43:37+00:00

She is just getting ready to leave him, without a job she will be a sure lock for alimony...

LongTimeOn · 2021-01-26T07:17:45+00:00

Depends. Everyone should have the chance to follow their dreams, however it depends upon financial stability. If she's expecting him to work until the grave to support her new career, putting off a retirement that was planned and agreed....then yes she's a total asshole. If they've enough put aside that it doesn't affect plans...then not really. Given that most people don't have that level of savings...I expect it's the first case not the latter and it's totally unreasonable to expect someone to support you when you go back on agreements made.

My exw did the same, decided she wanted to be a writer and expected me to just pickup the slack of her contributions. I made it very clear that if she wanted do go to uni and do her degree, she'd be paying for it and she had to keep her contributions at the same level. At that stage in my career we couldn't have afforded to run on a single salary.

freedomcomesfromwith · 2021-01-26T09:14:58+00:00

There goes your inheritance. Just don't chip in for her retirement.

boarderoonie · 2021-01-26T11:31:32+00:00

Suggest she start a youtube channel. This way, she keeps her job but can pursue her calling on her time. If she's good, she can monetize the channel. If she stinks, she can quit and say she tried.

Catcrumble · 2021-01-26T11:20:07+00:00

I'm all for following your dreams, but to totally quit a successful career and start from scratch in an industry that's full of hot teens, without experience, it sounds doomed to fail.

Has she tried karaoke instead?

Edit: misspelled word

2021-01-26T08:29:55+00:00

Take a look at the charts in your country are any of them over the age of 30? If they are they have been famous since they were 18 basically .

Launch_Day_My_Dudes · 2021-01-26T12:47:20+00:00

It’s one thing to moonlight for fun at a community theater. By all means, try that on weekends and evenings.

It’s another to quit your job for it. There’s a reason the phrase ‘don’t quit your day job’ exists.

53withtrollhair · 2021-01-26T11:57:37+00:00

NTA- I just want to put that there for a guy that disagreed with a female, and not get 68 downvotes. The pussy pass is strong in your mother. Your dad should have pulled the pin first, say, buy a wood lathe and start a YouTube channel so she could support his dream. See how long that would last. NTA

SanktCrypto · 2021-01-26T12:59:44+00:00

She must've found the casting couch

Sir_manalot · 2021-01-26T13:41:48+00:00

No, but I do not blame her for chasing her dream no matter how unlikely or stupid it is.

Better to try and fail, then to never try and regret.

TigPlaze · 2021-01-26T14:48:05+00:00

OMG, she's nuts. There's no problem if she likes singing. She could do that as a hobby, but she's not going to become a huge star at 50. Jesus.

lastlaugh100 · 2021-01-26T22:00:15+00:00

your dad needs to develop a gambling and drug habit aka start putting cash into a safety deposit box.

willpower0687 · 2021-01-26T12:45:17+00:00

Yeah, even if she saved up a nest egg from that 6 figure job, which lets face it how many women can even save a dollar for the bus let alone 100s of thousands, as the op said in a later comment right now is the absolute worst time to try and break into the entertainment industry. There is simply next to no work right now in that industry. Before my career Change i was in the entertainment industry but as a technician, so i have many friends still in that industry. They all haven't worked, both talent and tech, in over a year. There just simply isn't a demand right now.

USADave85 · 2021-01-26T14:09:47+00:00

Did she earn enough and save enough to retire at 50? She can have her hobby if so.

Dead_Art · 2021-01-26T14:16:22+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q-JgG0ECp2U

TheNoNonsenseMofo · 2021-01-26T14:31:26+00:00

NTA.

StarchRunner · 2021-01-26T15:13:07+00:00

Your dad should file for divorce right now while she has an income. Later, he will possibly have to split more of his own income in this alimony scheme. In this economy, she's not going to pick up another job so easily if at all.

Unfortunately, I have first hand experience of these flights of fancy. If you persuade her, she really resents you for "holding her back". If you don't, it will be an utter failure. She's probably also gonna be cheating on your dad anyway, looking for excitement and attention is what this is all about so nothing is lost by a pre-emptive action.

Good_Click_565 · 2021-01-26T18:37:48+00:00

Music industry is completely unstable right now and will be for another year or two due to covid. The music industry was already in the shitter due to the internet piracy back in the early 2000s. Extremely hard to get anything really going. Alot of tours cancelled and huge artist like Taylor Swift are also losing a lot of money. Check out this time lapse of record sales it really puts it into perspective: https://youtu.be/OBzA1SjXLPo

It could see a huge resurgence in about 2-5 years, but still many artist don't really know how money is generated, how to get paid and make money, and master their art and market enough where shows grow and a good online presence

rayedward363 · 2021-01-26T21:27:35+00:00

If it was just a hobby, that would be fine. Post on youtube or some site that revolves around singing and bam, easy way to spend a couple hours and no risk. If she really wants to be an actress/famous singer, I've got some bad news for her.

2021-01-27T04:34:52+00:00

With things like this they can start doing it in their off time and then transition to full time

FreshNothingBurger · 2021-01-27T13:24:22+00:00

here's how this is about to go down:

She quits her job, income stops, itoldyouso.jpg, feels oppresshun'd by Dad, divorces, files for alimony since she now has no income.

Scaryunderwear · 2021-01-27T15:31:57+00:00

Why would she need to quit her job for that?
24 hours in a day minus 8 hours for work, minus 8 for sleep still leaves 8 hours/day for her to pursue her dreams.

halshatari · 2021-01-26T10:15:50+00:00

More context is necessary, you seem to be making judgment over personal choices. If she's 50 I believe you're over 18. If you and your siblings are on your own way in life, doesn't hurt to follow her dreams. Remember the guy who started KFC? He was 60+ when he opened the first franchise restaurant.

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