How to Weekend with Crush (who wants to impregnate me?)

prettyinpinkpill · 2018-05-22T05:30:39+00:00

This is the creepiest thing I’ve ever read. No man in his sane mind tries to impregnate a girl he met a month and a half ago. No high value female puts up with that sort of guy for a second. Block him, drop him, raise your standards drastically. Sorry if that sounds harsh but I seriously shuddered just reading this.

Nick6385 · 2018-05-22T05:25:37+00:00

Cancel your plans with him and never contact him again. Nothing good could conceivably come from this arrangement.

sparkledragon45 · 2018-05-22T05:24:22+00:00

Just don't, it sounds like bad news. Plus, you shouldn't give it up so quickly.

Amonette2012 · 2018-05-22T07:30:26+00:00

Please don't go. This isn't going to be the romantic fairytale you imagined. There are so many red flags here I could make a tent out of them.

However if you choose to ignore this and go anyway, which I again very much advise you NOT to do, make sure you do the following:

1) Tell someone where you are and have them safety call you. Give them the hotel name and your room number. You are at risk of people trafficking here. Being sold into the sex trade is no joke. If you are going to run the risk of being literally kidnapped, at least give the police some leads to go on.

2) Do not get into a car with him. Use uber, registered taxis or public transport, and do not get into any transportation where you do not know the driver or feel you may in any way be in danger.

3) Spend the initial part of your time in a public space. Have a meal or a drink somewhere not of his choosing. If you need to get away, go into the toilet and phone the police or tell a member of staff you are in trouble.

4) Be on super high alert for further red flags. Discrepencies between his looks and his photos, forgotten or changed personal details, forgetting memorable conversations - look out for flattery and don't let it distract you from trying to work out whether or not you are safe in this man's company.

5) Do not drink anything you didn't pour yourself or see poured. Avoid alcohol. If anything tastes weirdly salty rinse your mouth out try and throw up, and get someone to call you an ambulance for possible GHB poisoning.

6) If you seriously don't have the answer to the not getting pregnant question you are not ready to have sex. However if you find yourself in a private room or vehicle with a man who is physically stronger than you or has a weapon, that isn't necessarily going to be your choice.

BE SAFE!

KittenLoves_ · 2018-05-22T05:35:50+00:00

Um, I think you might be reading way too much into this. I highly doubt he is actually trying to get you pregnant. This seems more like sexual flirtation gone wrong.

Be forthright that you're a virgin and not interested in having sex before marriage. Gauge whether or not you'll see him over the weekend based on his response to that (if he responds negatively or by trying to cajole you, avoid him, he only wants you for sex. If he responds positively/respectfully, go ahead and keep your plans).

DoctorNini · 2018-05-22T07:12:01+00:00

Regardless of whether he really wants to get you pregnant or not, he is clearly expecting sex. You should let him know this is not on the table for you before hand, otherwise you are just leading him on. And believe me, no man who expects a weekend of passionate sex will be happy to find out it is just going to be chaste handholding. If you don't want to mess everything up, be honest about your intentions.

bloobird08 · 2018-05-22T07:43:09+00:00

Nope. Run. I’ve had first dates with guys who “joke” about sexual things/future kids/marriage - all duds. High quality men with good senses of humor know how to make jokes that don’t involve this unhinged, presumptuous “you’re my future wife tehe!” nonsense.

teaandtalk · 2018-05-22T07:57:18+00:00

Okay, so I'm going to try to ignore the impregnating thing as a really, really bad joke. Everyone else seems to have adequately covered it. If you're going through with it anyway, read on!

You've got a potential LTR coming to your city for the weekend! That sounds fun! But you're a virgin, and you're waiting until marriage. Okay, so a couple of things:

You need to make sure his expectations are set clearly. He needs to know that no, you're not going to have sex until marriage, no matter his cajoling (be prepared for 'but we talked about it' or 'but I came all this way, just come up for a drink').
You need to make plans for the weekend that DON'T involve going back to his hotel room. Not to cook him a meal, not to watch a movie, not to have a drink: none of them. No matter how clear you try to be, it's very, very hard for a young woman to go back to a man's hotel room, or bring him home to her place solo, without giving the impression that sex is going to happen, and that's a bad situation for a baby virgin to be in.
You need to be SAFE. Even if you're not going up to his hotel room, you need to stay out of his car, keep an eye on your drink, and make sure a trusted adult friend (not a 21yo friend, someone older and responsible) knows where you're going to be. Make sure you have money for a cab stashed inside your bra, in case you end up without your wallet and phone.
Once this stuff is out of the way: the other stuff! Make sure you're looking your best! Natural but put-together is my best suggestion.
Be yourself! Setting false expectations now is just going to set yourself up for disaster later.
No, you don't cook every meal. You could potentially cook one, ONLY if there are other people at your house who will be involved/eating/within earshot - and set his expectations about this, don't say 'come back to mine and I'll make you dinner', say 'why don't you come over, my housemate and I are planning dinner!'. Otherwise, he might get the wrong idea.
Remember, you've known this man for less than two months. Use this time to vet him more - is he kind to waiters? Does he meet your physical expectations? Is there attraction?
If he arrives and you two don't click, that's okay! That is a risk you run when you meet someone online. Don't feel like you have to spend the whole weekend with him, on his terms, just because he came to your city. It doesn't mean he's your boyfriend, it doesn't mean you have to kiss him, it doesn't mean you owe him anything.

TL:DR; set expectations clearly. be safe. don't feel like you owe him anything. this is just a weekend of dating to see if you two are actually a good couple.

Title	How to Weekend with Crush (who wants to impregnate me?)
Author	prettyinpinkpill
Upvotes	1
Comments	33
Date	May 22, 2018 5:19 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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