I often see an argument that women are not sexually attracted to men, but they feel sexy when attractive men notice them, and thus respond positively with sex and sexual conduct. Women throw out IOIs because they want the attractive man to notice them.

I call bullshit.

  1. Women respond visibly with signs of sexual attraction when in the presence of attractive men. Women's heads turn, they look longer than a glance, they go slack jawed, and they do the point/glance/snicker/giggle at their girlfriends. That series of responses basically says "I see an attractive man! He is HAWT! I want to fuck him!"

  2. Have you all seen the TV ads showing women gawking at attractive men, going all slack jawed and eyes popped open? Know why those ads get greenlighted and get popular? Because they're founded in truth, and we all know it. Because they resonate with the people who see them. Because men know they've seen women do this; and because women know they've done this.

  3. Check the subreddit r/ girlsmirin. In particular, check the videos out here and here. Don't look at the men. Look at the women - the lingering looks, biting lips, licking lips, doe eyes. Don't fucking tell me that's not sexual attraction. Don't fucking tell me that's a woman "responding" to attention from a man or "being noticed by" an attractive man. The men were giving them NO attention AT ALL. The men weren't noticing them at all.

That is spontaneous sexual attraction. Those are candid, real time, involuntary SEXUAL responses from women who find those men viscerally sexually attractive and want to fuck those men. That is what a woman in the throes of sexual attraction looks like. If those men had said "Let's go fuck right now" those women would have said "Um.. OK, let's go"

  1. The argument then is, if women really were sexually attracted to men, they would approach men directly the same way that men approach women. Bullshit. Women don't approach men for 2 reasons. (a) Women are cowards. They hate judgment and rejection. Approaching subjects them to both. Women cannot mentally or emotionally handle 1/10th of the judgment and rejection that the average man suffers every day. (b) Women don't have to approach to get attention from attractive men. Men do 95% of the work getting something started. Women just sit back and let approaching happen.

So, no. it is not just that women "want to be noticed by attractive men and that's what triggers their sexual attraction". Bullshit. Women's sexual attraction is responsive and reactive, yes. But "being noticed by an attractive man and getting attention from him" is not the only thing that triggers a woman's sexual response. No, just being in the presence of an attractive man makes women all wet and triggers unmistakable, visible signs of sexual attraction.