Feeling the heat, family wants me buy into their delusion.

Ziogatto · 2021-03-16T07:18:22+00:00

So there's two ways you can approach this:

1) Just say some blue pill BS to get them to shut up like "I haven't found the right one yet" or "There's this girl at work I'm trying to figure out if she likes me" or some other lies like that, and don't mention you're mocing out till the movers are there and/or when you move out just pretend you're moving in with your girlfriend to see if you're compatible for marriage. Once you're out you can come clean and tell your family to can it.

2) Skip the BS tell your family to can it. This will involve some confrontation and if your mother/siblings are used to commanding you they'll try to browbeat you into submission. If you're moving out in three months then it's probably not worth it tho, three months fly away in no time at all.

Vaxel00 · 2021-03-16T09:12:38+00:00

Tell them "I'll get married of you pay for my divorce".

frankman2100 · 2021-03-16T15:51:15+00:00

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Cosmic_Contreversy · 2021-03-16T07:16:41+00:00

Advice to avoid the family? Well if you live with them, all you can do is go out with friends more often or stay sheltered in your room and claim that your working on something big for your job/school. Other than that you just have to try and avoid the topic of relationships.

Hope this helps my guy

Long_Range_Shooter · 2021-03-16T15:52:18+00:00

Saw this happen with a police officer I know. He was dating this woman for at least 5-6 years because he wanted to make sure she wasn't one of those women.

His sister gets married, he's in his early thirties and between his mom and sister badgering him, he finally pops the question to this woman.

She says yes, and about two years later she's in the hospital recovering from having their first child. His mom says you should have seen him he was shell shocked with the birth of his daughter.

NO he was shocked when he found out that his wife was one of those wives he never wanted to marry. He asked her how long her employer was giving her off for maternity? She tells him she quit her job two weeks earlier and she's never going to work again. Yep a stay a home mom is what she planned for and lied her ass off to get the guy to marry her.

She told him she was going back to work right after having kids when she was dating him. After getting the ring on her hand it was a whole new story.

WealthyGhost · 2021-03-16T07:19:33+00:00

Hold your ground. No is a complete sentence.

MovieReviewMgtow · 2021-03-16T08:20:08+00:00

I moved out of my folks place at 20, and even I thought that was kinda late already. I would probably never have grown as much as I have if I stayed there until 26, move out man, sooner the better.

StarchRunner · 2021-03-16T08:24:51+00:00

I learned to never justify, rationalize, or argue facts. Just start making fun of them when they start but ya gotta be a bit quick witted and able to idgaf if they try to guilt trip ya. Sow division and despair within their ranks with nasty truths and they’ll soon leave you the fuck alone.

kyledontcare · 2021-03-16T08:00:11+00:00

Move out sooner if possible.

Ody_ssey · 2021-03-16T08:54:42+00:00

Just wait 2 years and then ask them when is the court date.

Joh_Ghurt · 2021-03-16T10:45:40+00:00

You, good man, you delayed to move out an stand on you own feet for far too long. If you want an easy way to deal with your family, move about 500 miles or more away and just be polite to them. And be very sorry, you can't make to any of the family events then next 2 or 3 years. You really would wish to, but work - responsibility - whatever. If they call you, tell them after 2 minutes latest, you have to run.

Is that cowardly? No, it's just sensible. Don't waste your energy on giving your family your attention or opinion, prove them wrong, show them how the wronged you. Be nice like a cashier at the burger-joint to get them out of your hair as efficiently as possible.

Yes Ma'm that'll be two extra-large fries, and no Ma'm our extra fries don't have extra calories, you don't have to worry. Have a nice day. Next!

alienmuseum · 2021-03-16T12:31:56+00:00

your parents shouldn't complain at you. If we're talking about continuing the family lineage then your siblings already got that covered.

Aussie_Chart_Trader · 2021-03-16T22:59:17+00:00

Bathe in their salty tears. They want what they think is good for their image, not what's good for you.

Frequentbadideas · 2021-03-16T13:56:00+00:00

Work all the overtime you can and start socking away money. Two fold help, keeps you out of the house and your wallet fat. Good luck brother.

KaskyNightblade · 2021-03-17T07:38:42+00:00

Stay strong. Time will prove you right.

godsreign111 · 2021-03-17T20:59:34+00:00

My mom keeps trying to get me into an arranged marriage, (i’m Muslim and live abroad)

Everytime she brings it up on FaceTime, i shut the line. She stopped, but started guilt-tripping, i also shut the line when that starts, she’s stopped that as well.

But now she’s dry on the phone, so i shut the line, only it won’t be abrupt and i’ll say my “peace out homie”

sqiop · 2021-03-16T10:49:55+00:00

You should move quickly if you want to stay sane. It is just not possible to talk with that kind of people. Sorry i tried everything, every kind of talk, it doesnt work.

Until you move out.

Reddit1984Censorship · 2021-03-16T12:41:22+00:00

Shut down empathy for them.

ThrowawayAnimalQuest · 2021-03-16T14:26:05+00:00

You elected a child rapist over the best Brain Surgeon of all time.

ThrowawayAnimalQuest · 2021-03-16T14:26:29+00:00

You elected a child rapist over the best Brain Surgeon of all time.

ThrowawayAnimalQuest · 2021-03-16T14:26:52+00:00

You elected a child rapist over the best Brain Surgeon of all time.

ThrowawayAnimalQuest · 2021-03-16T13:37:14+00:00

Did you support the insanity of the last 4 years? Because if so, you are no different than your brothers.

Title	Feeling the heat, family wants me buy into their delusion.
Author	frankman2100
Upvotes	45
Comments	40
Date	March 16, 2021 6:41 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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