As odd as it seems a lot of women and them in the same to want men to still feel the protector role even though we're supposed to be in a new age of feminism

quickbucket · 2021-03-12T21:37:30+00:00

You’re confusing “make women not scared of you” with “make women feeling protected.”

This is not the same thing.

cunningcaring · 2021-03-12T21:40:51+00:00

Nothing odd about it. Being a feminist does not mean you do kickboxing. You seem to be very confused.

Sloppyjoeman · 2021-03-12T21:17:02+00:00

So, where do you get the idea of men being a provider from, with respect to what you’re talking about?

Inareskai · 2021-03-12T21:38:02+00:00

Your view is heavily governed by where you live. So 'women' isn't really true, outside of your area it's different.

That being said, there is something to be said for men being a potential threat. And a man who is clear he is not a threat is definitely more likely to be successful.

Flamingo-Remarkable · 2021-03-13T01:30:40+00:00

I don't know how old you are, neither how old your mum is, but, older generations tend to view/caracterize/regard women as weaker more vulnerable and fragile than men. I simply do not create an argument over this with older people, it's not worth it. Do you have a sister? When you have one or more, it's not uncommon to feel overprotective of them. The same goes for daughter(s). I know my sis is quite capable of defending herself, but I'll still be overprotective of her. I remember once, we were in Paraguay, me, my sis and her ex-husband, she's an attractive and well built woman, big, and in love with her gym... and those skinny and badly nourished paraguayan men were cat calling her all the time..., sometimes in bunches of three or more, and quite out loud, when me and and him would get distracted by something and walk some distance from her. It got me and my than brother-in-law very worried about her and wary of that place, even knowing she was very capable of defending herself if needed, and if we were of any help, it would have been 'complementary' at best. She could throw a couple of those guys in a trashcan if she wanted to, and make the rest run for their money. She is and was also always financially independent, but I will be always overprotective of her. I don't care much about nowadays feminism and the modern(or rather post-modern) left, and I often find a lot of conflict and contradiction in what they are trying to tell you, so I sympathize. I don't want to go down here a rabbit hole of how feminism has got to this ridiculous point or how the left has abandoned their original ideals and goals to chase ghosts, coz I believe you already get the idea.

2021-03-13T21:02:38+00:00

When I think of the role of “protector” I usually think of scenarios such as preventing harm from coming to your wife or girlfriend if someone broke in or if someone was trying to rape them. It’s a matter of security, I believe.

iwant-to-stay-unknow · 2021-03-15T01:05:54+00:00

No. We want men to not exhibit trash behavior and call it out when you see other men do it. The numerous existence of these articles + what your mother told you is a response to all the crap behavior that’s out there. Making women feel safer by men not sexually harassing or hating on them does not make men protectors, it’s the bare minimum of being a decent human.

Yesm3can · 2021-03-13T07:04:50+00:00

I am actually against the thought that anyone should be someone's protector because of their gender (men protecting women or vice versa) or their physical strature (big tall guy protecting a bullied skinny short guy) or their age (adult protecting children), etc. Now of course, calling police/authorities/securities/etc when you see someone in trouble is something one should do, but it is different than physically put yourself on the danger zone yourself.

Especially in countries where gun permit is difficult to get.

The key word here is 'should' or 'must' even. Protecting someone for any kind of reason is something that cannot be demanded or suggested to someone because it is involving personal risks...and that is the key, it is something very personal.

If an adult man runs away while a shooter is killing school children, I think it is wrong to shame that man. Now it is not so black and white...if that man (or woman), is someone who is actually PAID and TRAINED and VOLUNTARILY APPLIED for that job. Now there is accountability for people like that because he/she sucked at his job. And there is always consequences for failing a job.

I got harassed a few years ago at a subway station by a clearly drugged up person. There were people around me at that time, mostly adult men, but I never asked help from any of them. I solved the problem myself. It did not escalate too far, but years of martial arts training (mostly situational awareness training really) and also knowing where to get help (police station not too far away) did wonder. Luckily I feel that more and more women are open to the idea and even enjoy it, to find ways to protect themselves and ditch the idea of asking protection from random men.

IWillNeverGetLaid · 2021-03-14T01:54:05+00:00

U will get roasted bro gl

NoPlanForWeekends · 2021-03-13T11:55:25+00:00

deep down women will always want men to protect them. it has been like this for thousands of years, and in my opinion as a woman, feminism slogans like "strong independent women don't need men" is 100% bullshit. human civilisation was built on men and women working together to provide better living for family and society. men are biologically stronger than women, that's how it's been for thousands of years and that's how it will always be. because you are stronger you have responsibility to protect the weaker ones, that's just common ethics, even if you take genders out of the equation this rule still applies.

PlayfulLawyer · 2021-03-12T21:36:39+00:00

Don't protect feminists, seems simple lol

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