Hi Ladies, sorry this is a bit of a long one!

I’ll start with a bit about myself so my questions make sense. I’m British, of Indian origin and finished med school in the UK, I moved to the states to pursue a research year in order to get help get a place in a post grad surgical program here. The last 8 years have been gruelling and full of blood, sweat and tears. I’ll be starting my surgical training next year and will later go into plastic and reconstructive surgery. Something that’s always been a dream of mine is having my own practise in the US and having a foundation in Asia (that treats women who are victims of acid attacks and other physical deformities) that I will spend every summer operating at.

I consider myself red pill in most aspects of my life and I think it aligns well with my conservative values. When I was younger I always imagined being married by 25. However this was naive considering my other goals. I didn’t date during medical school as I have always known I would be moving countries and knew I didn’t want to get attached to a man that I would then breakup with and be left with a lot of baggage.

My current situation is that I’m financially stable and have no more difficult hoops to jump through to achieve the career I want. However I will be in a very time consuming training program for the next 6 years and I won’t be fully qualified till I’m 34.

I think I’ve already lost a lot of valuable time in terms of finding the right partner. My options are also a little more limited as I would prefer to marry someone from the same cultural background and someone who is also a doctor. The positives are that I’ve kept myself in good shape and take pride in my appearance so most people think I’m around 21. I will also be surrounded by people who fit my preferred demographic at work which is where I’ll be spending the majority of my time.

My questions are:

1 - In terms of dating, apart from meeting people at the hospital, when I have free weekends etc how should I approach meeting new people? Is online dating a good idea?

2 - I’m afraid that, as men tend to date younger women, the good men aged 28-30 are taken. Apparently most Americans get married in medical school (my ex did this when he was just 23). How true is this fear in general?

3 - The most important thing to me is children and having a great family. Although I would like to have more, I plan to have 2 and I don’t want to wait too long after 30 to have kids and put them at risk. Have any of you had any problems with having kids at 31/32?

4 - Due to time constraints, If I meet someone and am in a serious relationship, how fast should I theoretically move and by what age would it be smart for me to move in, get married and start trying for a baby?

5 - Is there anything I can do to make myself more desirable and make the age less of an issue? I’m generally very nurturing and take good care of the people I love (cooking, keeping the house clean, helping with emotional issues). Are there other things that I can do when dating a high value man?

6 - What is your opinion on dating men who are a few years younger than you are (up to 3 years)?

Thanks in advance if you’ve read all this! Any advice at all is much appreciated!