"Equality" is only ever about double standards - as you are all well aware by now

There is good news for men in the coming years. RP channels for men are taking off massively these days. There are plenty of them coming up on Youtube (just search for "Men marriage" and you'll be surprised). And it's clear in the comments section that almost every man is very well aware of what is going on. Out of all the responses, the phrase "double standards" is trending everywhere in comments sections on any YT video attempting to enlighten men to RP truths. The bold, independent, woman has no problems with continuously increasing her standards for men on every parameter imaginable. She feels feeling entitled to everything while claiming to owe nothing to anyone (except nastiness of course...). Gender equalists have no problems making sure the man loses most of his money and his kids in family court. Of course, we all know who initiates the majority of divorces, and for what reason. After she makes her "choice", he is blamed for making her a "victim".

Not to mention who pays on the dates, choreplay, and "our money" vs "her money", the "I want an open marriage, but damn if you even dare", women wanting the hottest looking muscular guy while causing global outrage over "fat shaming", and expecting to be unconditionally loved while clearly loving extremely conditionally. Divorcing the guy because he doesn't satisfy her sexually, but claiming cruelty when he wants her to please him. He does everything hoping to make her happy, often sacrificing the attractive man he once was, but she's never satisfied, nor returns the effort, but always makes it look like she's the one giving far more. Expecting everyone to understand her feelings, but unable to even grasp that others too have feelings.

If you mess up it's your fault, if I mess up, it IS your fault only. And last but not the least, claiming to be making "choices", but being unable to comprehend that choices come with "responsibilities" and "consequences".

The whole gender equality thing is THE ultimate irony.

A lot of men get disturbed and angry at what are clearly double standards, coming especially from the people who are very fond of advocating "equality" and getting likes on social media. So let's clear the air on this once and for all.

Human beings are emotional far more than rational

Especially in relationship matters. Your brain works well most of the time, except when it's drunk or in love. When emotions take over, rationality shuts down. The truth is, true EQUALITY is a 100% logical construct. The reality is that it is the EMOTIONAL MIND that is at work in relationships, with intelligence just playing a secondary hand to help the emotional mind get what it wants. Lesson #1.

In yoga, the emotional mind is termed as "manas", while the intellect is termed as "buddhi", and it shows we humans have been aware of the difference between the two for a long time.

The emotional mind doesn't really know "virtues" or "principles" the way the logical mind does. It is amoral.

We get upset over the double standards thing for two reasons - a) because we are at the receiving end of the bad side of it and b) Because our awareness mind has a hard time accepting that the emotional mind is amoral.

The emotional mind is lower level firmware that evolved from the animal kingdom, where only Darwinism rules -- it runs on a very simple script -- maximize what it FEELS will most benefit it at any particular moment. The emotional mind is built to help you fulfill anything that you desire by any means necessary.

The emotional mind's main concern is to foster your survival at any cost, no matter what. It therefore uses a virtue as a card when it helps it play the game better, and it abandons it when it feels its a liability. What the emotional mind truly seeks is power, to make up for what the ego believes it has lost and is needy for.

It's not that the emotional mind really has double standards, rather the problem is that the emotional mind is completely amoral.

The emotional mind is entirely self centered, occasionally somewhat extended. It only knows win-lose.

One of the wisest, oldest statements on love was made thousands of years ago by a wise sage. He says "It is only for the sake of the self, that everything is dear"

In other words, sollipsism and emotions are two sides of the same coin. The emotional mind at the most is extended towards loving one's family or children or close friends or possessions. But all this is essentially just "extended selfishness". These are all the things and ones we love because they are extensions of ourselves.

Ultimately the emotional mind is totally centered on whatever it believes to be the self or the most important part of the self. It's why mother and mother in law can be found in the same person.

The emotional mind will always act partial to the self and cannot, without some conscious moral compass, extend this to whatever it considers to be other than the self. If that image of "self" becomes too narrow that absolutely no one else is included in it, that person becomes a narcissist.

The emotional mind has a very limited range of awareness. Especially of consequences.

And some people have a much smaller range of awareness than others.

The emotional mind has a poor sense of time, as it is mainly programmed to work only for the moment. It is incapable of seeing life in the larger frame of things.

The whole point of your emotional mind is to try benefit you according to its simplistic firmware at any cost, even if that is not actually beneficial in the larger scheme of things.

It doesn't realize that actions come with consequences, and usually lives in denial even when the rational side of the mind (the awareness mind) tries to warn it. It doesn't realize that others too experience love, happiness and pain like itself. That by itself would explain almost all of humanity's mistakes throughout history in a nutshell.

This is why most people, in a fit of rage or fear or some other extreme emotion, usually do something that ends in regret (or death). It's why emotional mastery is essential in serious situations.

This is also why some people seem shocked when faced with real consequences of their words and actions.

At a physiological level, the emotional brain is reptilian. It is located above the primal structure that handles your basic functions like breathing and heartbeat and digestion, but the awareness and sophistication of the human mind really comes from the frontal cortex, which evolved to where it is much later in evolutionary history. All the rules and virtues and the whole concept of "equality" is a construct of your frontal cortex, not your reptilian emotional brain.

All emotional brains have Dark Triad traits - it's only a question of degree.

As a corollary to the above points, your emotional mind is a narcissist by default. It is also Machiavelian. And when your level of consciousness is too low, too narrow and egoistic, it transforms to psychopathy. The emotional mind of the modern woman is really just saying whatever it needs to convince your logical mind, but otherwise it never cared about principles in itself. If equality is what appeals to the logical mind, that is exactly what you'll be brainwashed to believe.

The emotional mind is sees everything beyond its limited range of "self" as tools to be used to meet its desires. It is only when it expands a little (if it does) that it is capable of actually loving anybody.

What we call as "relationships" these days are just blatant shopping for sex and resources at any cost. Life itself is going to make sure they don't last.

Your emotional brain's survival toolkit is too simple and primitive for facing yourself and the consequences of your actions

Your emotional mind runs on a flight or fight response suited for the animal kingdom. Furthermore, it is not something really capable of self honesty or introspection. Therefore when you are in trouble, you will find yourself reverting to your emotional brain and it's limited range of tactics -- blame someone else, avoid responsibility, throw tantrums and fits, resort to violence, try to commit suicide to avoid facing its karma.

The emotional mind is therefore, seldom truly sorry. It only wants to get itself out of trouble. It's the awareness side of your frontal cortex that can truly understand the impact of what you've done.

Lacking true discrimination, the emotional mind seeks pleasure and avoids pain

While not knowing that both are really two sides of the same coin. It's why addicts and pleasure seekers of all kinds destroy themselves. And relationships as they are increasingly becoming now, are just addictions to sex and resources. The quest for pleasure is the direct consequence of an inner dialogue that is convinced it is miserable, and it is this inner pain that rules the pattern of their lives.

The emotional mind uses logic only as far as it needs to support itself, not for truth

It's called hamstering.

The subconscious emotional mind runs only on patterns. Hence your past matters. And emotional patterns run deep.

This is why we all say one thing, but do the exact opposite.

Etching new patterns into the mind is the job of the conscious mind. The subconscious, reactive, emotional mind runs only the same repetitive patterns it has become used to for a lifetime. Therefore, women who always have a history of pump and dump relationships aren't going to magically wise up after their party years, attain enlightenment like a buddha and marry a "good man" and love him forever. Sooner or later, after the emotional mind has met it's survival needs, it's going to go back to its old ways.

It's why no matter how much RP you read, many of you men will again and again fall back into your old dysfunctional BP patterns. This may even resurface even after years after doing everything right, usually by some kind of traumatic event. Not unless you are willing to carve your old self out of existence consciously, is there any chance at all to get out of the hole you've dug yourselves into.

So don't believe anyone who says they've overcome their past, not unless their entire life reflects it. Your new lean muscular body in the mirror is far more truthful to you than you'll ever be.

Overcoming your past is earned only by an entire lifetime of trust and commitment. So save the praise for the very end.

Many issues with the emotional mind start almost naturally in childhood

Children can be innocent and wonderful, in many ways more beautiful and joyful human beings than adults. But they can also be needy and can be mean and ignorant of the impact of their words and actions on others. Many deep emotional issues start in childhood based on how a child's undeveloped mind, mostly emotion driven, tries to interpret what happens to it.

No one has a perfect childhood, no two children will respond similarly, but without them knowing it, these impressions make quite an impact on their subconscious minds. Every child also has intrinsic differences which can cause them to respond very differently.

The problem however goes to another level if the lack of awareness isn't fixed by adulthood. Many many cases of healing old wounds involve failure of a person's mind to accept and resolve issues faced as a child.

Lack of healthy masculine energy in a child's formative years leads to men become either overly nice guys (raised by women) or often violent criminals (no concept of boundaries) and it almost always leads to daughters becoming unstable and turning into modern unfeminine feminists, even turning bisexual or lesbian in that crowd even though they weren't born that way. It is the feminine within them seeking the masculinity it needed, but never got.

The gender equality thing was never really out of logic or awareness ultimately. Neither is being "liberal".

It might have been well intentioned in the beginning. But today the whole equality thing is humanity's greatest irony because in the end it was only ever an emotional game for power.

The same thing for "liberal". The word actually refers to people who are capable of accepting ans handling differences. If you've ever disagreed with a liberal though, you'd know the truth. Liberalism was just the emotional mind wanting to finally become free. Now you know why liberals are ironically the most outraged generation ever.

Ultimately whether liberal or conservative, the emotional mind doesn't behave any differently in terms of its flight or fight response. And ultimately that's what it is really about.

Being a victim allows your dysfunctional ego to survive

The ego is never more dangerous than when it is right. Religion, politics and gender are 3 strongholds of the ego. And one of the best ways to be right is to be the victim - because it justifies you being stuck forever. Your subconscious mind wants to survive just like you, because it IS your old self, and being victim allows it the perfect opportunity to avoid facing itself and discover true empowerment. Therefore, the strong, empowered, independent woman will instantly pull out the victim card if that is what she feels will benefit her prospects in that moment.

A narcisstic emotional mind can never digest a taste of its own medicine

If anything ever has to convince you that the emotional mind cannot even grasp principles or is even aware of what's beyond itself, it's this. Just watch what happens to people when it does, when the cheater gets cheated, when the ones who boasted that they don't owe anything aren't owed anything in return either. The one who spent a whole lifetime rejecting starts to get rejected. The women who had nothing to offer but felt entitled to no less than the Prince of Gods are shocked and outraged to find men have standards too and they in fact need some abundance at all to be attractive. All of a sudden, they just turn into wrecks and suffer nuclear meltdowns, the utter insecurity inside their minds now starkly exposed.

This is not a bad thing. It's life, the great big daddy teaching you what no father ever did. If you're humble enough it's a good chance to reflect and understand this is exactly what you've been doing all this time, but sadly, this is usually not enough for many narcissistic characters to learn.

Of late the level of female narcissism in relationships seems to be crossing what was preciously considered insanity. We now have vaccines for the Corona virus, but we really need a solution for the "Karenavirus", which only seems to be spreading ever more rapidly.

Your emotional mind is not all evil, but right now it's driving you as its slave

Emotions can be used for good or evil. Emotions are what fuel desires and thoughts into action and make you more than just a robotic machine. You can't experience love or happiness or fulfillment without it. Without them, you are a head without a body. You will have no motivation to do anything. If you don't harness it you can't even transform you.

The problem is not that you use your emotions, actually they are using you almost all the time. As I wrote before, I consider it laughable when the media talks about "choice", when feminists say "choice". How can you choose if only your impulses and compulsions are doing the choosing? They are free of the patriarchy, but not themselves!

But if you can stay on top of your mind, your emotions can give you immense strength and power. All great achievements in history didn't happen because everyone knew what to do, they happened due to focusing their emotional energy. You also become extremely lively and full of vitality only if your emotions are by nature strong and healthy.

But...

Emotional Freedom without awareness is an invitation to disaster

The emotional mind is like a headless body. It lacks the discrimination, but has all the energy.

In our society, we've given women more freedom than they ever had at any point at any time in human history, which is mostly due to the advancement of technology and the economy. But unfortunately that hasn't come with anywhere near the awareness needed to handle such freedom properly, and in essence is giving guns to a child.

Power of a man, privilege of a woman, emotional IQ of a child, accountability of a baby, awareness of a rock.

That's what your emotional mind really wants. And that's increasingly becoming the case in modern relationships. I have been around actual tribes of monkeys in the jungle that are far more evolved.

I'm telling you guys, don't cry if your relationship failed for this reason. Life itself saved you from a bullet. If anything, it's a reminder that while you need women for sex, women aren't your salvation from your self created, needy, miserable existence. Rather, they are a reminder that the solution to your problems lies within yourself, and the world is a reflection responding to your deepest inner frame.

I'm borrowing this comment from one of those YT channels by men, for men. Once upon a time, they said "Behind every successful man, there is a woman". Today that is still true, in a different context -- "Behind every successful man, there is a failed relationship!!"

Karma's a bitch they say. But actually, karma is Father Time, the toughest teacher to the mind.

I've seen it and it's real, we just don't know another person that well that we can see when, where or how it comes for them, but if you do, you'll soon see for yourself that there is no escape from time in the long run. Time has always been compared to a father because it is in fact the most uncompromising father ever.

So many of these women living with more privilege than ever before are also unhappier and more unfulfilled than they've ever been, wondering why despite all that they believed, they're still miserable.

Far too many of them have faced mental illnesses and depression and many of them are addicted to antidepressants and drugs than they would admit. They wonder where all the good men have gone and why feminism failed to give them the utopia it promised. They hate the world and men because they felt they were owed the world but no one gave it to them. They wonder why "Happily Ever After" didn't come and have a hard time facing the truth, harder than many men do. They do not realize it is their own needy egoic nature of forever seeking elsewhere and never able to find abundance within that is really the true cause of their persistent misery.

The BP men sold on porn, drugs, alcohol and games are one day going to either kill themselves or take others along if they hate their existence and everyone's existence that much.

Ultimately, inner pain (and all pain) is a sign that something is wrong, and till that something is never admitted to and faced with honesty, there's no way out of it. Time is most masculine thing in this universe, the father of all fathers, never giving you a free hand to escape the consequences of what you've done to yourself and others. The best teacher to the mind is indeed time itself.

Time itself does everything it can to expose the reality of modern relationships by any means necessarily, if you can call them that.

As father time forces more and more men to swallow the red pill hopefully become aware of the harsh truths of life, down the road, women too will have to fit into the frame and get back into balance, whether they admit it or not. Men have already begun the process of facing themselves, women will resist it for much longer, till father time forces them to swallow their own Red Pills and it's not a choice anymore.

At least the good news is that the truth can no longer be hidden anymore. It's now all out in the open, and it's not even subtle.

What you throw at the world, is what comes back to you, whether that is neediness, or abundance.