How do you know if its depression?

themostgianthorse · 2021-05-13T21:58:34+00:00

You seem to be trying to watch the grass grow.

We all have some attachment to outcome but you sound like you aren’t enjoying the process at all. You are solely focused on the outcome.

What to do when you don’t enjoy the process? Change it!

Also, you identified 2 areas in which you want to improve but haven’t yet. If both of those areas are important to you, of course all the other shit isn’t going to make as much of an impact.

Have you been focusing on all of these other areas in an attempt to avoid approaching women and practicing self defense out of fear?

We must do what we fear.

ofkarma · 2021-05-13T22:27:13+00:00

Honestly you need to find your purpose. It sounds like you “made one up” that you thought you’d be happy with but are currently not.

You’re not going to feel better if you’re not in love with your purpose. Working towards something you do not want will not incite happiness.

Before you drop a paragraph of how you “don’t feel anything” or just more “darkness” shit, it’s probably depression or the latter. Look I get it. Numbness. Quick giving into it. Nobody gives a shit. Only you can change the way you feel.

If it is depression or not - doesn’t matter. Your purpose is the issue & will remain as so even if your doc puts you on Xanax for the rest of your life.

PeaceBeUponUs2020 · 2021-05-14T01:39:55+00:00

Talk to God on a hike alone

JBlanket · 2021-05-14T01:45:39+00:00

This is not depression, this is just feeling sorry for yourself.

Keep trying and do better, no excuses.

Btw after reading more... The good stuff takes time. It will be worth it. I and probably a few others are in the same boat. This shit just takes time and the ability to stay proactive. It's NOT depression, get used to this. It's part of the struggle of being your own man. Seriously, do better and better will come. Read more books and make sure to let the info sit, understand what the author is trying to get across. Push yourself

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2021-05-14T05:05:10+00:00

Fuck motivation, you need discipline...and a daily b12 pill(giving you energy, libido, and antidepressant properties).

Lookup:

Eric Thomas- "WHY", "beast mode", "120".

Jocko - "discipline", "what is motivation".

The Rock - "7 dollars."

David goggins- if this motherfucker doesn't give you the spark to fire up your ass, idk what will...

PersonalDevKit · 2021-05-13T22:50:13+00:00

Depression loosely described is sadness with no reason.

Sadness with a cause is just that, you can change the cause, acknowledge it, accept it etc.

Sounds like you may have a bit of depression, I'm not a doctor, but that doesn't mean you can't see value in what you do day to day. You will probably never be normal, pro tip not many people are. You are better off not comparing yourself to others but to who you were a week ago, a year ago, 10 years ago. If you find areas where you have dropped back, friendships etc then that is your new focus. Push your comfort zone, go to a dance class, social football/soccer any sport, join a martial arts group, anything that will get you around others, hell a book reading group. If you can't do these because of Covid then try and find online alternatives, zoom book groups or whatever.

Some days I feel like nothing I do matters, everything just feels shit, what is the point anyway, but I have had years of this feeling so I force myself through my day. If you stop the depression wins, if you hide away watching videos the depression wins, if you isolate yourself in anyway the depression wins. Now of course you need some time alone to recover, if you have introverted tendencies, but if that turns into a week of not interacting then it's time to force yourself into something.

These days I find that feeling of hopelessness is a lot quieter it is drowned out by the things I have built for my life. It isn't an easy road but it is one you have to start walking down if you want a happier life.

BlindMaestro · 2021-05-14T00:05:36+00:00

I wish I had a solution for you. I’m spitballing here cause I’ve been in similar ruts. When your days start to blend together, your progress appearing less and less tangible, I suggest you plan and organize a trip: something to look forward to and that breaks the monotony. Maybe a hiking trip, invite a girl, or maybe take her to Six Flags or whatever your equivalent is if you live outside the U.S.

HockeyAndMoney · 2021-05-14T04:21:14+00:00

Hey can I try to help? Reading this gave me feelings of nostalgia because we were in similar spots. You want to be motivated and passionate again, and that seems to be your goal. However that is not how you derive meaning, it seems you really want what we call meaning. But you cant find these feelings that meaning brings on (motivated, focused, productive) without knowing what you want. I think you need to do some real thinking about what you really want. I dont mean think about it like you think about everything else. I mean close your eyes, clear your mind, and then start asking yourself questions, talk out loud if you need to. Get so deep in your own head that you arnt thinking about anything except the 1 line of thought that you are actively controlling. Tell every other thought to fuck off for a sec.

When you search deep down about what you want to do and what you want, devote everything to your new goal. Once you move towards a better future that you want, you will feel life again

throwawayok272728492 · 2021-05-14T11:04:52+00:00

This might be depression or something else. I had the same feelings and outlook, but more or less I caused my situations. Anyways, I got my hormone levels checked...I’d recommend you do the same through a urologist. I’m not a doctor but I see a lot of the same symptoms based off your post that I had, and somewhat still have. The good thing is you’re taking action and actively trying to solve your problems. So even if your hormones are fine then that’s one definitive answer to what isn’t causing issues.

DurianWild5166 · 2021-05-14T11:56:31+00:00

If you feel like it's the end of the world for you then it's definitely depression!

Snowboard18 · 2021-05-14T15:55:21+00:00

Hormones.

Im sure you’ve already heard the other options from the other commenters, but this one is never really brought up when talking about depression and it’s causes.

You may be asking, how tf do you know that hormones can cause depression ?? Your not a damn doctor

Well, Sarms cause I TEST SUPPRESSION. It’s not as bad as regular steriods cause those usually shut your hormone production down completely. Also not saying that this is definitely the cause, just something to consider and get tested

I did a sarm cycle personally and let me tell your it was one of the biggest mistakes I’ve ever made in my life and I’m dead serious about that

I didn’t realize it until I was in about week 5 of my LGD cycle at only 2.5 mg Ed. With that small of a dose my testosterone became so suppressed that I turned to drugs. Was addicted to multiple substances for years, and to think that all of this was caused by a seemingly small decision to buy a little bottle of sarms.

So if I were you I’d tell my doc to test my hormone levels ASAP and tell him you’ve been experiencing things that are exactly how the internet describes how you feel with low test

FuzzyDice12 · 2021-05-14T17:50:43+00:00

So I’m kind of the opposite of you and know that I’m am dealing(pushing myself to get out as we speak) with an episode of depression. I have a lot of circumstances around me and can easily explain why this has happened to me 2 or 3 times. But let me give you some contrast:

I am constantly praised. I am admired by many, constantly have people asking me for advice whether business or personal, am in the top % of men(even if I don’t feel like it), my only Achilles heel would be my height if I was to be picky.

Everything feels empty for me. Nothing makes me happy or gives a sense of relief or accomplishment. So it’s not just about a feedback loop, it’s like you constantly have a cloud over you that makes everything feel fruitless.

What am I doing to slowly get myself out of it? I am addressing what I recognize are my failures and allowed me to get to this point several times. I’m telling myself daily no matter what I’m goi g to get my passion and fire back, nothing is going to stop me. Slowly those clouds are going away, regardless of circumstances I CANT control.

redditSucksNow2020 · 2021-05-14T05:03:27+00:00

Move abroad. Get an English teaching job in Taiwan or Vietnam

DoubleConversation4 · 2021-05-14T08:19:37+00:00

What's your testosterone level?
Do you have a purpose in this life?

What you have does sound like clinical depression driven by lack of energy and motivation.

I still believe that 95% of depressed men would be fine if they had the optimal testosterone level, which is between 800-1200 ng/dl.

Title	How do you know if its depression?
Author	mickey__
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Date	May 13, 2021 9:39 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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