Why do dudes care so much about what women or other people do? [Redpill detox]

boredbitch2020 · 2021-05-05T09:54:55+00:00

It seems to really be about control, and a sense of the loss of it. They pine for the days when women had less legally protected rights and autonomy, were dependant on men, and subject to their whims. They've built a masculine identity on it. Women doing things they don't like, or didnt tell them to do, means they dont have control and it threatens their identity and ego. Even mainstream ideas of masculinity seem predicated upon dominance and control, and a loss of control is disastrous.

As an adult, one should understand you only have control over yourself, and check yourself for you emotional reactions to the things people do that don't even involve you.

redditistoxicaf200 · 2021-05-05T16:04:37+00:00

Because they're totally materialistic (I'm a dude) and thinking life is all about getting laid

WonderingFairy · 2021-05-05T17:06:59+00:00

I’m not a guy. But I have met the love of my life when he was not caring about women or other people anymore. Live your life, take a chance if you like someone but expect nothing and do you. Maybe you will also meet the love of your life, maybe you will just be living your best life on your own but whatever you are doing it will be on your own terms. That book is interesting, I’ve read it too. Read the book “can’t hurt me” by David Goggins for the next step in focusing on achieving your goals. Take care!

2021-05-06T13:23:49+00:00

I think one reason might be because the culture tells men that being successful with women is an important part of being a "real man", and if you're not you should be ashamed of yourself.

Also patriarchy and male entitlement I think makes some men react with resentment when they learn that they have to put some effort into being attractive to someone and that women will judge them. Perhaps there's some widespread childhood trauma underneath that resentment too, low self esteem I'm thinking from not having had their fair share of love in childhoods.

xvszero · 2021-05-05T12:30:55+00:00

Because most of them are right wingers who have strict ideas of how gender works, and they don't like that things are changing.

Dododo0808 · 2021-05-05T20:55:33+00:00

In my experience is usually a rude awakening because women think the same way but that has been my own personal experience

I've met women and I've got female friends who care about body counts and who is sleeping with who

TheDevilPutD · 2021-05-06T18:16:16+00:00

It's natural. We want the opposite sex. Women's conversations are probably 90% about guys. What clothes to wear to attract guys, what make up to buy, how to do their hair, what places al the guys go to, how to lose weight for the guys. It's very similar on the other side.

MilkchocolateHero · 2021-05-11T08:02:29+00:00

I'm no psychologist, but it seems it may be a need to control things. It's possible that some people feel a loss of control over their own lives and try to make up for it by attempting to control the behavior of others.

Its usually easier to see the flaws in others than self reflect and take care of our own issues.

Lexxicon1983 · 2021-05-06T00:00:46+00:00

They care when it involves and affects them and gets forced by the government. Mainly false rape accusations with no recourse for their fake accuser, family (child access for non-abusive fathers, and what may turn out to be non-paternity) and money (being forced to pay child support for children that aren't theirs and alimony to women who don't bother to work or have more than enough in the initial split, but use family courts to get even more to pay for extravagant lifestyles). These issues affect men directly and are always perpetrated by women with the help from government programs. So, yeah. They can most definitely have a say about it.

yulemguysmmoja · 2021-05-05T11:58:04+00:00

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Apprehensive-Tour-96 · 2022-04-30T07:34:02+00:00

Well your question is as f'in dumb as you are

In case you live under a f'in rock you might know that men want to get married and have children , raise a family into healthy adults so these same kids can one day as doctors and nurses look after your sorry ass when you are old & decrepit lying in hospital because of your f'in stupidity.

To do this men must choose the right woman , who won't send them to jail , run off with their kids and bang some hobo and they dont want the ho to take his house, car and all his money either because of the family court system.

So the man needs a system to find the high quality woman from the low quality ones.

To do this he needs to know who these women are , how they think, how to engage with them correctly , how to pick the right one and how to finally meet his goals to have kids and raise them to one day save your sorry ass again when your f'in house is on fire because of your crack pipe, and his young son , now a fireman climbs 10 storey's to drag your sorry ass out.

The red pill helps him navigate through all of this and meet his goals. That's all , its very simple.

Got it numbnuts.

Title	Why do dudes care so much about what women or other people do? [Redpill detox]
Author	yulemguysmmoja
Upvotes	30
Comments	61
Date	May 5, 2021 4:40 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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