Can I save my buddy?

ay-fuh-q · 2021-05-02T12:20:53+00:00

You cannot make guys understand this. They either wake up or they don't. Either way, they'll look at you as the "typical guy" while they believe themselves to be "above you" for not seeing women "that way."

Let him bend your ear with his whining and bullshit. Smile. Nod. Fuck women. And he can go home and crank 'em out while believing he's Prince Charming. Sad, but true.

TheRedPillRipper · 2021-05-02T11:31:00+00:00

Feel terrible

First men don’t have the luxury of emotional expression. That’s a woman’s prerogative.

Can I save my buddy?

No. You can however support him. Bring him to the gym. Get him meal prepping with you. Frame it like you need his help instead of the other way around. Get him to be your wingman. Go spear-fishing/rock climbing/hiking together. Build your bond.

More importantly; be patient and consistent. If he’s truly your brother don’t give up on him. Sure mitigating his negative impact on your life is paramount, but neglecting your positive impact on his; is a choice.

Godspeed and good luck!

Blackhawk2479 · 2021-05-02T11:21:27+00:00

Stop feeling terrible for him, he doesn’t want your help.

Focus on yourself, lead by example. If he wants to wake up, he will.

adam-l · 2021-05-02T15:16:57+00:00

If TRP is too much for him, maybe try the Men's Rights angle first? The Myth of Male Power?

cluelessguitarist · 2021-05-02T14:47:24+00:00

Invite him to the gym, do physical stuff, if he declines let him be.

RoamFreely · 2021-05-02T15:40:50+00:00

Were you the reason he left his cheating wife ? Almost seems like he would have forgiven her if not for influence. The thing is, introduce him to RP content and thats ALL you can do. Whether he accepts or rejects is on him and cant be changed by anyone else

Whisper · 2021-05-02T15:44:45+00:00

The one person you cannot save people from is themselves.

DavidCameronEtonLad · 2021-05-02T17:48:12+00:00

TRP isn't about evangelising. People either find it or they don't and there's nothing you can do to accelerate the process. Sure he's your friend and you feel a sense of duty, but he could also very easily just flip out one day slandering you because he doesn't get it. Be there for him if you care about him so he doesn't crash too hard, invite to activities going gym going out to eat or even just chilling and having a good time, but ultimately the only way you could save your buddy is living your best life and hope that he gets inspired to go down his own journey

SeasonedRP · 2021-05-02T20:27:24+00:00

I've known some men like this, and one of my closest friends fits your description. Some men, for whatever reason, have a need to live with women. My friend's wife treated him horribly, but yet he was lost when he lived by himself for a bit after they split. Since then, he's always had a woman living with him. He's sensible enough not to get married again, and seems happy so I don't say anything, but it just seems like some guys need to have a woman under the roof.

MrNeurotypical · 2021-05-02T20:55:29+00:00

I dunno, I have no trouble teaching it to my 12 yr old son. I just straight up told him the Disneyland fairy tale true love romance happily ever after isn't true. You could see the lightbulb go on immediately. I went on to explain hypergamy and soon solipsism.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2021-05-03T01:32:36+00:00

Guys have to show up here and Figure Shit Out in their own time, not in yours.

You cannot save your buddy; he must save himself.

That said, you do not have to list to his bullshit whining. Point out that he keeps doing the same shit and keeps getting the same crap results.

319Skew · 2021-05-03T03:10:33+00:00

You can't save some. Pour a drink for your fallen hommie and wish him well then disengage.

Faifaskills999 · 2021-05-23T22:55:29+00:00

he’s a lost cause

Title	Can I save my buddy?
Author	Far_Ad_731
Upvotes	24
Comments	20
Date	May 2, 2021 8:51 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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