Extremely sad after a short relationship

jjfast666 · 2016-10-25T04:41:28+00:00

All those little talks about nothing are the most meaningful and exposed conversations you can have with a girl.

Keep your guard up next time. You let yourself love her more than 90%, leaving you with less than 10% for yourself when she left. It's going to take more time to rebuild. Let the emotions play out, be sad some more, and keep doing exactly what you're doing.

AlfredApple · 2016-10-25T05:56:57+00:00

The first few months of any relationship overdoses your body with oxytocin; you are going through withdrawals.

bbmc7gm6fm · 2016-10-25T12:49:09+00:00

My question is, why does this one hurt so much?

Because you don't study the Red Pill knowledge, let alone practicing them!

- Never under any circumstance live with a woman you aren't married to or are not planning to marry in within six months.

Locogooner · 2016-10-25T11:30:24+00:00

Literally exact same happened to me as well.

We're human at the end the day.

Every guy will have this happen to him at least once.

MeatCurtainRod · 2016-10-25T15:41:09+00:00

The BIGGEST MISTAKE is thinking "feeling sad" is something that shouldn't happen to you. Yes life is full of sadness. Yes you will experience it, otherwise you will never mature into a real adult. Yes this is something everyone experiences.

The DIFFERENCE between men and boys, is men figure out how to dust off, learn from that experience, and keep moving forward, knowing you are going to bare these emotions for the rest of your life. Find out what works for you. Fix whatever you figure needs fixing, and try again. Repeat until you find nirvana.

bkhong95 · 2016-10-25T07:55:42+00:00

This happened to me before I discovered trp.

I think the reason why you're sad is because she built up your expectation, then left you hanging. As a rule of thumb, I tend to avoid getting into an LTR with a girl who comes on too strong. Perfect as a plate though, for you don't have to put in much effort to get sex.

2ndLion · 2016-10-25T09:54:19+00:00

Same happend to me

I had just found TRP 2 months prior, I had been single for 10 - 11 months enjoying my single life, when I met this one - I called her my siren, because she had those big blue eyes that realed me in. Eventually I fell back to my old BP me from after a 5 year relationship. I had fun with alot of ups and downs, but what broke me was the fact that I had never been special to her, I was just another dick in the CC. It fucked me up inside and I isolated for 6 months, smoking weed, playing video games - and reading alot of TRP. Let me give you one advice: Go channel your anger on something useful, like working out, I only regret that i wasted my time on stupid shit, instead of working out. In the end I am happy it happened because It has taught me to never truely give 100% any girl. I am not angry at her or myself anymore, and I am glad it didn't last now that I look back. Dunno if this helps ya - Don't let a bitch drag you down.

zboo1h · 2016-10-25T12:38:59+00:00

I've found myself feeling like bawling because of a ONS that was particularly intelligent and attractive. I felt like such a little faggot. My guess is you need to sleep with more women.

We can imagine "special connections" with these hoes, but honestly my dude there might have been a real connection in there. But, guess what? AWALT. AWALT doesn't care about how you meshed or what you talked about after you got done getting sweaty together.

No unicorns, bro. She was never yours.

Mick-Q-1188 · 2016-10-25T12:50:03+00:00

This same scenario happened to me too in late summer, I worked with the girl (I know, don't shit where you eat). I can totally relate to this, I was seeking more than just a casual sex arrangement. I discovered TRP after the whole thing. In hindsight I was DEEP in BP consciousness. I spent a lot of time at hers over the month we were seeing one another, I stayed over many times, which I think was a mistake too. I got too attached and literally over night she went cold and aloof, along with serious moodiness, it seemed like she was irritated by my very existence.

This was like 6 weeks ago when it ended abruptly, the downside was I saw her everyday in work. At the start I ignored many red flags indicating she had mental health issues (On pills for anxiety and depression) along with validation whoring (Still spoke to exes). It tortured me for many weeks, thinking that I missed her, however, enough time has passed for me to realize that it's not her I missed it was the high of getting female attention and sex on the regular.

I'm thankful for the experience however painful it may have been, it gave me the kick I needed to wake up and work towards cleansing myself of BP mentality which inevitably leads to this sort of outcome.

empatheticapathetic · 2016-10-25T13:41:13+00:00

Gonna save this thread. A lot of useful info and perspectives here.

fvrthebrave · 2016-10-25T22:28:38+00:00

This exact same shit happened to me bro. Literally this exact story. Mine transfered, but seriously found another dude the first week of school in a new town. Complete ghost.

Internalize that you didn't like her, you liked the IDEA of her. Once you can understand why you convince yourself of the idea, you can build a shell for next time. Time, and fresh pussy heal these things, chin up. We all are humans bro.

MattyAnon · 2016-10-25T22:44:05+00:00

My question is, why does this one hurt so much?

You liked her. You're young. It gets easier with time.

It hurts so much because you are adapted to being surrounded by 10-20 fertile females and your brain thinks you don't have 50 million other options in your tribe.

You need to reassure your primate brain that it can fuck other women. Ideally by fucking other women. Then it will calm the fuck down. Abundance mentality.

and basically ignore girls for a while,

You can't fight biology.

1Maverick1 · 2016-10-25T19:40:35+00:00

Yea dude. The chemicals in your brain are telling you that you are being rejected (your genetics are being rejected) and ultimately are unworthy of reproducing (not true). So just chill for a little while dude. Play D&D just like I do while drinking sodas late into the night with some of your nerd friends. You'll be fine.

Title	Extremely sad after a short relationship
Author	fvrthebrave
Upvotes	16
Comments	44
Date	October 25, 2016 4:30 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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