"I just wanna make it clear that I don't want to have sex with you" wtf? Is she more trouble than it's worth?

prostaddict · 2016-10-28T21:43:34+00:00

Almost everytime I hung out with a girl and we slept together, she would indicate something to the lines of us not having sex. It's her anti-slut defense kicking in. When it does happen, she can just tell her friends 'it just happened' rather than planning it. Give it a shot, but if you're getting that frustrated it sounds like you simply lack abundance. Have you read Sex God Method?

Also, if she keeps resisting, try freezing her out. Completely stopping making out and turning the lights on to do something else and dont pay attention to her. She'll freak out and pull you back in

ex_addict_bro · 2016-10-28T22:01:57+00:00

After a few back and forth she tells me to come over after work..but adds "but I just want to make it clear that I don't want to have sex with you"

She was DTF. She wanted to fuck you. Girl saying this is actually a good thing (if you want to fuck her). You hear this the next time, you say "OK, no problem", you buy condoms, you wash your dick, you sprinkle some smell-good shit on yourself, you go straight to her place and you fuck.

nicethingyoucanthave · 2016-10-28T23:19:19+00:00

seductively tease me away half naked

If a girl is doing that to you, move to the bedroom, get naked, and lay on your back on the bed. She'll climb on top of you just to be in your field of view. Believe me, she will. They always do. She wants eye contact and attention, and she'll chase you to get it.

So then, she'll do her little dance while straddling you, and then she'll start playing with your dick. Eventually, she'll slide it in her. This is how I've ended up (stupidly) having a lot of unprotected sex, so be careful.

welcome_to · 2016-10-29T02:51:21+00:00

"I don't want to have sex with you"

She's literally describing exactly what she wants from you. I love it when women say shit like this. You know she's been thinking about it.

shapb · 2016-10-28T22:13:00+00:00

I've been there recently, still pissed at myself.

It sounds different in your head, but if she is gently saying no, then it IS a shit test (not a firm NO). She clearly wants it, you have to deal with her objections. That simple. Persistence would be key.

Play it as no big deal. You bring her over. Fool around, anticipate her resistance because if it happened before I garunteed you it will happen again until you pass the shit test.

I also noticed you have been complaining about "too much effort." Ran into this part too with the same girl, when I withdrew all attention and affection, she started working to chase me and rebuild that tension herself. If another redpill user can comment on that part. Would be great.

BTW don't cuddle with her. You are just giving her attention without the sex. Forfilling her need and denying yours. Cuddling should only serve as a means to physically to escalate to sex.

Cunt_Robber · 2016-10-29T04:17:49+00:00

Be prepared to get dressed and just leave if you feel she's taking up too much of your time and frustration is starting to build. I had a similar experience a year ago where I was gaming this girl and for whatever reason she kept teasing me and teasing me but escalating her was frustrating as fuck cause I got nowhere even after trying different approaches, and then suddenly she excused herself to the bathroom, then came back, grabbed my hand and put it down her pants. I started fingering her pretty good. Fingering turned into the pants coming off and me eating her delicious pussy out to a throbbing body orgasm, then surprisingly she put her pants back on while I was half naked expecting further escalation, and again started teasing and teasing but resisting my escalating attempts. I tried nicely, I tried aggressively (choked her, slapped her, forced myself on her to see if she had a rape fantasy but being careful not to actually 'force' anything), I tried to tickle her, I tried to take a break and spent some time changing the music and checking text messages--nothing worked. All the while she's giggling and having the best time getting off on my building frustration (which I assume had started to show a little--I was dumbfounded). And then it dawned on me suddenly that I did not want to get blue balls that night. I had to get home and masturbate if she wasn't gonna put out at all (also tried to get her to suck my dick multiple times). This all flashed through my head in a matter of seconds, then without a second to spare I got up, put my shirt on, put my shoes on, made sure I had all my belongings on me, and left her there on her bed without saying another word.

Of course, she comes chasing down the hall after me, half naked, still trying to joke around with me. I looked at her and shrugged and said she wasted both of our times, and exited the building.

If someone can point out what the fuck I did wrong there...? OP, go for what you want, and if you can't get it within like the first hour that you're over there (make sure you're escalating, consuming alcohol preferably, being flirty and fun), just get up and leave. No matter how inexperienced she sounds, if you two got to the point you describe in private, this means she's been there before and is comfortable enough with it, which means she probably would be comfortable with sex too, but for whatever fucking reason she's putting up that last barrier, and dangling that pussy juuuuust out of reach. Think with your head here. If you keep trying and it doesn't work, calmly ignore, grab your things, and leave. Just leave. No need for backlash, mean words, teaching her a lesson, showing emotion, etc. Just leave bro

Danedina · 2016-10-29T12:14:55+00:00

Tough one. She's got a wild side, but she also seems kind of nuts and she's got a hang-up about sex. Probably best to avoid her, as hard as that sounds. Her anxiety will probably kick in again, and even if you do manage to bang her it won't be great sex. Your best case scenario is that you help her overcome her anxiety and then weeks down the line it gets better. That's best case. More likely it ends with nothing or bad sex.

If you do decide to let her come over then make it clear from the beginning that you only have a little bit of time so that you can send her home any time you want.

fuckMeRedFuckYouBlue · 2016-10-29T15:00:37+00:00

Plausible deniability and responsibility avoidance. She wants to fuck a man that can take her there.

Arschrapine · 2016-10-29T15:42:51+00:00

by that point I was completely turned off by this and didn't care so we just fell asleep cuddling.

If you were completely turned off and didn't care then you wouldn't have fallen asleep cuddling. You would have frozen her out. If you can't get off then she can't get off emotionally or physically.

So the truth was that you failed. You did in fact care despite claiming not to. You gave her everything she wanted without taking anything in return. You treated her special. Pedestal.

ecosci · 2016-10-30T14:47:30+00:00

She thinks your a beta boy this would never happen to chad she will jump his bones already.

binrobinro · 2016-10-28T21:45:30+00:00

I wouldn't deal with this. You may think it's worth it, but I don't.

Title	"I just wanna make it clear that I don't want to have sex with you" wtf? Is she more trouble than it's worth?
Author	redgamee
Upvotes	4
Comments	21
Date	October 28, 2016 9:40 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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