Why not fall in love?

648262 · 2016-10-31T12:47:37+00:00

The difference is that with oneitis you'll never see her faults. Your hamster will make them seem invisible to you. You can be in love and see her faults, and make a decision if you'll accept them or not.
Plates will make it difficult to develop feels nags because you only have sex with plates, and there's more of them. So when you'll start developing feelings for one they'll be drowned by the lust for some other plate.
Agreed. It's not bad to fall in love. It's bad to make stupid decisions based of love, but that is something else.
Life is easier without feelings. There is a reason why MRP is considered RP on hard mode. It is more difficult to make it work, and the potential pitfalls are huge. But more risk gives more reward often.
I don't know about this. Falling in love is a good experience in itself though. I recommend it for everyone.

anddennn · 2016-10-31T12:33:42+00:00

Why not fall in love?

These hoes ain't loyal.

Willkuer_ · 2016-10-31T11:32:26+00:00

First of all it seems like there is something like redpill-love. Just look at the threads of married rp. These guys claim to love their women. But this kind of love is something completely different than bluepill love.

I can't answer the first question as I never experienced redpill-love. I think it is rather loving your life than your wife. But she is part of it.

2) You experience the 'shallowness' and reason of relationships. It's all about maximizing your (and IMO her) joy. That however doesn't mean that you depend on her. That doesn't mean you plan with her.

3) I would suggest to anyone to fall at least once deep into a bluepill-love. It is one of the most interesting experiences you can get. However after you made the experience go on. Falling in love is not the only reason to live.

4) You are not supposed to be vulnerable. The girl wants to feel save with you. She doesn't want your drama and emotions. Sure it's a nice accomplishment to make an alpha fall for you... And then? Then the girl needs to move on as she can not get anything new from you. If you let her hunt for your love she'll never stop. That's another reason not to marry. If you marry she has reached the maximal level.

5) These memories are imo the reason to try it at least once. You can get over her. Almost everybody does. You remember the good times, you remember the bad times. You laugh about all and go on. Is it a problem to remember her?

The point of improving everything in your life is that you only have one life. TRP is an optimization strategy that has a wide range of applications. If you love your life without interactions with others, these will like your presence even more. It's easier to be sociable if you are selfish.

cashcow1 · 2016-10-31T16:47:06+00:00

Don't trust a whore.

But if you find a virtuous woman, falling in love is fine. Just don't make her your life's mission.

Plan_of_Action · 2016-10-31T16:47:32+00:00

Why not fall in love? Because when you love someone you basically take a hot iron and brand their name in your soul. When a man loves a woman he would carry her over open flames and watch his skin slowly melt off his body in order to protect her, and when she cheats or leaves him it's like being hit by a semi truck and hearing the news that your child has been murdered.

Love isn't a fucking game. It's designed to protect women and children from the most horrific things life and the world have to offer. It allows a man to happily and dutifully take bullets and knives.

Love is duty, sacrifice, honor, and when you allow that bond to take hold it never goes away.

Find one who deserves it. Don't play with fire unless you're looking for scars.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2016-10-31T20:00:09+00:00

Fall in love with yourself. Women are only a means to that end.

Most boys who fantasize about falling in love, are actually looking for a substitute mother figure to soothe their wounded egos. Women have zero interest in being your mother or your friend. Women's "love" is fundamentally self serving.

Men fulfill that role for themselves.

graffix13 · 2016-10-31T14:26:17+00:00

All you have to do is to let go when shit happens.

You make this sound easy. If you are truly 'in love' with someone and they cheat/dump you, this would crush you.

SovereignWings · 2016-10-31T16:15:22+00:00

Love is fine and dandy as long as you obey the rules. Redpill rules. Live in truth, acknowledge reality and don't let your "love" become more important than your frame.

Do that and you will notice it is a very different kind of love than normal BP romance shit. She is not on a pedestal. It may not last forever. You keep yourself strong and your eyes and options open so that you can walk at a moments notice. You provide some comfort and romance, but also need dread and game as well or attraction will wither.

Above all, don't marry the bitch. MAYBE move in if she is REALLY cool, but only after a long probation period and even then the cons probably outweigh the benefits.

And if you're doing it right, you can love her and still see other girls. My gf right now is a fiery little fuck machine who I typically include / show off to when other, hotter girls are showing interest. It's funny because I haven't actually F-closed anyone new on a while but she sees my attractiveness to other women and goes nuts. I apply a little comfort, a little dread and alot of good hard fucks.

1Maverick1 · 2016-10-31T17:52:48+00:00

I disagree. I think falling in love is very similar to engaging with an idea you have about something. Oneitis is when you've lost the ambition to pursue anything else other than that thing you are infatuated with at costly means.
I am not sure that is entirely assumed here. I think the idea of plates helps one recognize they are capable of being a high value person which attracts even more women therefore you are capable of being more selective. But other than that yes you could still end up dedicating more time to a chosen woman.
HELL NOO!!! lol. Kidding. It just depends man. All of our definitions of love are different. In a societal context between a man and a woman I believe it is where we are telling the external world we are dedicating our time in terms of sexual reliance to one other person (or people). The problem I think that causes is that reliance ends up being unhealthy in a society which highly regards the value of a woman's vagina. It is much easier for woman to get dick than a man to get pussy. Thus, if we close ourselves off to the external potentials then we might not view ourselves as highly as we could be.
You can be vulnerable. However, be selective about it. This is a part of you that the rest of the world doesn't get to see. The problem with vulnerability from a man though is that woman aren't looking for vulnerability. They are looking for guidance and strength. They want to be able to whine and cry to you and you don't budge. In fact, you push them back a bit and make them stronger. That is in the pure masculine-feminine roles.
I'm not exactly sure what you are saying here. However, I think what you are saying is that we are afraid to fall in love. And that's probably universal in regards to loving another human. But again, as a man you will want to fall in love with your life because we are meant to pursue much larger tasks. We were built and designed for this. Why do you think woman can make a living on their looks? They are the beauty in humans while men are the strength.

It's not all so black and white granted. However, I think the theme in what I am getting across is evident.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2016-10-31T20:03:09+00:00

You are neither alone, nor do you truly belong.

You don't need to be loved by anyone other than yourself. But if you don't, nobody else's love will ever fix that.

zedsdedforever · 2016-10-31T21:54:17+00:00

Dawg, you can do whatever the hell you want in your life. Do realize that Disney love that is sunshine and sprinkles doesn't exist. Real fucked up love is her wiping your ass when you are sick or her giving you money to pay those bills. Best example I can give you is Ice T and Coco. That shit is a RP relationship.

O_Son · 2016-11-01T02:26:49+00:00

I don't have anything to add to any of the questions except the fifth one. You essentially answered your own question with the feelings, or whatnot, that you mentioned that you're trying to internalize.

You said that no one loves you unconditionally, and most people aren't capable of unconditional love, even if they were would it be a good thing? Loyalty is a masculine trait, dying for friends, family members, and masters is something men do (not to say that women can't do that but it's not in their nature). If you find a woman that you love unconditionally it increases the chances that you'll overlook her faults, her past, bad behavior etc- it gives you rose colored glasses which can cloud your vision leading to poor judgment.

You should fall in love, heartbreak builds character, and most love leads to heartbreak; women are more in-tune with their animal nature/instincts, no matter how much she loves you she may branch swing to a stronger, more attractive, rich, or just different man who is around her at the time.

Redpill is the angel on your shoulder that says, "keep your eyes open for other women, because she'll always have her eyes open for other men." It's that seed of doubt that you plant in your own mind to override your instinct to be completely loyal to her and die at a moments notice. All of the greatest truths in life have a dual nature, RP is a place for men but it's essentially the integration of female dating/mating strategies for a male audience.

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Title	Why not fall in love?
Author	herewegoagaindammi
Upvotes	7
Comments	21
Date	October 31, 2016 9:56 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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