Hello, and just a heads up this post will contain some sexual content.

I am curious since I see a lot of posts about submissive women on RP, while I am a switch. I wondered what theories RP might have for the cause of my sexual orientation.

I am a 27 year old, average looking, libtard-leaning female. I have been in a relationship for 5 years. I always had fantasies on both sides of the BDSM coin but I did not really acknowledge it at first.

I lost my virginity in college and was perfectly content, even thrilled, being submissive for a few years. In fact, I was just happy to get picked!

I was (am) always very much into pursuing men, I liked the chase, flirting, and landing guys out of my league. I am very visual as well. Then, I started to be chided by guys for being too aggressive and told my sexuality was "like a man's". I don't think they mean't just high sex drive, I think they mean how I lust over / objectify them.

It's entirely possible my behavior was creepy at that time, and clearly I don't want to do things that make people uncomfortable. But usually I got this feedback from guys I already was hooking up with. However, it was clear that most men didn't like to be pursued, so I started to repress my natural instincts to chase.

I have also noticed a lot of other women have more narcissistic sexualities, where it's more about the man wanting them and doing stuff to them, rather than them wanting the man and doing stuff to him. My brain resoundingly doesn't work that way – this mindset doesn't even register as real heterosexuality to me but it seems to be very common.

Over time I started to chafe a bit with the imbalance. My ego felt bruised from the fact that default millenial hetero sex involves hard spanking, face slapping, face fucking, hair pulling, name calling etc, yet most guys would never be able to handle even a little bit of this treatment. It made me feel lesser as a person because the standards for me were different. It made feel like I wasn't able to participate in the active and creative parts of sex, I was just a prop.

Because of this imbalance I have started to really lose interest in submission as well and it doesn't turn me on anymore, which is also quite sad. I'm in a relationship for 5 years with a naturally dominant guy as well.

I have a few different theories about this but I'm curious to hear yours because from what I can tell, RP believes that women are always naturally submissive on a biological level.