Dick problems

mgfowler · 2016-11-28T22:35:34+00:00

Meditate, stop fapping and lift.

exscionewhuman · 2016-11-29T01:10:41+00:00

It's a negative feedback loop. You think about it which makes you feel the anxiety again, which makes you not perform, which makes you think about it more and so on.

Meditation will help the most with this. Learning to relax and focus your mind. You can do this on your own of course but the real test will be with a girl.

Find a girl you can talk to and set the frame that you want to take your time with foreplay. Then practice not paying any attention to your dick, pay attention to the things about her which you find attractive. Tell her you aren't going to fuck her until you are both extremely turned on. Worst case scenario your dick doesn't work again... and you just say you don't feel well.

If your mind wanders to your dick or that embarrassing moment and it starts happening again just breathe, relax, re-focus your attention on the girl or even your breathing. If the anxiety gets too bad it's ok to take a break.

You have to keep trying at it though, it won't get better by itself. You have to face those irrational fears and prove to yourself they aren't true. You have to get some positive experiences with sex so that you create a positive feedback loop instead of a negative one.

Good luck! "The only thing to fear, is fear itself."

PraetereoBonobos · 2016-11-28T22:37:41+00:00

Let me get this straight, you are blaming your self induced flaccid dick for why you are not spinning plates? You are 21 now, are you still drinking? What is your life style like? What is causing you to feel so inadequate that you can't get a damn erection?

help_droppings · 2016-11-28T22:58:03+00:00

Viagra. May even have a placebo affect on your confidence.

Willkuer_ · 2016-11-28T23:04:09+00:00

Do you have a normal erection in the beginning but you can't hold it or do you have problems to even get there?

hardbawdie · 2016-11-28T23:15:00+00:00

No issues at all with masturbating?

verify_account · 2016-11-28T23:20:41+00:00

You could have low test. Have you test checked by your doctor.

freeligious · 2016-11-28T23:25:29+00:00

If you look at porn, even occasionally, I'd bet just about anything that's you're problem. Stop looking at it completely and your problem will most likely go away.

redpill_disciple · 2016-11-29T05:52:24+00:00

I've taken girls home back to my apartment after a night of drinking at a bar or a party and I've been in your exact situation. You just can't get it up because of the alcohol. I've pushed women away from my bed by being honest in a funny way. "Sorry, but whisky killed my dick. If you're a good girl and go to sleep I'll fuck you silly in the morning before we grab breakfast." Works every time

That being said your situation is 100% mental. Women, at least with my experience, won't care. They know alcohol can do that. You're going to have to work on that ego man

aurelius_shrugs · 2016-11-29T06:18:59+00:00

Cialis.

If you have morning boners, the problem is entirely anxiety. Obviously, stop watching porn.

The reason for Cialis is to get over yourself.

Icanus · 2016-11-29T07:34:39+00:00

nofap, noporn, no alcohol, go running, do yoga
That don't work, go see a doctor

monetmanet · 2016-11-29T11:01:53+00:00

go to an adult shop and tell them the same story. They'll have something for you under the counter.

LordThunderbolt · 2016-11-29T14:44:28+00:00

Go on back page and book you a nice escort for cheap. Fuck her then go home knowing your dick works.

coolredpill · 2016-11-29T14:54:45+00:00

i suggest doing regular cardio if you haven't been

huge_gap · 2016-11-29T16:34:28+00:00

Hey dude.

I had this exact same problem. Was 16 and was drunk, couldn't keep it up and it affected me mentally for years. I got major performance anxiety whenever it was time to bang and would go soft. Had some really awkward and painful moments that deepened the scarring.

It's a process, but one major thing that helps is to stop porn altogether. After a few weeks/months your brain does a soft reset regarding how you get aroused. No fap also helps a lot with this. Once your brain resets, you'll find new energy and excitement with girls that you never had before.

Keep trying with girls along with no porn/no fap. After a while it isn't a problem. I'm 28 now and have been good for years. Rock hard you could break iron with this thing.

Casper3 · 2016-11-29T04:50:14+00:00

i'm telling you right now. No bullshit. Stop watching porn. read "your brain on porn"

Title	Dick problems
Author	Fabelmk
Upvotes	12
Comments	43
Date	November 28, 2016 10:13 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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