Unhappy that my LVX took my virginity because it feels like he won and I won't get that sense of caring guidance again I wish my final partner would have. How do I stop feeling this way?

ASeaOfQuotes · 2021-03-31T02:01:08+00:00

It’s hard sometimes, especially with the way society pushes for “losing your virginity” to feel special. I think it’s archaic and it’s branded at women to make them insecure. The goal should be letting go of the idea that having a penis in your body is somehow a life changing or a coming of age experience that deserves to be on a pedestal, because it doesn’t. That is one way to start to come to terms with it.

So many people never have the opportunity to experience that in an intimate way, either because of sexual assault, because of LV partners, or because they are a lesbian. My first full sexual experience was with a woman, but according to society I was still a virgin? Doesn’t make sense.

And keep in mind, FDS doesn’t advocate for ever telling your partner you are/were a virgin anyway. Your sexual history is none of men’s business. So please don’t place weight on an experience that left you dissatisfied and/or traumatized. You are a whole person, worthy of love and adoration, and no amount of intercourses or lack thereof determines your worth.

fierce_and_mighty · 2021-03-31T12:20:58+00:00

Dump him back. It doesn’t sound like you have fully done that yet. It doesn’t matter that he said it first, you just have to mean it more. I say you should write out all the shitty things he did on a piece of paper. Spill all your feelings onto it and BURN IT. Or rip it up, cut it into slivers. Drown it until the paper disintegrates or better yet, put it in the toilet and shit on it. Do your worst girl. Make it a point to reject him. Feel all that anger and sadness. But know deep down that you deserve better and he is your PAST. Who knows what good things are around the corner?!? The first step to allowing those good things in is to dump him back 😈

dkwantsdk · 2021-04-09T06:54:12+00:00

I'm 40yo and have had many partners. I promise you will experience caring guidance and sense of wonder many times in your life. Love and sex and trust are beautiful things you will rediscover over and over again.

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