Help; please give me reasons not to go back to an old fwb

FrozenExpanse · 2021-03-17T14:48:24+00:00

Ever been mid-O and had a random shitty thought pop into your head and just completely kill it? That's what's going to happen if you go back to your FWB.

Your disappointment in yourself will ruin everything.

My advice is to really get serious about self-pleasure and learn how to give yourself the awesome Os you deserve. Female masturbation (surprise surprise) has a heavy stigma around it as being dirty or just not as much fun as what a man can do. Well times have changed, and companies like Lelo exist!

ms_monquis · 2021-03-17T17:38:55+00:00

Are you interested in having a LTR with someone? If you are, you don't have time in your life for FWBs, I think you already know that. Even if he's done nothing wrong and has been perfectly lovely, time spent in that dead end is time you won't have to spend on things you find more valuable.

It's just junk food. You want it when you want it, but you regret it almost immediately! So think about whether you want to spoil your appetite. ;)

berrylikeova · 2021-03-17T19:15:37+00:00

Get a vibrator. Hell get a vibrator and a dildo. Go all in.

okeyda · 2021-03-17T19:28:19+00:00

Vibrator, dildo. If you need intimacy or cuddles, call a friend to watch a movie or something. All of that is better than mediocre sex without feelings.

2021-03-17T16:20:01+00:00

Don’t do it. It’s not worth it. VALUE YOURSELF AND YOUR BODY MORE. Value the beautiful powerful stalwart goddess woman you want to be in your future. She is who you want to be and she is who is within you.

He doesn’t deserve you. You don’t deserve this asshole. DECIDE YOU DESERVE BETTER, then act accordingly.

Said with love ❤️

ASeaOfQuotes · 2021-03-17T15:54:55+00:00

Sex, even great sex, is not worth the risk of STIs or pregnancy. No birth control is 100%, and STI tests for men do not test for every single thing out there. He can sleep with whoever, whenever, so there’s no guarantee the test is accurate a day after he takes it too.

Also, just in general, do you really want to be essentially a flesh light for him? Even if he’s doing the bare minimum of giving you an orgasm, he isn’t in love with you, he doesn’t care if an O happens, he’s only doing it to keep the sex available. I would not want to give access to my body to anyone who isn’t fully committed to me, and is practicing all of the same safe sex things I do.

Feeling the way you feel is perfectly natural, and I recommend what the other commenter said. Make love to yourself. What you may be craving is intimacy, not just orgasms, so take your time. Touch yourself all over, light some candles, put on some music, whatever you’d do with a man in the room, do it for yourself and learn to enjoy how your body feels and what it can do for you.

bananasplitchocodip · 2021-03-17T23:25:05+00:00

Get yourself off, duh sis

moxymoxalone · 2021-03-17T20:42:44+00:00

Think of him as a donut. Eating one seems like a great idea; it’s sweet and chewy and fun, right?

Until you’re done eating it and there’s oil on your fingers and it didn’t taste quite as good as you thought it would and you wish you spent the calories on something more substantial and satisfying...

Title	Help; please give me reasons not to go back to an old fwb
Author	mistakesweremade000
Upvotes	35
Comments	8
Date	March 17, 2021 2:34 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askFDS
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