How do I stop feeling old?

ShegoGreen · 2021-02-25T14:19:05+00:00

I'm so sorry you feel this way and wish that I could somehow help you see that your value simply does not diminish with age. One determines their own value simply believing that their worth is priceless. However, I can only imagine how difficult it is for someone with trauma to believe in their worth when so much healing needs to take place first. God loves you more than you can imagine.

Trauma is something that not all therapists can solve. I've heard many of my favorite Youtubers discuss their journey in finding the right therapist, and just like you, they have felt incredibly disappointed after YEARS of being dismissed. Know that you aren't the only one in that regard, and other people agree with you about dismissive therapists. I'm no therapist, nor am I trying to persuade you to not go to one, but maybe try to seek people who you resonate with you that have media platforms. I personally like this one therapist. Again, you don't have to follow her if you don't want to. However, If I could give you any quick advice right this instant, it would be to know that healing is a process that takes baby steps. I feel like you are overwhelming yourself and attaching other issues to your trauma. I feel like this is causing you to believe that there is no purpose in life.

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Ever since I was 5 years old I have always been fascinated by the passage of time. I've always understood and accepted that one day I would be 15, then 20, then 30, then 40, and so on and so fourth. Death and life where concepts that I thought of a lot and still do to this day. I found there to be so many other fulfilling things in life besides an obsession with something so ephemeral. I can't speak for anyone else, but my relationship with God is so important for me. I've found that being close to God has helped me more than than years of listening to self-help authors and therapists. There is just something different about having a close relationship with God. Something entirely different.

Society pushes certain "life goals" on people, and people believe they need to meet those goals at a certain age. College, dating, marriage, child-rearing, job raise, retirement. People also believe that they need to disassociate themselves from who they used to be in order to be seen in a different light. For example, I've noticed that once people hit around 18-20 they want to force themselves to stop being seen as a "teen" or "child" just because they are legally adults. But none of that is necessarily true or good. As you get older, you are simply an extension of yourself. Therefore, it's okay to not follow in this order of life accomplishments, especially if you have trauma that is genuinely holding you back because it effected a certain chunk of your life. To add on, FDS is a good outlet, but don't forget about your other outlets. Grow that small garden, write poetry (you seem to be a good writer). I'm here if you wanna chat.

pineycitrusforest · 2021-02-25T04:08:50+00:00

People who get married (especially women) have been shown to be less happy. People are happier when they have lots of friends. If happiness is your goal, work more on friendships. They don't require you to look a certain way, either.

ASeaOfQuotes · 2021-02-25T06:43:27+00:00

The idea that our “value” decreases as we age is a fallacy. There are so many people who have led difficult lives but found success in their 40’s, 50’s, even 60’s or older. Anti-aging is marketed directly toward women because of our patriarchal and consumerism based society.

What can you do then? Bring your goals in life back to the things you can control. A healthy diet rich in fresh foods, variety, flavor. A healthy body, gained by regular exercise. A healthy mind, by reading, learning, sharing, doing puzzles, creating. The only true anti-aging that actually works is a goal of health, wellness, and aiming for a life that is as vibrant as your circumstances can allow. I hope you realize whether you’re 25 or 75 you are a person who is deserving of the same respect, care, and love, at any age, that all people deserve.

EveSerpent · 2021-02-25T04:50:00+00:00

You’d do well to start by changing your focus. Reading a book for pleasure is a good start. There’s tons of choices on Amazon, literally millions of books to choose from. Try starting a small fitness routine, there are so many to choose from on YouTube. Learning meditation can do wonders for you, and I say that as someone who was never into it at all. Try mindfulness meditation first.

All of these things will help get you out of your own head. From there it will be easier to develop more interests. In turn you will be able to reduce your focus on aging.

It will likely seem daunting at first and it will take time. But there’s nothing to lose and a lot to gain. Give it a shot!

Title	How do I stop feeling old?
Author	Thejasminedragon1215
Upvotes	10
Comments	12
Date	February 25, 2021 3:07 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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