why is fwb and casual sex labeled as a bad thing in FDS?

2020-07-30T11:53:39+00:00

read the handbook

Wait__No__What · 2020-07-30T12:11:03+00:00

READ THE HANDBOOK

Salt_Satisfaction · 2020-07-30T12:16:23+00:00

It's because women are rarely sexually satisfied in fwb and because the man only wants to see you because of your body. If he has no feelings for you, it's harder to have the motivation to make you feel good and not focus on his own pleasure only.

Plus there is no actual friendship in fwbs, just some random texts at 1am for a dick appointments. It's another way for them to get easy sex without making any effort.

I've heard that the mods are on the fence about fwbs, some think it could work for older women who don't want marriage and who have enough experience to have proper standards and stick to them. For younger women who may not have a lot of sexual and relationship experience, it easier to get taken advantage of.

BabyGothQ · 2020-07-30T14:28:51+00:00

Being FWB is only beneficial to the woman when she’s in charge and when she suggests it.
Casual sex is more of a risk to women than to men, in a variety of ways.
Read the handbook.

NoNarcs_ · 2020-07-30T14:37:56+00:00

Get an expensive vibrator. It’s less of a headache!

sstena · 2020-07-30T18:45:44+00:00

From the handbook: why sex shouldn't be had so easy

If you are going to put up with the risk to your well being, possible pregnancy (small risk perhaps but it does happen), STDs (cervical caner too) and almost guaranteed lack of orgasm for dick with no guarantees of it being a good lay, you are undervaluing your health for some pleasure that might not even be there in the end.

Also remember FDS stands for female dating strategy. Friends with benefits or hookups do not conduct to a satisfying dating nor long term experience.

If you want a friends with benefits FDS style he should be investing money in the time he spends with you, pay for your uber, etc.

When men can fuck for free they do not put effort into it.

And finally, when was the last time you hooked up with a guy who listened to your physical cues, didn't cause you any pain or discomfort, gave you an orgasm, treated you with respect before, during and after, explored your pleasure with lots of foreplay, etc?

Hookups are a bad deal for women. I wish it wasn't so, I wish we could just fuck and enjoy life, girl. But reality means we have to deal with potential violence, a very high chance of pain and discomfort during sex, no foreplay, and if things go sour, the social standing that we have might be affected.

Those men might blackmail you, take pictures or record you without your knowing, etc. Seriously, all those risks to then end up leaving because the sex was bad? That's not empowerment to me but you do you.

NorthrnSwede · 2020-07-30T13:04:47+00:00

so if he judges me for it great, trash took itself out

No, not great. He gained social standing/value and you didn't. You took a much bigger physical risk as well. If you find out that you're pregnant in a few weeks, only you are fucked. It's an interaction that almost always benefits men and rarely benefits women. Read the handbook.

I have to say that your constant insistence that you are a woman makes me doubt it.

Editing to add that your insistence that if you don't like the sex you just end it and its no big deal also makes me question your gender. You must be one of the last sexually active woman on earth who thinks this comes without tremendous risk. MANY men have tried to stop me from leaving.

Edit to say that I have no fucking clue why OP seems to think that "knowing the dude" or "feeling comfortable with" a man makes sexual assault, violence, pregnancy, etc. unlikely. Sexual assault is most likely with men who know you. Duh. Either you're a man or an incredibly naive woman.

when a woman feels totally safe with a man

🤡

we don’t want to send that same message that my body isn’t mine to enjoy sexually how i want.

You're confused. You are free to enjoy your body. You are not free from the physical, medical, financial, emotional, psychological, social consequences of your enjoyment. Statistically, scientifically speaking, casual sex is not worth it for women. You sound like you think you're not like the other girls or something. lol.

Title	why is fwb and casual sex labeled as a bad thing in FDS?
Author	kycake
Upvotes	1
Comments	10
Date	July 30, 2020 6:42 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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