Married for 18 years, together for almost 20. Two boys 8 and 10.

To say that it's been an acrimonious split would be an understatement. More than two years into the divorce process and the end is just coming into sight. I had no idea that I married a covert narcissist and suffered through years of abuse and a dead bedroom before I realized just how unhealthy my situation was. Ultimately, I was driven to such a point of worthlessness and despair that I took steps to end my life.

Fast forward to yesterday when I learned that my STBX brought a new man on vacation with my children. I've never met the man though my children told me he's their "friend". Don't get me wrong, I couldn't care less that she found a new victim to such the emotional life from. What bothers me is that she's introducing my kids to her f*ck buddy before the divorce is finalized. She also told the kids to lie about him being on the vacation with them but I have the credit card receipts to prove she bought the ticket for him to be there.

I thought that custody was basically a settled issue but she recently had to get a new attorney who refuses to say whether they're going to challenge the agreement we've been operating under for the last two years.

Looking for a couple of things from you guys:

  1. Is her behavior something that could cause issues for her if she tries to challenge our 50/50 custody arrangement? 2) Any words of encouragement or advice I should hear right now?

Thanks for being an awesome source of support!