Anyone experience this and have words of advice?

Sad_Dad_0613 · 2019-12-27T20:16:23+00:00

Fake it is part of it. Do things you used to do but haven’t in awhile.

I walked away from a fight and took a bike ride by myself and it changed my entire outlook on my life and I knew in that moment I would be okay. It was like my fear of losing the relationship and her just evaporated. I realized that it was not within my control and the burden lifted.

For meeting others try bumble BFF or meetup otherwise just talk to people doing things you enjoy. You’ll be surprised how welcoming most people are.

CarGuyM1985 · 2019-12-27T23:52:45+00:00

You’ll get lots of good advice here, one piece I’ll add is join “meetup” it’s an app and random people will meet for all kinds of activities. Force yourself to get out of the house and make friends.

Yep you’ll be faking it till you make it for a bit, also set time aside to grieve, ie when you feel like losing it, tell yourself you have time set aside for later and focus as best you can.

Go to therapy as well.

Good luck!

MasterProposal · 2019-12-27T20:18:17+00:00

Read self improvement books, take action, trial and error,. You should buy the book “how to win friends and influence people” by dale carnegie.. This is a MUST READ for your situation. Communication and socializing is a skill and not innate by any means.

JohnnyMnemo · 2019-12-27T20:22:26+00:00

On Christmas? No sense of propriety, some people. No doubt she considered it as "giving a gift to herself"

Metacognician · 2019-12-27T21:12:14+00:00

It's not much, but if you are a PC gamer, hit me up on steam, my nickname there is Metacognician. I have a ton of buddies there that I talk to that I've never met in person. They are from Norway, Wales, Russia, the States, you name it.

zer0rrr · 2019-12-27T21:14:30+00:00

In the beginning you should certainly take it easy on yourself.

Maybe pick up a few books and video games. Those certainly pass the time. Go to the bar, comedy clubs... or other kinds of events. Come time you will find your old gusto again and quite possibly have met people along the way.

I haven't divorced yet, but I've given the lifestyle a spin. Checked out how I feel going out to the bar alone, or the movies or other such things. We are talking divorce here, so naturally there has been some withdrawing in the picture. I've enjoyed books, and going out (after a few drinks) I have certainly met people. I could repeat the latter and develop friendships, that was evident. But I just tested it out. Mostly I'm quite content being a bit of a loner, personally. But I'm confident about this aspect of the process.

playerknowmore · 2019-12-27T22:00:01+00:00

Is going back home not an option?

Title	Anyone experience this and have words of advice?
Author	zer0rrr
Upvotes	3
Comments	20
Date	December 27, 2019 8:03 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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