Alimony

obi2kanobi · 2019-04-23T22:36:57+00:00

I marvel that in this day and age we have to consider this sort of thing. Hence why I have no desire to marry again (my financial situation is real dicey but I know how to play dice) but I know there is someone out there who I'd be seriously tempted to walk down the isle with.

That said, you might be better posting on r/legaladvice who will then give you some pointers and, invariably, say "get an attorney to review your situation".

Getting married can be a beautiful thing. Hash it out with a lawyer. They can bring comfort to your situation. A "marriage certificate" is only a piece of (legal) paper. It has little to do with your love for each other. I'm envious OP. Congrats and good luck.

Edit: words

icemanthrowaway123 · 2019-04-24T00:05:18+00:00

If you divorce the ex wife will just get you with common-law marriage.

Alimony is a pretty unbeatable monster if you're trapped with it after 25years. Best option by far is leaving the US and never returning. Screw any place that still makes lifelong slaves out of men.

bartdivanov · 2019-04-24T01:46:33+00:00

Number 2. Divorce but stay together would not fly as he will be owning his ex anyways and the judge can force him to pay (sell the house etc). As for leaving the country: I was contemplating this for a while and I used it in negotiations with my ex (I got to pay permanent alimony for life). Eventually I paid her a ransom and I’m now free. Good luck!

bartdivanov · 2019-05-10T20:17:24+00:00

Also check out my blog: https://abolishalimony.wordpress.com/

More discussion on Facebook groups: Abolish Alimony and Alimony Injustice.

hardtruths2019 · 2019-05-31T14:31:34+00:00

Do you have a sister??? I never want to remarry partially because of the nightmares you are speaking of....but if I did, I'd want it to be a woman with your brain! Good catch hubs!

omenoracle · 2019-04-24T01:29:58+00:00

Move to Texas like everyone else from California already has.

SzDiverge · 2019-04-24T13:01:06+00:00

Seriously, go talk to a lawyer. Your attitude that all lawyers are scum is just flat out wrong. I have the same concerns that you do as I navigate a divorce myself - 24 years and she cheated. Fun fun.

I'm looking for a lawyer too and I am fearful that I will get a bad one of course. I know As need one though and it just makes NO sense to do something crazy like leave the country when someone that knows the law could tell you what would likely happen.

To be sure that you get reliable information, set up several consultations. Often they are free. The lawyers will answer your questions honestly because they are trying to get your business. By asking several, you can paint a pretty realistic picture. This kind of question could be answered right over the phone.

Don't make uninformed decisions and navigate this yourself.. TALK TO A LAWYER.

LosREV1 · 2019-04-24T13:03:23+00:00

We already did but decided to not pursue anything with a lawyer. Watch Divorce Corp. Good luck with your situation. Just looking to hear how others have handled their situations.

bartdivanov · 2019-05-10T20:12:14+00:00

>> 3: invest his retirement money in trust and other avenues that would make it difficult to access in the future.

Trusts cost money, for example $5-7$ per year if you create a trust in Belize for example. You would not want a trust hosted in the US as you plan to live overseas.

Like I said you need to trust the 3rd world countries and their banks, which might not be a good decision.

Title	Alimony
Author	LosREV1
Upvotes	10
Comments	32
Date	April 23, 2019 10:07 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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