Example of users that found one worth keeping

Heathcliff-- · 2017-02-14T16:57:47+00:00

You won't like this, but the only way to find a "unicorn" is to get them young, before they can be ruined by the system.,

Found mine when I was 17 and she was 15,just bumped into each other through friends and I chased her. She didn't giveway immediately and made me court her for a while (Green Flag #1). Commence dorky high school relationship, she was very shy and cutesy and had a lot of repressed femininity, I was the classic nerd beta. She was a virgin (Green Flag #2), I'd had some stupid flings before her.

Grew up together, met her family. Good dad, solid family. (Green Flag #3) She hadn't been fully brainwashed by propaganda and her friends yet. Managed to get to her before it took place. We stuck together, even when I was at my most beta, she still somehow didn't drop me and I love her for it. Loyal to the core, even when she didn't need to be. She's had plenty of opportunities to drop me at my lowest points, and yet she hasn't. (Green Flag #4)

I slowly became redpilled, latent alpha started coming out, her being naturally submissive and feminine took to it and wasn't scared away, slowly started absorbing my values. Eventually got to the point where she wants to be a mother and wants to have kids and build a home, and expects me to provide and lead the the family. We both became redpilled and now I have a smart, loyal submissive future wife with an n count of 1 and conservative values.

So I have a woman I can build my life with now, and she was just gifted to me by the universe. I thank the stars every day that I am this lucky and I know I should not waste the opportunity.

I know however that she is just as AWALT as every other girl and will leave me should my weakness get too far or I really fuck things up. She won't stick with me if I go full beta mode, and if I we get older and I turn out to be a real loser and other guys my age can be better providers, she's redpilled enough now that she knows not to waste her time and find a better partner. It's a double edged sword redpilling a girl, we understand the transactional nature of our relationship, so I could never blame her if she ran out on me for being a loser, she doesn't owe me shit. And if she becomes fat, ugly or super full crazy bitch mode, she knows I have options and will drop her instantly. This mutual realisation and agreement keeps us both on our best behaviour and at the top of our game, for each other. It's honest and pragmatic, and it's kept us going for 4 years.

I know other men are not going to be so lucky, you are probably past the point where you can find a young virgin and save her before she is ruined by feminism and the carousel. My girl freely admits to me that without me stepping in she would probably have followed the crowd and became just another clueless thot with no direction or purpose in her life. Her high school friends ended up as camgirls.

What you can do though, is find girls that are submissive, not too feministy (or just soft-feminists, who easily swap values in the face of an alpha guy) and have been in long relationships before. Women with strong ties to their dad and their families, have already held down an LTR, haven't gone through a slut-phase, and aren't ruined.

Submissive, "cutesey", "shy" girls are the only ones you should touch, as these things are all feminine qualities. The "independent", outspoken, brash women are too masculine and too damaged to make good wives. Stay away from 9s and 10s, they are almost certainly ruined. I know every man just wants a stunningly beautiful wife, but these women never, ever make good partners. They have been fucked by the system way before they even had the chance, it's pretty much a curse to be a gorgeous woman nowadays. Just plate a few 9s and 10s for a while and you will soon realise that they are all batshit crazy and there's no way to save them.

So basically, I'm actually co-opting the old bluepill advice of "it's what's on the inside that counts", because when it comes to picking a wife, this is very true. I'm not saying you should go for ugly women, there are definitely pretty and feminine girls (I'm lucky I found one) but lower your standards of beauty if you're looking for a long term partner, because you will never find good options at the higher scale. And we're talking about your future wife and the mother of your children here, a pretty face is never going to worth as much as how she treats you and your kids and the example she sets and the support she gives. That's infinitely better than a girl who was lucky enough to get big tits. Plus, all women grow old and ugly anyway.

covertpenguin3390 · 2017-02-14T16:58:00+00:00

Yes, there are good women out there. Hardest part is having the experience and foresight to sift out red flags when they come your way. My college girlfriend was for the most part awesome, and I had a oneitis of the gods for her. But in the early stages of the relationship I missed super obvious red flags that would come back to haunt me. Even to this day she hits me up behind her husbands back because it's just who she is. You need to find women who don't party and think that being a slut is wrong. My current one is an Armenian and absolutely the most loyal chick I've ever dated. Super old school in her mentality and it's pretty refreshing. Low partner count, eager to please at every stop. Has close female friends, that are all equally "wife type" material. They're extremely rare these days and I had to find one that wasn't white but they do exist. Her only draw back is that she makes things so easy and worry free I'm actually losing interest. Go fucking figure lol.

abdada · 2017-02-14T14:25:20+00:00

A woman proves her value to me in an ongoing process. I have certain needs that I can either pay a woman for or have performed by a woman who looks to me to provide for certain needs of hers.

As long as she's providing for my needs, she's worth keeping for the moment. If she slacks on it, I know I can replace her quickly with someone who wants to provide for those needs.

I've been dating for almost 30 years and in that time I haven't been single for longer than a day because I practice and internalize abundance in the dating market. Even as an older guy, I still know I can date a conservative, pretty woman who trusts my leadership decisions.

I meet my LTRs in the same ways: grocery store on a Saturday morning (less likely she was out drinking) or doing some fitness-related activity (paddleboarding, surfing, etc).

All my LTRs start out as plates and I tell them that point blank. A woman needs to prove herself to me before she can actually be The Girlfriend. Plates break, but they're easy enough to spin if you're a high value man, and women would rather share a high SMV guy than be monogamous to a low SMV guy.

You sound like you're a low SMV guy so work on that.

BusterVadge · 2017-02-14T14:34:29+00:00

I've been in a LTR for 2 years now... My advice is to find a submissive one, you won't be disappointed.

SetConsumes · 2017-02-14T16:56:16+00:00

A woman that gives you most or preferably all of your needs is probably worth it. An LTR should be easy.

bhouse114 · 2017-02-14T19:20:03+00:00

Bumble. Yes I know. But I met her on Bumble

She drove 4 hours and kid for her own hotel the first time that we hung out.

She is ambitious and has her own goals in life. She doesn't play childish games. She actually makes me laugh which most girls never do.

She follows my lead but can be independent on her own. She understands how to act respectfully when I'm not around and how to represent me

gucc15 · 2017-02-14T22:33:11+00:00

virgin women

Kalidane · 2017-02-15T00:13:12+00:00

A mate of mine has a very good one.

Hot, young, very helpful and generally adds to his life.

He is very high SMV, so this seems unsurprising.

The other key element though is that if she stops being well behaved he will cut her from the team and get a new one. She knows this. Passive dread game? He has never said anything about this to her but she definitely knows and this keeps her destructive impulses in check. She has too much to lose for a slutty girls nights out getting hammered.

SynfulVisions · 2017-02-14T14:41:08+00:00

I met mine when my idiot brother moved a friend of hers into the house. I done told him not to, the girl was on house arrest and he wouldn't be able to get rid of her when one of them cheated within the first month. (Yup... exactly what happened, but in the most hilarious way possible... trannies) Anyway, so Slutty Spice moves in sometime around February of last year. A childhood friend of hers comes to visit, ends up staying with us for a while. She and I start tagging along on their date nights. She's fat and slutty (just released from prison too), he's got green hair, bad tattoos, and facial piercings. It was just... funny to watch. Anyway the cute, sane one and I are getting along well and we just kinda fell hard for each other. It hasn't been perfect, but so far I think it's been worth it.

Title	Example of users that found one worth keeping
Author	cazzah123
Upvotes	8
Comments	36
Date	February 14, 2017 2:20 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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