How can I overcome my worst beta trait; indecisiveness?

QualityControlled · 2013-12-01T05:56:53+00:00

I recommend making and committing to a couple of bad decisions.

It helped me out a lot.

[deleted] · 2013-12-01T07:02:29+00:00

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bonobon · 2013-12-01T10:29:13+00:00

5-second rule. Basically you always know what you want but your neurotic fears talk you out of it. Five-second rule means when you have an impulse to approach someone or do something you act on it before your neurotic behavior can creep in.

Kilted_Guitarist · 2013-12-01T18:56:17+00:00

If its between 2 items/choices etc, flip a coin. What face you assign is irrelevant; as when it is in flight you'll know which way you want it to come up

abcd_z · 2013-12-01T13:55:03+00:00

Make a small decision and see it through to a goal that's easy to accomplish. Buy one brand of shampoo instead of another. Say "hello" to one stranger. Decide on a small five-minute physical exercise to do once.

Making decisions is like building a muscle: the more you do it, the easier it gets.

ajswdf · 2013-12-01T16:27:53+00:00

Most decisions don't matter very much. Unless you're buying a house or car or making a long commitment, any wrong decision you make won't really effect your life past a couple days.

So what if you go to a restaurant that isn't the best choice? In a couple weeks you won't even remember.

pcadrian · 2013-12-01T07:33:34+00:00

I think it takes time. For most of my life, I was very indecisive, and I always looked at others to take charge and tell me what I should do next. I found that once I had a clear mission (earn my black belt in mathematics), I became very decisive in that arena, and it spilled over in other areas of my life (with much help from learning RP inner game). It also comes with a complementary "don't give a fuck" attitude.

md619 · 2013-12-01T14:44:29+00:00

This is something that is a work in progress for me too. Here's what I've been doing:

Pay attention when you make descisions. Next time you catch yourself being indesicive, mentally call yourself out on it. It doesn't matter if it's for something as small as deciding what to eat for lunch. Literally think to yourself "You're being indecisive, pick one NOW". And then you just go do it. I don't know if that's the recipe for long term rewiring but it has been helping me so I'll keep doing it.

Clauderoughly · 2013-12-01T17:07:57+00:00

You need to start making decisions and owning the outcomes.

You need to make the decisions because you think it's the right decision at the time, not because it's what you think the other person wants.

I think you will really benefit from reading..

http://www.drglover.com/no-more-mr-nice-guy/the-book.html

Indecisiveness often stems from a deep seated need to make other people happy, so you are groping around to find the decision that you think other people want, rather than what you want.

HeadingRed · 2013-12-02T16:26:13+00:00

Working on this myself. Look into the Pareto principle to help your prioritize. Start with understanding that every decision is not equal- some are more important than others. This will help you see that you don't need to spend so much time agonizing over small matters. Over time you will begin to "walk it up" and be able to make decisions quicker and not be as worried as to the impact of a bad choice.

Title	How can I overcome my worst beta trait; indecisiveness?
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Date	December 1, 2013 5:39 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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