This has been society's excuse for segregation and discrimination for decades.
I remember, even as a naive and slow-developing kid growing up in the 80's. I used to ask naive questions... why do boys and girls have to use different bathrooms? why do boys and girls cant share beds? Why can't boys go to girls sleepovers and vice versa?
The answer was always the same... "Because some boys do bad things."
So because some boys do bad things, my entire life has to be dictated and lived differently? I have to be personally isolated from the only people in my life back then because "some men do bad things"? How does that make any sense?
And this gets carried on into adulthood. Men can't stay in family homeless shelters, they have to be kept in their own disgusting overcrowded pens. They can't go to certain schools, because they're only for women. They can't go to certain gyms, parties, groups,hangouts, etc etc...
Ever try to look for a room for rent on craigslist or facebook? There are some GREAT deals at some GREAT prices, but WOMEN ONLY NEED APPLY.
Why do I get treated like shit? Like a pariah? Because "some men do bad things?"
Enough with the bullshit excuses. We are not "some men". Yes, 0.1% of men are rapists, those are bad men, but why DO ALL 4 BILLION+ Men have to pay for that and be punished for that? spend their entire existence as "fallen sinners"?
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sounds like you had weird parents man. Normal parents dont blame boys for why you can't have sleepovers / have separate bathrooms, though that isn't even the legal reason separate bathrooms were made.
When it comes to shelters the issue isn't that some men do bad things, its that an astonishingly large number of women who go to places like this just end up getting assaulted in some way. If overcrowding is an issue you can push for more, you can even push for mens only shelters if you want, but were not solving overcrowding by opening up womens shelters to men.
>"I have to be personally isolated from the only people in my life back then because "some men do bad things"?
how are you isolated from 'the only people' in your life?
>craigslist deals
Jesus christ dude, that goes both ways, its not that men are sometimes bad so women don't want them living with them. People get along with and generally live better with people of their own gender, so they have a right to choose who they live with. I don't sublet my apartment to women. If there is a 'great deal' its cuz the man living there is taking on most of the rent, or a man/woman living there got a good deal. If its the former, do you expect a man to do this for you? why? and what does this have to do with some boys 'being bad'? That isn't the reason he wouldn't let you live there. And if its the latter than its not a gendered issue, again definitely not because some boys do bad things.
You are not a pariah when you are being treated the same as every other man, you were still welcome to have sleepovers with boys.
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hes not though. not sure what OPs parents were smoking, but most of us aren't being told this, even subtly. There has been a growing number of people acting this way in recent years, but to say thats what we've been told since kids, when its just your experience, is simply not the norm.
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Yes. As evidenced by more people pointing out your lunacy than agreeing with you.
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and yet mostly disagreements in the comments. Comments tend to be posted by people who actually read the whole post, upvotes tend to be given by people who scroll by, see the title, maybe the first few sentences, and have a knee jerk reaction.
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its maddening. Somehow he is a 'pariah' when literally all men are being treated the same way?
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