Adding value to yourself and those around you...

wendy-fly · 2014-03-31T00:45:27+00:00

Food is at the center of my life. I love growing food, harvesting food, shopping for food, preserving food, cooking food, feeding my loved ones food, and eating food. Growing up my parents were not 'food people' and still around. They are more likely to microwave something quick than spend time in the kitchen. Even holidays don't have big food traditions (grandma's cheesy potatoes or aunt Becky's chocolate cake) or cooking big meals. I learned to cook in college by watching Food Network and my passion slowly developed over time.

I have developed a food philosophy fueled by Michael Pollan's two books In Defense of Food and The Omnivore's Dilemma. In a world that get confused about nutrition and every new 'super food' is suddenly the holy grail of nutrition, and is organic better than pastured and what does free range mean anyway, his books have given me clarity. I highly recommend them for all eaters.

Edit: In case it isn't clear, I believe I add value to my loved one's lives by growing, obtaining, preparing, and feeding them delicious and healthful food. My husband is also a food lover and will geek out with me over the beautiful seed catalogs and will debate the merits of heirloom verses hybrid or organic verses local. It is something we have bonded over and adds beauty and depth to our marriage. I also do a lot of canning and preserving of seasonal produce for cost savings, increased nutritional value, and to reduce environmental impact.

Bakerofpie · 2014-03-31T00:59:55+00:00

I'm quite talented at making people feel special. I lost a couple of friends in high school and it really changed me. I don't take those I love for granted. When I care about someone I listen to their likes and dislikes and I remember them and use them later. Their favorite cake just because, if they're coming over I may buy a candle in their favorite scent and have it going when they arrive, if I see a pattern for a crocheted something or a yarn I think they would like I will whip something up for them. I'm terrible at giving gifts and gestures when I'm "supposed to," but I'm always thinking of my loved ones and how I can make them happier. This is why I have so few friends. I take the relationships in my life very seriously, so I don't have the time to let in too many people.

Lady_Motido · 2014-03-31T02:16:30+00:00

To my own life: I've always been a self improvement enthusiast. Keeping an open mind and studying the mind, society and nutrition have always been my thing. Back in the day I read a lot of self improvement books, some good some quite bad. The best ones were the early writings of Wayne W. Dyer and "The Magic of Thinking Big" by David Schwartz. RPW has been the best self improvement tool yet ;)

I'm always trying to make things better for myself and my family, it's my reason for being. I want them to have the best nutrition and the cleanest most inviting, pleasant, loving environment. I do hope that by doing so I'm setting good examples and so far it seems like I have, yay :)

I too am big on food and having it be a way to bring family together. I love gardening, raising our own livestock, canning/preserving/drying food etc. I've said it multiple times, I love homesteading and I think that by participating in doing so I add value to my life, my family's lives and the environment as well. I like to live "green".

I keep myself busy with learning new crafts that will eventually be given as gifts or be beneficial to our lives. Knitting garments, making soap and lip balms etc, sewing, painting and many other similar crafts.

These are I believe the top ones for me. This is a good post, keep 'em coming ;)

2014-03-31T12:26:33+00:00

Great post! This has really got me thinking, and I definitely want to give more/ add more values to other peoples lives on a regular basis. I haven't been doing so as much since I'm single, I've let that become an excuse to be more selfish. I live with roommates though so there's more I can do. I.e. cooking group meals, offering massages. I've also given friends cut flowers, baked something I know they like, made bath and beauty products for friends and family etc. I've really been slacking, but no more!

I add value to my life by working out daily, cooking and eating fantastically healthy meals every single day, getting enough sleep, meditating. All these things are centered around me and make be a better woman, but this post has made me realize how much I miss giving. And how much I gain by giving to others. Thanks again.

2014-03-31T19:49:22+00:00

I don't know about adding value but I do try to help people out. I do about six hours a week of charity work. I always make time for people whether it's holding a door or taking time out to spend time with a person and listening to them in a way they feel heard. I like to do the occasional random act of kindness like buy a meal for a homeless person or I once left a giftcard under the door of a young couple who had a baby and we're clearly struggling

I add value to myself by working on myself I challenge myself to think about what I'm doing and why I do it. I try to accept my failings and hold my hands up to any faults

2014-03-31T23:17:23+00:00

For myself, I take up hobbies and do things that interest me. I especially like to develop talents I currently have and wish to create new ones in the future. I learn quickly, so as long as I have a medium to learn from, I can do it.

For others: I strive to be a rock, someone they can come to when they have issues. I want to be able to influence others to have healthy and happy lives once I can safely begin working as a therapist. I'm always willing to listen to someone's problem and give advice, even if I may find their issue trivial or annoying--I realize it's still important to them and work with them on it.

LaBlondeFille · 2014-04-01T17:04:39+00:00

Cooking and baking always gives me opportunities to satisfy someone's needs and make him or her happy. I also try to speak French with my friends that have taken a year or two to help them improve.

I embroider pillowcases and knit every once in a while but really need to make it a priority. Handkerchiefs for men are a great gift especially.

Title	Adding value to yourself and those around you...
Author	wendy-fly
Upvotes	13
Comments	14
Date	March 31, 2014 12:39 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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