Swallowing TRP.

blondie_brownie · 2014-07-13T02:48:54+00:00

The first step for me was realizing how unpleasant I actually was. I was abrasive and cool and very devil-may-care and quite downright bitchy. And I thought these qualities made me attractive to men, after all, there were (beta) guys falling all over me. But after a failed relationship, I took a step back and really evaluated why the relationship had failed and what I could do to change it. In the midst of coming to terms with my personal qualities and outlook on life, I met my now husband. The second big step for me was relinquishing the illusion of control and fully trusting in my partner. It's something that I still actively work on, but I've mostly moved on to step three: become the best wife I possibly can be for my husband. Step three involves a very many things specific to my relationship with my husband, such as staying fit, cooking, making and keeping clean house, working part-time, planning events, helping with my husband's business, etc.

I think the steps vary from woman to woman and can't be done without deep introspection and a RP man's help. Swallowing TRP was difficult for me, especially when it came it giving up my negative qualities and fully trusting my husband, but the payoff is worth it. I'm happier and feel more secure and more loved than I ever have before.

1peter189 · 2014-07-13T01:53:48+00:00

I used to be vehemently feminist. I was upset by anything that told me to look a certain way for a man. I wanted to find a guy that liked me for my personality independent of my looks. I am an attractive young girl, so this argument was more from the exhaustion of only being seen as a piece of meat, not because I didn't get any attention. Then I became a Christian, but I remember reading Ephesians 5 and crying awful tears of anger at God for making this command and forcing me to live in subordination to a man.

Eventually, through a lot of dating and prayer and discussion, I came around to the submission from a completely different angle. Husbands should be to their wives as Jesus is to the Church: a save haven for comfort, a protector, a leader in righteousness, always faithful and presenting her as perfect. A wife is to her husband as the Church is to Jesus: subject in everything, a helper, a listener and faithful lover. (Ephesians 5).

While I don't find a lot of good in /r/TheRedPill[1] because of the rampant sexual manipulation, I do agree with most of what /r/RedPillWomen[2] stands for: women/wives turning back into the feminine creatures that we should be to fulfill one of the important halves of a romantic relationship by nurturing and supporting their men, as well as men/husbands stepping up and becoming the leaders they should be. RedPillWomen has a great emphasis on the value of a nuclear family, and the wife's and mother's role in creating the home.

I guess I do still carry a few shreds of feminism around because I intend on becoming a biologist some day, and I don't think my value is found in my looks or my ability to capture a man. (My inherent value is in Christ as an adopted daughter of the King, whether not I am married or single or a feminist or a RPW subscriber or a scientist or a stay at home mom.) However, I would never put my work before my family, and I appreciate the roles God put in place for the husband and wife.

[deleted] · 2014-07-14T11:08:30+00:00

I actually read a Cracked.com article that had nothing nice to say about The Red Pill. I got pissed and came here because I realized that feminism started out with good intentions (right to vote, bodily autonomy, etc) but has become a beast that is alienating any female that sympathizes with men.

tradmarriageftw · 2014-07-13T01:52:41+00:00

I don't fully consider myself a RPW, I believe in traditional gender roles and for the most part I believe in what a lot of this subreddit stands for. I was raised to be a good girl, I was told that marriages do not work when a woman is in charge, the man needs to fill the man's role and to protect my chastity. So there was no transition for me at least. Not sure why it would be different for guys verses girls, though I've never known anyone to raise their son to behave the way they do in that subreddit.

gabilromariz · 2014-07-13T09:35:42+00:00

I was "on the other side" but never a full blown feminist thanks to mostly my parents. Even though my mom works, thw house is kept spotless and she cooks almost daily and still holds an awsome job.

My dad taught me from a very young age all the stuff about body language with books and stuff because I was a very awkward child and that would help me make friends and keep them. From learning that to studying RP principles in disguise was a tiny jump because those books had whole chapters dedicated to the differences between men and women and how we signal attarction and choose mates.

I think all the "seeds" were there before I found this place. My friends called me "the homemaking fairy" for years and I just figured it was because I liked to cook and am pretty organized. I know see it as a lot more because I constantly love to plan and host events either at my place or a restaurant/cafe.

I found TRP first and while the tone shocked me a bit, I understood the goals and read up on it a lot to make myself into the best possible woman. And when I found this place it was all "this is what I've been looking for!"

I'l be making a gushy post soon but nearly everyone in my life is noticing the changes and complimenting me on it, from my new cooking/way of dressing and more pleasant tone

IllDoMyBest · 2014-07-13T08:21:13+00:00

I consider myself very lucky, as RP ideology has been ingrained in me since childhood (for as long as I can remember, but I don't know if people are born RP or not, hehe). Thus I haven't had to go through the 5 stages or any such thing people usually endure when first finding TRP, and I've been surprised at how much I already "knew" about RP ideology (SMV, the wall, CC and so forth).

In my case, my mother believes that had my childhood been different, then I could very well have been an unpleasant, stuck up and entitled person... so I'm extremely grateful for the childhood I had! I grew up in the middle of nowhere, and did all sorts of things with my parents and grandparents, since we all lived in the same house. This and many other elements contributed to both "good" and "bad" things when I hit puberty. The "bad" thing was that I felt alienated from most of my peers that mostly wanted to drink, smoke, try drugs, and have casual sex, but the "good" thing is that I never did any of those things!

Sarabear09 · 2014-07-16T07:01:07+00:00

Growing up and as I am growing older. My biological father wasn't in the picture after the age of 4 or 5, and my mom was a BP. She still is today a, feminist. I remember at the age of 8, my mom partying with her friends and singing women 'empowering" songs by Destiny's Child (like, Independent). She always told me/tells me that I "don't need a man to get things done" or "Men and women are not defined by any specific roles". At 8 years old I was used to hearing about how the world was unfair to women and so positive for men. At that age I realized my life wasn't like the idealistic families with a strong and protective father and a stay at home mother you read in books, see in movies, or how it should be. I was told "You can do anything a boy can do, and better".

So, by the age of 11 or 12 I realized men and woman have their own place, and gender roles DO exist. I accepted that and I'm glad I did when I was younger because I am now in a LTR and am genuinely happy with my man wearing the pants. It's too much stress and work for women to adjust anyway to play a different gender role that they are biologically not suited for. Now, when I see a relationship where the man is emasculated and put down by their woman I feel ashamed and annoyed for the woman and even the man. I constantly worry that I will become like those BP wears-the-pants type of women that it becomes a daily reminder of what to avoid. This is also probably why my mom and I do not see eye to eye. I'm "too" submissive haha. At least I'm happy now, and feel comfortable in my relationship. :)

Edit for word selection and to clear up that I do not blame my mom for anything. I am just explaining how I learned and accepted RP. She is a wonderful woman who played both roles because she was a single mother for most of my life. Now she is happily re-married and is a little more submissive but sometimes some habits can't be broke.

Edited again to clear up how I accepted TRP. I grew up questioning TRP at a young age because of my mom's views and not having a father in the picture. As I aged I began to accept it more and more by observing other relationships and men and women's role in the world. This helped me understand where fit in. My mom was too opinionated and I was quiet so I could never be like her and see gender roles her way. My mom remarried when I was 11 and I learned from the relationship faults. When I turned 15 my mom and stepdad's relationship had recently taken a hit and they almost split but then my mom finally realized how much easier it is when she just let him be a man and take charge one day, their marriage survived. It clicked in my mind I was right to question my mom's feminist views and I realized by the age of 15 that it isn't only easier but biologically men and women are wired a certain way. I understood that and accepted it as the way. I am now 18 and am in a LTR with a guy that is everything a man should be and I knowing my place.

MeowZedong- · 2014-07-13T10:52:29+00:00

For me, it took years. I never wanted to put someone before me, I never wanted to make sacrifices for someone else, and I never wanted to settle down. This only got me crappy men in my life. When I first met my now husband, I was a big bitch. I belittled him a lot and was very pushy. It wasn't until his friend (somewhat) jokenly said "god if you were my girlfriend I would have smacked you by now". That was the "smack" in the face I needed. I thought God even his friends notice how I am. I made the change and am working towards being a RPW and have gotten compliments from the same friends how they noticed I matured more. I realized I was unpleasant and didn't want to put people through that anymore.

Piranhapoodle · 2014-07-16T15:55:24+00:00

When I was young I always wanted to be strong and independent like the heroes in the stories and movies I loved. Later I found out these values were meant for men and not for me. They make men attractive but not me. After realizing and understanding this I consciously chose to adhere to my values and accepted the consequence of probably having to go my own way. I was angry with life before, but you can't be angry long. It's just how things work.

Title	Swallowing TRP.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	1
Comments	17
Date	July 13, 2014 1:06 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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