Exes

ayvyns · 2015-09-16T02:06:14+00:00

You didn't split on bad terms so why not

khous · 2015-09-16T03:01:58+00:00

When people say "he's your ex for a reason" it is so you realize that what happened, can happen again.

Do you both live in the same place now? Will you leave again? If you are going to breakup for the same reasons, I'd say it's not worth it and you are better off looking for someone with your same life goals.

Otherwise, if the distance stuff is over and you can both settle, sure, why not

miss-carried · 2015-09-16T10:55:14+00:00

I can't remember where I read it (maybe Duana Welch's blog), but from what I understand, rekindled romances do have a better shot if they ended for more circumstantial reasons. So I think it's worth at least investigating!

I will say, however, that my college boyfriend and I did this after college (same circumstances, I was moving away when we broke up). It turned out that we had underlying life philosophies that didn't mesh, and that was being masked by the location thing.

I'd say proceed, but proceed with caution. It's easy to get super intense quickly with someone you've been in a relationship with, only to discover / re-remember what the problems were. If you take more of a wait and see approach, you can get more information before anyone is too invested again.

Old_leaves_fall · 2015-09-16T08:08:20+00:00

As another poster has said, from what you have told us, you did not break up because of any problems in the relationship, but because you were planning on moving overseas.

If that is the only reason why you broke up, then I would give it another go, it may work, it may not, but at least you gave it a shot.

freebumblebee · 2015-09-16T13:47:13+00:00

Honestly, in this case, I'd say go for it. My general advice for dating exes is to remember why you broke up and keep in mind whether or not that's still going to be an issue for you. It sounds like it really was just circumstantial for you two. Give it another try, but remember not to rush into things. Just because you dated in the past and loved one another before doesn't mean you should rush the dating stage right to the moving in and getting married. It's been a couple years, and if you've matured and changed so much, maybe he's changed too--or maybe he won't feel the same way about the "new" you.

Title	Exes
Author	claudiuscrab
Upvotes	11
Comments	7
Date	September 16, 2015 2:00 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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